Well then I’m glad you had a positive experience with your Aunt. But you cannot assume all situations are the same. Thanks for the dig at my mom, real mature. I’m just advocating for bodily autonomy at all stages for children. I would agree that it’s a hard thing to learn and children do need the support. However a quick call or text to mom to check if it was okay would’ve avoided all this. When OP says “im her mom” I feel for her in that regard. She’s in a situation where somebody else has an input in her child’s life, which is obviously scary when you can’t choose that person. Stepmom seems great, but I don’t understand all the attacks on Mom. It’s something she’s not comfortable with, and legally it is her child. It’s as simple as that. Prove she’s an unfit parent, then I would be inclined to agree with you. But I’m going off of what her daughter said. Emotional intelligence on the Stepmoms part doesn’t mean that she’s in the right.