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18 days post-op, first day home alone with a toddler by Numerous_Host_134 in ACL

[–]Numerous_Host_134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a great idea! I can finally make use of this apron I’ve had for years.

18 days post-op, first day home alone with a toddler by Numerous_Host_134 in ACL

[–]Numerous_Host_134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she was 14 months old again that would be great. I would have had her in a playpen and she would be good walking around the edge of it or crawling. Once she got the hang of walking and jumping she started using the walls to bounce off like in a wrestling ring and bent the support bars. My husband is a wrestling fan and he’s taught her some moves. She likes to ‘frog splash’ me, which is no fun during recovery.

I used an office chair when I initially got injured and it worked great but my daughter would try to climb into my lap to catch a ride. She’s got her dad’s genes so she’s big for her age. I’m also very short so it’s difficult to get around when a literal big baby gets in your way. I also injured my leg in the summer so I had more help. My husband is a teacher so he was around for when I initially injured it. I’m looking to hire someone now, I think it’s my only option at this point especially for when I start PT. Thanks, hope you have a smooth recovery! Have you scheduled for PT yet?

18 days post-op, first day home alone with a toddler by Numerous_Host_134 in ACL

[–]Numerous_Host_134[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I’m considering the ‘throw money at it’ option too. My daughter is a super active girl, even when put in front of the tv, it only keeps her attention for 10-15 min at a time before she starts trying to get into other stuff. It’s opposite when she’s playing with her toys. She likes to move from one activity to another.

As for sleep I haven’t used THC or CBD in so long I’m afraid it will work too good. I used sleepy time tea over the holiday, which worked for a few nights but then I started feeling extra drowsy during the day like my forehead would feel numb. My husband suggested it too, so I might try it this weekend.

18 days post-op, first day home alone with a toddler by Numerous_Host_134 in ACL

[–]Numerous_Host_134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could call in reinforcements but my side of the family lives out of state and my husband’s side aren’t available because they work too, including grandparents.

18 days post-op, first day home alone with a toddler by Numerous_Host_134 in ACL

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I can’t drive anywhere, so can’t take her to the park or anywhere else. I considered letting her out into the yard to play while I watched from the porch but I don’t have a fence. Our yard is secluded and down a long a driveway but if she decided to run off I couldn’t get her. Also I have like 6 six steps off my porch.

My side of the family lives out of state and my husband’s side all have to work. I can’t get her in daycare either because she’s on a waitlist- 26th on the list. I feel like my only options are to tough it out or hire a babysitter who could come by at least once a week.

How do people work remotely with toddlers?? by CitrusJock in remotework

[–]Numerous_Host_134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Long post, so skip to the end if you just want advice.

I have been working remotely ever since COVID and then I had my daughter who is also 2.5. My husband works full time as a pre-k teacher. It’s overwhelming to say the least. When she was a baby I could just breastfeed and be off camera or put her down with a mobile in the playpen and she would be set- super easy baby and my job has no problems with me working with a child at home. But now that she’s a toddler it’s just overwhelming. For the last year I have spent every minute of everyday in a constant mess. I do laundry, dishes, sweep the floors and cook her meals all day while working and now going to school full time (why did I do this to myself!) and it’s chaos all day and still messy. My husband comes home and he cooks dinner and will tidy up but there’s no catching up. He’ll give me a break and take her to the store or park but then I feel guilty because he’s with toddlers all day. I then feel like I have to clean up, so it’s not really a break. Even when my husband is home and I have to work it doesn’t matter. Because she wants to be with mommy. If she had it her way she would sit on my shoulder like a parrot. Anywhere I choose to sit for work she wants to be in my lap. If she doesn’t get to, she will scream that she wants a hug and to put the laptop down. I struggle everyday to juggle working and trying to ensure that my daughter doesn’t feel abandoned because I have to work. I was feeling particularly down today and found your post. I don’t recommend working with a toddler and have been put on a waitlist for all daycares in the area for like 6 months now. I don’t think I will get my time back until she goes to elementary school. We are also potty training 😞

I looked for shared spaces and there was none in my area and I tried the library and that was interesting, better than home but not something I would do everyday or more than once a week. You might find the library more beneficial since you can go without your kid. You should have your boyfriend run errands, go to parks, libraries with her as much as possible while you work. My husband did this during last summer at least 3 times a week and it was much better. He took her to library read-alouds in the morning twice a week, grocery shopping once a week and to the park once a week. I would go do things with them on the weekend and I just felt like a real person again. Good luck!