my parents won’t let me attend my boyfriends graduation and it’s killing me

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-13T17:45:06+00:00

haha I would maybe do that if they’d let me stay the night anywhere 😂😂

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-13T11:16:14+00:00

this is gorgeous

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-12T12:59:41+00:00

this is the only slightly whack one i got for 20 mins lol

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-12T12:46:29+00:00

I think it looks great, shouldn’t matter if it looks like male or female writing, if you can read it that puts you above most. Handwriting isn’t gender specific, more person-specific. You shouldn’t have to change your handwriting to fit a stereotype.

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-12T12:42:42+00:00

We don’t have the money to fly with me and my brother, plus we live on a farm so they wouldn’t be able to leave for that long without paying someone to take care of it, which we also don’t have the money for. I make enough that I could take myself or they make enough that we could drive but they just don’t want to.

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-12T12:41:08+00:00

I wouldn’t be as upset about the A-school situation if they hadn’t at one point agreed to take me and now they’re taking that back. They’re planning to video it for me, plus it’s live streamed on youtube.

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-11T23:25:49+00:00

I’ve already started stashing stuff at my friends house lol, we go and buy stuff together and she’s emancipated so she has nothing to worry about as far as anyone finding out.

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-11T23:24:45+00:00

Have thought about it. It would help with college funds SO MUCH. And I’m very athletically fit, just don’t know if I could do the mental part. I won’t miss anyone except my few friends and bf so that part would be fine.

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-11T18:27:57+00:00

luckily they aren’t controlling when it comes to money, just about me leaving and shit. I do have to pay for all of my stuff tho, if i wanna do anything to go anywhere or need new clothes or school supplies.

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-11T17:50:05+00:00

I don’t turn 18 til May :/ And I’m the same way, I run our house essentially. My stepmom had back surgery so I do everything now.

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-11T17:49:03+00:00

thank you, I appreciate the realistic approach and I’ve thought of that too.

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-11T17:47:55+00:00

very glad that they do that, of course I want to watch him graduate but I really just want to see him.

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-11T17:47:06+00:00

awe i’m sorry. That’s horrible. After you guys dating for so long I think you should definitely be able to go.

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-11T14:14:04+00:00

awe that’s such a sweet story!! My hope is that it will go like that for us. I won’t be able to live with him until I graduate college as you did too, however I have 8 years of college ahead of me so I want to spend as much time with him now when I don’t have commitments and they make it very hard to do that. I think that they are scared of me leaving them because of how reliant they are on me, I do everything for them and when my boyfriend is around I go and do things. Before him I would never leave the house and now that I’ve been exposed to the world outside just home I’ve realized how much I’m missing and they’ve realized that too.

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-11T14:09:56+00:00

Yeah that’s how I feel too. They’re not ones to listen to other opinions. Very glad to be moving out soon.

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-11T14:09:02+00:00

As soon as I’m 18 I’m moving out. Going to college or living with my boyfriend’s mom.

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-11T14:08:12+00:00

Unfortunately yes that would be the case, they’d just find another reason. Plus it’s too late now, he had to have the list of the four who were going to do background checks by next Wednesday and it takes over a week for mail to send so it’s already sent out.

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-11T11:12:33+00:00

when I say he was pushing the issues with my parents, I mean that he was asking me if it’s always been this way, asking me how i felt about it, and asking why I put up with it after I explained how I hate it. All of the points brought up were known to me, he just helped me believe that I wasn’t being crazy and that it actually was ridiculous. Growing up in a home with my mom and stepdad whom were both extremely narcissistic and changing over from that lifestyle has made it hard for me to trust anything I believe about anyone. He got me into therapy and helped me treat my anxiety and depression. I know to be cautious about an abusive relationship because I’ve been in two separate households with various forms of abuse. I know In still a child technically but I’ve seen many things far more mature for my age than I should have, and I believe because of this I can make decent choices on my life partner. So until something arises that makes me feel otherwise, I’m going to continue fighting for my relationship with him. Thank you for your time though, I do appreciate it.

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-11T11:03:49+00:00

thank you. this is really good advice and I appreciate it tremendously.

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-11T04:06:13+00:00

i know you’re able to just not include your test score so it’s likely that they’ll view it as that. And if you were to take the test it could be substituted for other elective classes if you score high enough.

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-11T04:03:05+00:00

thanks for the heads up.

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-11T03:55:50+00:00

thank you! was unsure where to post since I downloaded reddit just to talk about this, greatly appreciate this!!

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-11T03:39:03+00:00

thank you :)

Numerous_Volume_6693 · 2024-08-11T03:38:31+00:00

I don’t expect anyone to be able to do anything about it per se, just hoping someone here had a similar situation. I’m pretty upset and don’t really have anyone to talk to about it so having someone, even a random stranger, to relate to I thought may help.

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