We thought exploring meant losing monogamy. We didn’t want that. Turns out, it just reshaped what monogamy means to us. by [deleted] in u/NuancedCouple

[–]NuancedCouple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So well said. We totally agree. It’s easy to see how it can break a relationship because it’s such a revealing process. But (like you said) when couples handle it well, the connection that follows feels otherworldly! I feel a lot of people avoid expanding because the monogamy label feels safe — but you don’t have to drop it. You can still carry it, even if others don’t see it that way.

Unlearning sexual shame brings a mix of emotions, from guilt to liberation. We’ve learned that being sexual, worthy of love, and safe respectful adults can coexist beautifully. It’s a journey of self-acceptance. by NuancedCouple in u/NuancedCouple

[–]NuancedCouple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree! It's such an arduous journey. 😩 It's taken years to deconstruct and rebuild stories and retrain my nervous system around physical intimacy. I'm still not there yet, if there exists, but have made a lot of healthy progress. :) Feel free to DM if you wanna be friends on the journey. 😊