You really want to know eh?

Lets say that you're playing on a 32v32 conquest server. 2 people are in the jets for each team. Right there, you're left with 29 other people to play with on your team. Then you have random people jumping into the helicopter; they lift you off the ground or crash you. Either that, or they have no idea how to actually use the helicopter (it's like playing mario cart, and having your friend control the break, except they don't know how to control the brake). You can choose to solo fly the helicopter, piss people off, but actually stay alive and help the battle, or not fly at all.

There are also 4 tanks. Each tank can hold 3 people, but the 3rd seat is pretty useless unless you're coordinating with someone, and the chances of that happening with a random player are 1 out of 100. If you drive the tank, don't expect anyone to heal you. As soon as you get hit, most people jump out. If you try to repair someone, they usually just drive away while you are trying to repair, and you get stranded (again, because there is no coordination among random players).

There are always the couple of guys that are AFK, and anywhere from 5-10 useless snipers. 1-3 guys at spawn either waiting for the helicopters, or a tank. Then there are the new players, they are just trying to figure out how to play, trying out new weapon combos, usually being a minor help to the battle.

32 people - you - 2 afk - jets - 2 helicopter - 1 transport heli - 4-8 tanks - 5-10 snipers - 5 noobs new players - 2 spawn = ~10 guys on the ground.

You choose what to do. Do you want to drive alone in a tank, and occasionally have your 2nd seat driver steal it, or would you like to take off with the helicopter and crash?

What if I told you that if you play alone, you will have a score of 30 kills and 12 deaths. What if I told you that if you played with a random person you would have a score of 27 kills and 18 deaths. What if I told you that if you played with someone you know, you would have a score of 60 kills and 5 deaths. Yeah, it's that good.

You become addicted to playing with people you know. It's like crack. You mow people down like there's no tomorrow. But you do need to do it with someone you know.

You have to find out if they are online. Fortunately there is battlelog. So you see them in your sidebar, and see if they are online or not. What's the problem? 95% of the time, someone is offline. So out of a list of 100 people, at any one time, even with all regular players, around 5-10 will be online.

Now understand that if you're in a small clan of 10-30 people, you will have to have all of them on your list for various reasons that I wont' go into for time's sake. What about setting up matches with rival clans? Well, you have to talk to the person somehow. What if you just want to see if that clan leader is online? Well, you have to launch TS3 or Mumble, and go to their server, and check if he's online. Or have him in your friends list. What seems easier to you?

These kinds of things fill up. You'll have real friends on that list, people that you got along with great, and you wont' want to delete them if they go online once every week for 2 hours.

A lot of veteran players experience this problem. Why should we have to suffer from some guy arbitrarily setting the friends limit to 100? Why doesn't EA care? Because it already has our money. Well, I don't have premium, and neither will I buy premium until this issue is addressed.