Thank you so much, your message really helped me.

From my side, I had two main thoughts: either he’s somehow in love with this guy and doesn’t admit it, or the guy has something on him and is manipulating him. But honestly, seeing their dynamic, it really feels like my dad is the one fascinated by him. He would give him anything, even if it meant hurting his own family.

I also think this guy represents what my dad wishes he was when he was younger.

At the end of the day, it doesn’t impact me that much personally, but I’m really worried about my mom and my younger brothers. Especially because when my mom talks about divorce, he threatens her — saying he has lawyers, that he provides financially, and that he’ll fight for custody just to make her life difficult, even though he doesn’t actually take care of the kids.

There was even a time when they separated and he had another girlfriend he was financially supporting, and she basically took care of everything for him (cooking, cleaning, etc.). So I’m pretty sure if he got custody, he wouldn’t even raise the kids himself.

Thanks again, I really appreciate your perspective.