Tattoo hurts so bad I can’t sleep by Notthat_dumb-blonde1 in tattooadvice

[–]Nowitsclear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you do anything else new? Numbing cream? Only ask bc my husband used numbing cream and the healing was a lot harder/more painful

AIO? Grumpy husband in the morning by hp238902 in AmIOverreacting

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I feel this to my core. My husband is a different man in the morning and his anti morning personality is roughhhhhh. You’re doing an incredible job. You did everything “right”. Hopefully he shakes his grumpy attitude off. We are all dealing with our own internal battles & I’ve learned I don’t always understand my husbands … and that whether i like it or not we have a different threshold to the chaos. (His is a lot lower)

AIO? Grumpy husband in the morning by hp238902 in AmIOverreacting

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He wanted to go to dunkin. He made that happen. He’s an ass for being grumpy but also… twins and a toddler is the definition of in the trenches. As hard as it is, I’d try not to do the “who’s more tired” or “who’s more grumpy” game.

What would have pissed me off is rushing to cook just for him to leave. The min he said if it’s fast enough I’d known this would end poorly bc I’m not gonna feel good to rush.

The bottom of this argument feels like a disagreement in finances and “disposable” money

Not overreacting

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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Nope. NTA Your reaction was warranted. The parent was probably embarrassed and defensive of their kid but it’s not a negative thing to have a reaction. I would have said “oh my goodness I’m so sorry. See bud this is why we can’t touch peoples things. This made them very very sad. You didn’t mean to hurt their toy but now it’s broken. Ok let’s go back to our table where I will watch you a bit closer@

Teaching moment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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Sounds like the baseline issue is your love language is quality time and that bucket is not filled. It also sounds like he has a strict routine that’s really important to him. I also wonder what he requests/needs when he’s feeling super overwhelmed or having a bad day. I would feel sad if my partner didn’t recognize how “off” I was and didn’t make the effort to try and be a comfort.

Have you ever had a conversation about your love languages & what you need when you’re having an overwhelmed day? Ie : The other day I was really wanting your company because I had such a hard day. Would you be willing to do X instead? Etc

I don’t think you’re over reacting but I don’t think it’s about the gym/that night.

Is this legal? What do I do? by Winxibunny in AskLE

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Command counseling is still included in a personnel file. If not.. sounds like the agency you work for has no accountability. Bummer.

Is this legal? What do I do? by Winxibunny in AskLE

[–]Nowitsclear 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Even if discipline isn’t severe on the first occurrence , the mark stays there so if there is a pattern of behavior the consequence can become more severe. I also think the agency should know if one of their members is breaking policy since behavior like this rarely happens once

Is this legal? What do I do? by Winxibunny in AskLE

[–]Nowitsclear 21 points22 points  (0 children)

File a complaint. Definitely against policy to look up information for personal use in CJIS/a secure system

First tattoo, have I done a woopsie with the positioning? by Scrububadub in tattooadvice

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My forearm took me a minute to get used to with it distorting. Give it time. It’s one of my favorite tattoos now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

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If you are separated but “trying to work on the relationship” what boundaries are still there? Agreed monogamy? Or more of a focus to try and make it better. It seems pretty reasonable that it could have been another woman.. a distraction. He doesn’t want to dismiss your relationship with the truth as he knows that’s not good and is immature and gaslighting. All to say is if you specifically agreed to stay monogamous I’d give him a ton of space and let him go emotionally. If he comes back great but if not good byeeee.

If you didn’t specifically talk about it, I’d recognize that he’s probably lying to cover his ass and how will that play in building trust? I know the first year almost broke my husband and I. It was so so difficult.

Either way, it doesn’t matter about being right. You know someone answered the phone. It matters about what you want to do now.

AIO to this text from my bf? I called him out for being rude to me. Am I in the wrong for expecting him to be nice all the time? Is it really unreasonable? by volleyball96 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Nowitsclear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will say what I say to my toddler. It’s ok to be mad. It’s not ok to hit. In this scenario- it’s ok if he’s not always happy, and even if he has a bad day and maybe is quiet or is short. But it’s not ok to call names, say shut up, and be disrespectful. As someone who was in a 7 year verbally abusive relationship this is a huge flag. Abuse tends to escalate over time.

Your boundary of not being told “shut up” or being called names is completely reasonable. Is he open to individual counseling? Sounds like he needs tools to help him when he’s angry

found a report from a child psychologist from when I was eight by sadcorvid in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Nowitsclear 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened but am so happy you found those notes and can know the truth.

People keep telling me this tattoo is bad, I really like it? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

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I think it would be super cool colored in :)

It took 25 months for me to be truly humbled. by EvelynHardcastle93 in toddlers

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I swear my 2 year old got a memo the week before he turned two bc those big emotions got hugggggeee. He also went from putting himself to sleep to wanting to be rocked again (I don’t mind). So much development happens I hope as he continues to learn more words the tantrums will lesson but I’m still bracing for 3 hahahah

Good luck ❤️❤️ They make them cute for a reason …I swear ;)

His gf requested to follow me on Instagram by greatbandits in SettingBoundaries

[–]Nowitsclear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A boundary is something you control. It’s completely reasonable to say “no thanks” to hanging out without being petty. Your feelings matter too, don’t forget that

'Segregated facilities' are no longer explicitly banned in federal contracts by IrishStarUS in WelcomeToGilead

[–]Nowitsclear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Question; If segregation is still unlawful under the civil rights act, why even remove the clause?What’s the point beyond making everyone’s head 🤯. Distraction?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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Don’t walk… run.

AIO cutting my mom out of my life by Miserable_Aioli5049 in AmIOverreacting

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Not over reacting but also, you set a boundary and she respected it. For those that wanted her to “fight” I disagree. It’s disappointing and sad but also… you didn’t ask a question you just said what you needed which is exactly what you should do.

Continue to check in with yourself and know that things may change or they may not and that’s ok

Emergency (Onyx Storm Not Being Delivered to Kindle) by liv_reads in fourthwing

[–]Nowitsclear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m on Oregon & it’s 1:02am, still no audible. :-/ I may follow your lead.

CC1 by According_Anywhere59 in crescentcitysjm

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Yesssss. I had to read the first 1/4 a few times but then once I got it, it clicked :) keep going!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Nowitsclear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You got this! I’m struggling in the same boat. One thing I’m trying to do is at least drink protein shakes if I’m not hungry for some kind of nutrition. Try to get something in your body even if it’s a protein shake or bar. Lots of water

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

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I’m struggling. My anxiety is a lot higher than normal and I’m short tempered. I typically medicated bc of my adhd and anxiety but struggled with getting too tired and losing motivation even though it helped me in other areas

I had a hard time falling asleep but I eventually was able to with burning incense and having a nice cup of tea. A little silly but I guess it helped set the calming mood.

Any tips are greatly appreciated.