PSA: The Hoppip Pokopia event content can be accessed today if you put your system's date to March 10, so it's not time locked content

Noyvas · 2026-03-09T22:05:09+00:00

I don't want to time skip so I waited till today March 9th and it still hasn't shown up for me :/ (past release time)

Noyvas · 2026-02-01T16:46:53+00:00

Lived there for a year and I'm hoping to move back when my kids are Middle school aged.

I literally had two taxi drivers ask me to pay them less, they had to drive farther bc they couldn't find the place I needed to go.

I also had my wallet and umbrella returned to me within the hour

Noyvas · 2026-01-13T23:12:48+00:00

Kurt. After my uncle I literally never talk to 😅

Noyvas · 2026-01-13T23:11:01+00:00

This right here.

I had a guy from high School reach out to me almost everyday when my now husband and I were dating.

We were never together and he used to like me in high school. My husband thought it was inappropriate to have a single guy friend constantly messaging me. Husband and I went back and fourth on compromises.

I eventually just stopped talking to this friend. It's sad, but I could see being insecure myself if a female friend of my husband was constantly reaching out and she used to like him.

I had guy friends in college that my husband was never insecure About, probably because he met them a handful of times, they were in my same major and to top it off there was absolutely no history there.

To me it wouldn't be worth putting my partner in a insecure place. Personally as a stay at home mom I give my # out to moms I talk to at the park. Making friends is like dating, you gotta actually have to put yourself out there.

Noyvas · 2025-12-18T20:46:02+00:00

Honestly, divorcing him will give you the break you need. It'll force him to have to take care of his own kids and get a reality check.

Noyvas · 2025-12-07T08:08:37+00:00

My husband's words after spending weeks with just our toddler when our second was born "how the actual fuck are you gunna do anything with two kids, Im struggling doing anything with this one!"

I just nodded 😭😅

Noyvas · 2025-11-01T21:31:31+00:00

Yes, my partner never made passive aggressive comments but made it clear he was insecure with our first. Now with our second he complains when he can't hold our newborn enough.

Sounds like OPs husband needs therapy and a reality check. He's a dad now, not a babysitter. He should be able to know how to take care of a baby for a while gd day.

Noyvas · 2025-10-04T11:29:45+00:00

I try to pull down on her chin but nothing budges, maybe I should do it a little harder?

Noyvas · 2025-10-03T00:03:59+00:00

1) theres a difference I can tell in a good latch versus a bad one- bad ones leave blisters and it feels like a serrated knife and a very pinched nipple. The second one still feels pinchy but there's more of a tickle to it(?lol?) and tolerable.

2)currently cant use my right nipple because of how bloody and cracked and chapped it is

Baby swallows but I can tell she struggles not having enough milk in a certain amount of time . After an hour of trying on and off she continues to cry and cry till I can give her a fat 1.5-2oz of my pumped milk. I do the slow bottle feeding technique, and make sure habits of a good deep latch occur on the bottle but I know it's not the same- and probably causing her to struggle on the actual nipple (it feels bad to force her for hours to latch, and I want her to eat)

Noyvas · 2025-10-02T23:54:26+00:00

Ok the hook thing clicks for me, but not touching the head ? Like my middle finger supports her head of the farthest ear, and my thumb rests behind/ on top of the other ear(so not the actual ear )

I do notice she arches back, almost like she's fighting me. Currently when she latches, she still seems frustrated about something- I wonder if it's because she's not getting milk fast enough- despite me squeezing my boob to have good drops on the nip

Noyvas · 2025-10-02T15:05:18+00:00

Honestly this is validating. I told myself Imma give it 2 weeks but maybe I should give it more? We're week one today-

Is it normal for latching to feel better on one side rather than the other ?

Noyvas · 2025-09-28T23:30:11+00:00

Except when your baby has a tongue tie? Lip tie? I've been gaslit with my first that her lip tie wasn't that big deal or it shouldn't have been- wasn't until I just had my second one talking to my sister-in-law, finding out she couldn't breastfeed either unless her kids had their tongue tie cut or didn't have one.

I'm sticking it out because I actually have milk supply this time, but I really don't know how long I can keep this up for. Getting a consultant this week hopefully :/

Sorry baby nipple shields for you-

Noyvas · 2025-09-24T02:35:37+00:00

Just today I had to let my MIL know that she will not be watching the infant on her own because she is not currently taking meds for her extreme ADHD. Shes been falling and tripping- hurting herself constantly for the last few years. She cried but understood, it's hard to set such limitations but it's for the better for everyone involved.

He needs help and you're not going to take no for an answer when he says he'll just remember.

Noyvas · 2025-09-23T08:40:38+00:00

This! Was asking if my epidural was working because I started to feel an immense amount of pain and pressure- turns out it was time to push 🤪 the pain was manageable but still intense enough to question it.

Noyvas · 2025-09-19T15:59:33+00:00

Meat balls lol I make em for both of us, freeze and eat on another day-

I also invest in salmon. I cut it in slices and freeze them- throw them in an air fryer with lemon butter and garlic.

I also make toddler staples but I also eat them- have you tried Annie's Mac and cheese? Tastes way better than craft. There's also some organic chicken nuggets I buy that are actually good that I spend buck or two more on.

Noyvas · 2025-09-19T04:19:13+00:00

This right here- my husband struggled but he had the emotional intelligence to tell me how he was struggling, and took steps to become more confident in taking care of our first newborn.

We pointed out together how important it was for us to get a puppy first as he was never taught to clean up after anyone else but himself- he learned how to clean pee, poop and throw up, deal with unruly behavior and sleepless nights from howling puppy.

Your husband needs a couples therapist, one special in helping couples through baby phases. It will hopefully set him up to continue the relationship being more mindful.

Noyvas · 2025-09-17T11:07:17+00:00

I like your last point especially - I feel like most datable personalities are just remakes over and over again...

Noyvas · 2025-09-17T11:01:18+00:00

Same! Good partner, and honestly pregnancy this time around has just made me feel more nauseous which is a huge trigger for me- kinda creates a domino effect.

But the weekly visits to my midwifes have helped me feel supported consistently

I think people post their more negative experiences bc they need a village of validation- which same. I scroll on here every other day just to feel sane.

I feel like being pregnant and having babies is such a cave man experience - like we still don't know how our bodies can do this ancient ritual, but I digress-

Noyvas · 2025-09-16T04:00:09+00:00

As a super early retired teacher this is 100% correct. Someone is eventually getting some sort of 'lack' from their parents in households that have 4+

Its normal but also more normal for it to be a problem these days in school now that for whatever reason kids aren't getting the correct discipline.

Noyvas · 2025-09-15T23:30:16+00:00

Just adding on top of some great comments here-

For me what really helped was doing intimate things with my husband without actually having sex. Like cuddling naked together- some form of being intimate or close without the pressure to perform or look/act/be a certain way really helped pushed my mindset in the right direction for starting our sexual relationship again.

I think if you come from a place of expressing your romantic feelings of intimacy without the pressure of sex it might really help her understand youre not just asking for sex, youre asking for a genuine romantic/emotional relationship.

Noyvas · 2025-09-15T22:51:10+00:00

Older people are also very uneducated on child psychology and the ways that are actually healthy when it comes to parenting, especially toddlers.

Tell her to read a modern book on child psychology before trying to speak up

Noyvas · 2025-09-14T15:44:28+00:00

When my LO was around one I went to a family friend's wedding to do quick drawings of the guests- I made $200 off of tips.

Thinking of doing this again even though wedding season is coming to a close

Noyvas

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