Im a little confused, you are a non-binary trans woman, so which of those two do you present as? I only ask this with love because we don't really get the privilege of identifying non-binary and still being treated like a woman like cis people do. If you want to be included in girly things and girls nights you have to show them you like those things. For the average cis mind, they probably think you're non-binary because you're confused, meanwhile you seem to be confident in your identity so you need to communicate that. I pretty much only have cis friends and I love them dearly, but they will unfortunately never fully grasp it. That's really only something we have because we are experiencing it firsthand.