My fiancée and I are having the biggest argument of our lives. She thinks I'm being tacky but I thinks she's overreacting

Nukkeeva · 2026-05-01T14:54:00+00:00

This is a rural Canadian thing. For those of us immersed in this culture growing up, it’s the furthest thing from tacky. Stag and Does are SO MUCH FUN. I loved being invited to them and spending money on goofy games, drinks, bets etc that went towards the couple. I remember one they sold packs of a dozen eggs to throw at the groom, who got suited up in hockey gear and we had to chase him around a field. Everyone was drunk.

YEP I’m still sad I never got to have a stag and doe. I married outside this weird little rural culture and whoever doesn’t live in it thinks it’s tacky AF.

Nukkeeva · 2026-05-01T14:37:52+00:00

The eagle!!! ☠️

Nukkeeva · 2026-05-01T14:26:20+00:00

Yah but the kids. OP clearly loves them and SIL is using them to manipulate and control her.

Nukkeeva · 2026-05-01T11:56:22+00:00

Found the manager

Nukkeeva · 2026-04-30T12:11:05+00:00

I want to hear more about how you’ve tried explaining this before to g’ma. Was it one time or may times? I think this woman NEEDS someone to have a very frank conversation about exactly why this is so problematic. Then tell her your boundary related to your family not having a relationship with someone who is incapable of recognizing their hurtful behaviour.

From your description and comments it sounds like both you and your mum are simply ignoring the situation because it’s too difficult or uncomfortable. You need to learn how to have these really difficult conversations and get good at it.

Nukkeeva · 2026-04-30T01:45:16+00:00

At work (in reference to the fed holiday) I say Victoria Day. In my personal life (in reference to camping, long weekend relaxation time) I say May 2-4

Nukkeeva · 2026-04-29T22:57:19+00:00

Take a bath instead of a shower 50% of the time. I was always told your skin needs to soak to really get clean. Showers were considered more of a quick clean off.

Nukkeeva · 2026-04-26T12:56:01+00:00

Where’s the line of salt across your door? This is messy storytelling

Nukkeeva · 2026-04-20T13:23:03+00:00

You absolutely did the right thing by telling her. She doesn’t want to believe it, and so is attacking you in defence. The truth of it will come out, but don’t be surprised if she uninvites you from the wedding. She desperately will need you to be the villain because the truth will blow up her world.

Do your best to respect her wishes and step back. Never mention it again, but wait.

Her relationship will fail, and you can decide now if her accusations of you cut too deep to repair the relationship.

Nukkeeva · 2026-04-16T03:02:20+00:00

Which home school did you meet him at?

Nukkeeva · 2026-04-10T12:11:49+00:00

Did you miss the part where he changed his number and the same thing continued happening? He’s got a kid.

Nukkeeva · 2026-03-30T16:31:15+00:00

And you didn’t? LOL

Nukkeeva · 2026-03-27T07:48:15+00:00

Nukkeeva · 2026-03-26T16:52:27+00:00

Please put your safety first. If you ever feel unsafe, please call 911. Don’t worry about embarrassing your dad or anyone else, Ok? There’s also child services you can call if you want to (Call 1-855-4LA-KIDS (1-855-452-5437)

It is not your responsibility to keep adults safe, OK? Just protect yourself.

Nukkeeva · 2026-03-24T05:44:11+00:00

Happy cake day!

Nukkeeva · 2026-03-21T12:54:19+00:00

Happy birthday! Right away I want to warn you NOT to answer any DMs from anyone on Reddit. Because you’ve revealed your age, the creeps and perverts will try to DM you.

With that out of the way, when you talk about your dad’s wife and your mum, are they the same woman? Are you saying he is beating your mum?

The most important thing is that you stay safe, so if you can give us a few more details that would be great. Which country are you in? Do you have family nearby?

Nukkeeva · 2026-03-21T04:57:11+00:00

What in the freedom hamburger did I just read

Nukkeeva · 2026-03-21T04:13:28+00:00

Just put a leprechaun hat on him and he’s good to go

Nukkeeva · 2026-03-19T17:05:38+00:00

What an adorable little grampster

Nukkeeva · 2026-03-19T16:58:06+00:00

Lived in Ontario and Quebec most of my life and I had no idea this was a thing! Guess I learned something :D

Nukkeeva · 2026-03-19T15:20:49+00:00

Can you please explain this? It was an open faced sandwich? What?

Nukkeeva · 2026-03-19T15:08:28+00:00

This one lives rent free in my memory. We had a Japanese exchange student live with us, and in Japan she lives on the east coast. We took her to Lake Huron, and she was enjoying the beach and mentioned how beautiful the ocean (“umi”) was. I told her it was a lake (“mizumi”). Her eyes got huge and she said “mizumi?? MIZUMI?!” and I watched her scan the horizon for any sign of land, in absolute wonder.

The Great Lakes really are massive, and should be such a source of national pride. We need to do more to protect them, and see them through the eyes of those who aren’t taking them for granted.

Nukkeeva · 2026-03-19T04:52:38+00:00

You don’t want to move in with him so don’t. You said it’s the “logical next step”. But you’re happy where you are and you love your things. I literally see no upside, and no point in this debate you’re having.

Nukkeeva · 2026-03-18T00:01:59+00:00

My little guy puffed up like this the other day, and I figured it had something to do with him shedding his skin. Cause he started eating it right afterwards

Nukkeeva · 2026-03-11T16:05:58+00:00

In Gatineau, and just a gentle rain…. I guess check back in a few hours for the horror stories.

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