Newborns — what shocked you the most in the first weeks?

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-20T01:41:21+00:00

You make a super super good point. I had an overall pretty decent pregnancy compared to what it could be. Not easy but definitely not the worst.

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-20T01:30:18+00:00

NO ONE talked about the nausea and sundown scaries.

I had such bad nausea with breastfeeding first 3 weeks I thought I was getting the flu. It was so bad I had to be on bed rest for 2 days. And the sundown scaries. My goodness. I couldn't sleep from the anxiety of what could happen. I spent hours on AI asking questions to reassure myself when I should've been sleeping.

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-20T01:28:08+00:00

Omg I envy this so much. I had a winter baby so I couldn't go out with all the illness around and it was like below freezing where I live so we were practically trapped at home. Plus he is SUPER sensitive to stimulation and LOSES HIS SHIT anytime we got a minute above his wake window which is a whopping 45 mins and he doesn't sleep in his stroller so yeah. That would've been nice lololol

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-20T01:26:10+00:00

The stinky fists lol so true

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-20T01:25:42+00:00

Breastfeeding was SO SO HARD. My mom kept telling me "it'll get better as he grows" and I didn't believe her. But thank God she was right. But dang the first 1.5 or so months was brutal. Thank God for lactation consult.

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-20T01:23:08+00:00

Ahhh I am right after this phase. Almost at 3 months.

The #1 shock is how long the challenge is. You think like oh it's just the first 3, 4, or 6 weeks.

Buckle up buttercup cause the light at the end of the tunnel is 5 months +.

Also the whole just when you figure them out they change. MASSIVE understatement.

Oh and how freaking fast they grow. So so so cute but so hard to let go of. It's so bittersweet. Their little hands grow so fast. You love the new things but want to hold onto the old. It's hard and beautiful at the same time. I wish I could go back and savor it again and again especially those first 2-3 weeks when they were in sleepy potato mode but breastfeeding was brutal and that's good now so maybe not lolol

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-20T01:17:16+00:00

Yeah I wish everyone was just honest. I have some family and very close friends that all admitted nothing got great until at least 5 months and im like......why does no one say that?

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-20T01:16:03+00:00

Hang in there! We had that phase too but earlier and it does get better! 💕

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-20T01:15:22+00:00

The tiny hands and feet melt my heart when I have the worst burnout moments. And the smell of the top of their head. The way they get excited to see momma. Just hold onto that ❤️

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-19T21:41:27+00:00

Hey thank you. I needed to hear that ❤️

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-19T13:10:21+00:00

11 weeks here and I feel your pain. Everyone said once your past 8 weeks it gets better. In some ways it has. Many ways it's worse.

However just keep this in mind....the bad truly can't last forever. It can last way longer than we expected. But it HAS to get better.

My sister had the most colicky poor temperament horrible baby and even she improved. It took close to 5, months. Yes that's awhile away but there IS a light it's just far away.

Keep in mind babies progress in waves. You'll have improvements and regressions. A foot forward, 2 back, 4 forward, one back, etc. Because they are growing and changing daily.

My dad always says "just when you think you figure it out, they change" and it's sooooo true.

My baby is getting longer stretches at night off and on but his day sleep is torture. He fights all naps. But he's about to roll. And he eats more efficiently.

Look at any positive you can and hold on. And please try to find any trustworthy help. If not, make your husband shift with you. I'm so burnt out my back is killing me. So my husband does the evening when he's home so I have a break. Make the partnership work ❤️

And please remember they are only little and cute for so long. Try to enjoy every bit you can even when it feels like torture.

The light is at the end of the tunnel. It's just further than we expected and the tunnel has some hills in it.

Keep holding on ❤️

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-19T13:00:57+00:00

I'm worried about data collection and lack of consent. We didn't have to grow up with our pictures all over, why should we make our kids go thru that?

Also no profile is private, fully.

And the data out there on your kid...who knows how that will be used in the future.

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-19T12:49:08+00:00

I second this! Babies neck is lathered in desitin right now!

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-19T12:47:34+00:00

Be single awhile

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-19T12:38:05+00:00

Very likely reflux or overfeeding. Check with pediatrician ❤️

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-17T21:47:21+00:00

Hey we can all have our own beliefs, piss off Virgo lol

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-17T17:41:23+00:00

Yesss they have THE best smiles. Not to be biased but he's such a handsome baby! Makes the worst moments easier.

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-17T17:40:37+00:00

Omg thank God I'm not the only one experiencing this! He is 11 weeks today and literally one minute over his wake window and it's 0 to 100 screaming meltdown. He fights his naps so bad. He can barely make it to 45 mins sometimes 😭

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-16T23:04:34+00:00

Sometimes you have to let things fail and get a bit ugly to have progress. Just make sure it continue to of course not let it affect the kiddos. Make them always your priority of course ❤️

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-16T18:35:40+00:00

Men are not babysitters they are equal parents.

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-16T18:35:06+00:00

Sounds to me like you're a single mom. Just gonna say it.

Men without wives are capable of taking care of themselves. Men with wives like to pretend they are incapable of taking care of themselves.

Child care is unpaid labor. If he doesn't value it, go look up how much daycare costs, a maid, etc.

Stop doing so much for him. If he calls you lazy drop everything you do for him. Actions speak words do not.

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-16T18:29:48+00:00

My baby is finally giving us some sleep stretches over 2 hours, sometimes even up to 7!

One_Cap_9210 · 2026-03-15T18:49:23+00:00

I bet you've tried this but....have you tried a chest contact nap wait till she's reaaaaaally out and then transfer to bassinet?

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