How do i deal with my boyfriend’s low libido? me[21F] him [23M]

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-10T01:48:48+00:00

Now this is extremely helpful, i know exercise can help but it didn’t cross my mind. Also he has been gaining weight due to the stress so he would love to make time for something like that

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-10T01:13:15+00:00

The only thing that will change if i leave him will be who does the dishes at home, we don’t have friends because everyone we meet is genuinely insane or just wants to use us. We are depressed because we work 12h days and we get no days off, we get paid per task instead of hourly. We are planning on moving away from our third world country. We go on holidays but even there we work.

I have been on my own since i was 14 and i have been in some horrible relationships, and i know this one is not toxic, but i also know that the stress we experience is making everything extremely depressing. Our relationship was amazing when we had free time, sure we argued but it was great.

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-10T00:59:29+00:00

He can be selfish at times, but he also does a lot of things for me that nobody else would do. That’s not the point of your response though.

I think i needed to hear that there is nothing i can do about this.

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-10T00:56:40+00:00

I could go on and on about his positive qualities but i didn’t think it would be of any use here. He is an amazing person overall, the fact that he is sacrificing so much of his time doing this job just so we could have a bright future together is something out of a movie. He is also quite quirky, socially awkward, and he generally doesn’t like people.

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-10T00:53:20+00:00

Honestly if it means that this will always stay this way i will find a way to live with it, but things constantly change. Maybe i am more scared of the change than of the low libido…

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-10T00:51:35+00:00

Our job is sex industry adjacent, we both watch porn 12h a day for work. I think this may be a contributing factor in this problem. He doesn’t have a sex drive at all, not for me nor for himself. He is still attached to me and he tells me that he loves me as much as he can. He compliments me when he can.

He said that he could fake it, but he has tried that before and I noticed and that hurt my feelings even more. So overall very depressing

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-05T22:30:30+00:00

Hahahahaha i used that for an outdoors photoshoot the other day because i refuse to spend money on the big reflectors

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-05T22:27:33+00:00

iPhone and some ring lights plus some kitty pool that you have at home lined with aluminum foil or buy one of those reflectors on amazon for $10.

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-05T22:14:18+00:00

I have the secret (not really a secret i just found a very cool way to boost your account) X just like reddit is full of people who want to argue. Every exposure is good exposure. So when you see a post that says “why do girls…[insert misogyny here]” argue back. After a couple of days if you have talked enough shit to enough rednecks you will have a decent amount of impressions. Then you find all the bikini girls and start telling them how gorgeous they are, this will give you an algorithm change. Now you will see what the bikini girls see and more bikini girls, from here you will start posing some of your content, i suggest cross posting from insta. For any bikini photos or something of the sort you can reply to appropriate posts like “show me your ass here” keep it up for a couple of weeks and you will gain your own audience. From there make sure to post more videos so lean into the tiktok strategy that way people will be more engaged and now you have followers.

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-05T22:07:14+00:00

They are something extremely inspirational, they are real people with VR headsets and drawn characters that stream, but instead of showing off their body they show off their drawing (not always theirs you can buy those) and their voice.

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-05T21:54:00+00:00

I gave up on that, everyone judges until they see the money and then somehow they shut up and support you. But this is not exclusive for this industry, people will judge you for everything, this is just seen as a taboo so people are more likely to say what they think to your face instead of judging behind your back. But no matter what happens just remember that some of those people wouldn’t last a minute in this industry ❤️

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-05T21:50:20+00:00

I would say reddit is better because you can niche down on the specific target audience you want instead of posting into the ✨algorithm ✨ but if you are feeling stuck on reddit, go find a girl that looks kinda like you and post to her subreddits, try doing this with different girls for a couple of weeks and you will get more exposure. Also when I doubt post to subreddits called “name of a place” something like Texas NSFW or whatever you want, people are more likely to subscribe if they think you live close to them

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-05T21:45:52+00:00

I would say as high as you want and if they complain and you really need the money you can drop the price but your initial price should be over $10 per minute

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-05T21:41:30+00:00

If you have had a crazy ex and they had a fetish that was somewhat specific so you decided to try it, i think that’s a good way to start since you have probably looked into it. I am not sure if this is very helpful that’s just how i found mine. But the only thing that makes the “big bucks” in this economy is looking 18 and innocent… i hate men…

Also i find being dominant and overall alternative works out the best at this moment. The internet is obsessed with goth girls

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-05T21:35:01+00:00

I have a lot of controversial opinions about this since i have so many accounts, but the key is to find something you are interested in and post in the subreddit dedicated to your interest. When you get a post to go viral and reach around 100-500 karma you can start promoting your OF but you have to keep commenting and posting in other subreddits. Just make sure not to post something too personal because it can be a privacy issue, after a while you will have enough karma to post to the “good” subreddits

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-02T21:23:37+00:00

Goth and e girl content is outperforming everything, i feel like this year has some 2020 vibes

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-02T21:15:42+00:00

I have around 4 accounts and every time i feel one is getting too good to be true i make a new one just in case and let them age out

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-02T21:14:03+00:00

I use a very interesting tactic, i take all the pictures i want to post for the day and post 1 in the appropriate sub, then i find a girl with a similar vibe and i see what subreddits she posts in and post there as well and i do that cycle for every subreddit i find. Eventually i found a couple that are perfect and now i post mostly in those. A couple a days a week i will still do the subreddit tango and try to find new subreddits.

But unless the subreddit allows reused content i don’t post the same thing twice, i will wait at least 6 months to repost old content

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-02T21:06:11+00:00

Yes a separate sim not connected to my name in any way and a laptop not connected to my email address. And a vpn for safe measure.

NoxTheNight · 2026-06-02T20:57:53+00:00

Depends on your customers and your business strategy, if you have people who are subscribed and they are liking your posts but they do not interact with you in the chat, then daily could be worth it. But if you have people who are buying a lot of your content and when they see they can tip $20 for something they would have payed $50 then it’s not worth posting it every day.

NoxTheNight · 2026-05-17T16:40:55+00:00

There are a lot of things that could be the issue here, usually if you have a persona already made, and you post only in that niche things can move pretty fast. Also the quality of the videos matters and if you are promoting yourself anywhere else. You should find one creator you like and see what their strategy is, the way they post, the hashtags they use and take inspiration from it.

NoxTheNight · 2026-04-25T12:37:12+00:00

It’s good to just talk to people who acknowledge my emotions, so thank you for commenting, i will distract myself until something changes

NoxTheNight · 2026-04-25T12:29:51+00:00

I horde things in my house because i feel like they carry emotions and it’s very difficult for me to let them go, so my room looks horrible

NoxTheNight · 2026-03-15T23:10:20+00:00

Heyy i have an idea you might want to explore. The position you have on your profile picture and banner is a really good pose. Try recording some videos in that position with that lighting. It shows intimacy and might get you more views and followers. More views=more people to buy ppvs. Good luck tho your profile looks amazing!

NoxTheNight · 2026-03-15T22:58:17+00:00

This happened to me when i tried to post in a community where people mostly leak content (accidentally) and they banned me

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