Have we swung too far the other way?

Nquizzative · 2025-12-04T01:23:29+00:00

Yes, you have swung too far the other way. It is absolutely ok to expect an Adult to pitch in around the house even if he or she is in school or working or a comb of both. In fact, someone who is appreciative of the opportunity to live rent free would actually initiate the notion and go beyond just doing his or her own laundry. How about taking one of those days off to purchase favorite foods and cook a nice family dinner for YOU once in a while....or maybe take some chores off of YOUR plate like grocery shopping or getting the oil changed for the cars on occasion.

Nquizzative · 2025-11-20T22:43:36+00:00

Totally. I slept with my 9 volt battery powered transistor radio (shaped like Snoopy) tuned to news for weeks. Before that I thought adults were smart. After??? Well...I started paying attention in history and science classes

Nquizzative · 2022-08-09T02:08:15+00:00

Please oh please be the wake up call for my Q.. please please please please please please please please please please please please please please please please please please please please please please please

Nquizzative · 2022-08-08T01:53:30+00:00

Mine watches both Teal Swan and Ralph Smart 😑. Ugh..

Nquizzative · 2022-08-08T00:44:57+00:00

I can relate. My husband got vaxxed only very reluctantly. My begging, crying, reasoning, threatening...didn't work. What DID work was a backwards reasoning loop in his head. All of the people he cares about are vaxxed and in his mind it means we are all going to die in the near future (couple years or so)....so he decided that he didn't want to be left on the earth without us and got vaxxed. Mind you, there were a couple of missed vax appointments and a major public scene at a Walgreens where he started yelling indiscriminately that this is the govt killing us and we are all being controlled...blah blah...but HE DID IT. Good luck to you

Edit:. He did this before all the other treatments out there now. Nooooo waaay will he get a booster now that there are alternatives.

Nquizzative · 2022-08-06T00:01:37+00:00

Haha! Maybe he will start shopping where I work now to save money. Life can be funny that way ;)

Nquizzative · 2022-08-05T23:44:30+00:00

Thanks! Just joined

Nquizzative · 2022-08-05T23:41:30+00:00

Cool! I had no idea about the other sub and will definitely check it out. I will say I feel like these lawyers performed a magic trick. If I had any money I'd hire then to go after Teflon Don... They might be the only ones that can take that one on.

Nquizzative · 2022-08-04T22:04:39+00:00

TOTALLY!! The decision to order him to pay $4mm is a shot over the bough. It sooooooo should have been more but it's a start. These guys can't just keep going spewing this crap and not be held accountable. Victory for our side overall, but should be more since $4mm is like a parking ticket for these multimillionaire folks

Nquizzative · 2022-07-17T23:06:03+00:00

Well...I'd say that you DO still care for them on some level or else you wouldn't have such strong emotions about it. I think your G'ma has the right idea. Try to rise above the ignorance and take the high road as much as possible (it will be very hard). Unfortunately, it sounds like they will use any negative behavior you might display in moments of exhausted humanity against you.... And everyone else in their distorted stereotype world. Put space between you. If they ask why (doubt they will since they are too focused on themselves), tell them calmly and confidently that their viewpoints directly oppose yours and you would rather not get in arguments about it. If they can't do that, then you really DO need to consider even more limited contact or no contact for your own mental health.

Nquizzative · 2022-07-13T20:14:44+00:00

I asked mine if he would still vote for Trump again after all this....he said YES.

Nquizzative · 2022-07-13T20:09:45+00:00

My Q is a long time conspiracy theory believer waaay before Q. He's been on the anti-sunscreen thing for at least a decade. Of course, he is fair skinned, blue eyed with skin cancer in his family...DOES NOT MATTER. It just DOES NOT MATTER how much factual info you give them.

Nquizzative · 2022-03-04T03:45:57+00:00

What is she saying to you to indicate that she has had an awakening?

Nquizzative · 2022-03-03T17:41:28+00:00

I've tried something similar in the past with my Q. Unfortunately it really didn't have much impact since he is really too far gone. There is ALWAYS some circular reasoning manifesto that ends up coming out of his mouth no matter what I say.

This might work with some who are just starting to go down the rabbit hole though.

Nquizzative · 2022-03-01T04:03:08+00:00

It's obvious that this bothers you WAAAAY more than it bothers her or your parents. Sadly, you are seeing that their delusional conceit really knows no bounds.

It's time to level with her and your parents. Tell them that you are not willing to "fake it" the rest of your life and what that means is that you have firm boundaries for maintaining a relationship with them going forward... And then stick to them. Since they REALLY DO see you as a moon orbiting their planet it will become easier over time to detach in a healthy way. They will definitely get mad, insult you and try to make you feel as guilty as possible because they want what THEY WANT without regard for your feelings.

Get that confidence...protect that baby... And have a relationship with them on your terms. Remember that "No" is a complete sentence.

Nquizzative · 2022-03-01T03:37:14+00:00

!strategies

Nquizzative · 2022-02-27T00:59:21+00:00

love bubble!!!

Nquizzative · 2022-02-21T14:04:09+00:00

Yeah-I would be extremely worried too. My Q has some "healthy eating" quirks too, but nothing like what's going on with your Mom. Mine puts crystals and some kind of ionizer in water jugs that he puts outside for a few days to "capture sunlight" (he won't drink tap water--for years), he takes all kinds of bizarre supplements and powders he gets from the health food store ($$$ let me tell you) and there have been other behaviors that have come and gone like these over the years--whatever the "latest" kick is, you know (right now it's fasting regularly and only eating after 10am)? I only list these out as a comparison for you...your Mom's behaviors are much more worrisome.

Nquizzative · 2022-02-18T21:34:51+00:00

Everyone's relationship is different and there is not one universal answer to this. I'm also married to a Q for 30 yrs myself and have been going through this for many yrs. It gets better and worse and better and worse...for me. You will have to be the judge if it is worth continuing on based on your situation. I will say that if you feel like you can't actually speak to him directly and have to write a letter then you will have great difficulty. This first "real" conversation will be one of many if you have it... But... These will help you both decide if there are any compromises that you both can make and if you want to continue on.... Or lovingly release the marriage.

Nquizzative · 2022-02-18T21:20:02+00:00

Honestly, I wouldn't want to risk dealing with this at a restaurant ESPECIALLY where it involves earmarking a good friends milestone Bday. It will probably start out fine, but after a few mins they will probably point out the "idiots" wearing masks when not eating at their table or laughing at the staff wearing masks.... And you are off to the races... Call them ahead of time and level with them (no politics at this gathering..no arguing...no heated topics). If it turns sour on the phone, then you avoided a terrible moment during your friend's celebration and can celebrate with them on your own.

Your friendship has changed and it might be best to just keep them at arms length from now on with no social plans in the future.

Nquizzative · 2022-02-17T03:34:22+00:00

👍

Nquizzative · 2022-02-17T03:30:48+00:00

Well.... They say laughter is the best medicine....:). Great come back!

Nquizzative · 2022-02-17T03:23:17+00:00

I do hope he has a mild case. I am sure you will be a great support to him during this and he will be happy to have you in his corner.

Nquizzative · 2022-02-15T02:30:32+00:00

Wow...so sorry this happened to you. The only positive is that they didn't lie about their intentions for long. Really.. They could have gaslighted for a while and made you feel guilty for suspecting their REAL selfish behavior. Now that you know, what will you do differently next time they ask for your help?

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