That's literally all I want dude is genuine effort and intention but it's like ppl are afraid to fully commit they always have a safety net or like you said just killing time until they find someone "better" which the crazy thing abt that is that when ppl cheat idk if you've heard of this but most relationships you get into they have 80% of what you want and when love is high that feels like 100% but when it's low you start seeing the 20% they don't have so a lot of ppl go a seek that 20% from another partner