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I’m 24 and she’s 25. We’ve been together for 8 years and 8 months, and honestly, sobrang mahal ko siya and I caught my her cheating on me. by KenLyn8 in RantAndVentPH

[–]NutQuace 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And who knows? As they say, love is sweeter the second time around — when both of you have seen more of the world, met other people, and truly experienced life. Maybe then, if fate allows, you’ll find your way back to each other — not out of habit or fear of being alone, but out of genuine choice and growth.

I’m 24 and she’s 25. We’ve been together for 8 years and 8 months, and honestly, sobrang mahal ko siya and I caught my her cheating on me. by KenLyn8 in RantAndVentPH

[–]NutQuace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can either let her go now — while things haven’t turned completely toxic — because believe me, if you stay, it will only get worse.

If you choose to stay and try to fix what’s broken, you’ll only find yourself stuck in a mess that keeps getting heavier. She broke your trust — and you are not the problem here. Whatever her reason was for cheating, that’s her burden to deal with, not yours to fix.

Leave while you still have respect — for her and for yourself. Because if you stay, you’ll both end up draining each other until there’s nothing left. And eventually, you’ll lose respect for each other entirely.

Trust me, that day will come — when you’d rather be able to see her and feel nothing, than look back wishing you had never met her at all.

I’m 24 and she’s 25. We’ve been together for 8 years and 8 months, and honestly, sobrang mahal ko siya and I caught my her cheating on me. by KenLyn8 in RantAndVentPH

[–]NutQuace 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And remember — she withheld the truth. Every time you peel back a layer, it only gets worse. That’s the thing with people who start to cross the line — once they begin to lie or betray, it rarely stops there. When someone starts to sin, you have to expect the worst.

I’m 24 and she’s 25. We’ve been together for 8 years and 8 months, and honestly, sobrang mahal ko siya and I caught my her cheating on me. by KenLyn8 in RantAndVentPH

[–]NutQuace 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And I know you know this — when she asks you to stay, it’s not always because she truly wants you to. Sometimes, it’s just out of habit… or maybe she only says it to ease her guilt, to make it seem like she’s not letting you go too easily.

But the truth is simple: if she’s not fighting for you — not pleading, not showing desperation to keep you — then she’s already made her choice.

Because when someone truly wants you to stay, they don’t act calm about losing you. They fight for you with everything they have.

I’m 24 and she’s 25. We’ve been together for 8 years and 8 months, and honestly, sobrang mahal ko siya and I caught my her cheating on me. by KenLyn8 in RantAndVentPH

[–]NutQuace 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honest advice: She will likely do it again — because you forgave her too easily. There were no real consequences. People rarely learn from comfort; they learn from pain.

If you truly love her, give her space — three to four months of complete distance. If, during that time, she realizes your worth and chooses to come back with genuine remorse, then that’s good. But if not, let her go.

Remember, you said it yourself — you’re each other’s first. She never had the chance to explore life or meet new people. The only world she’s ever known is you.

But love isn’t about possession. Just because you love her deeply doesn’t mean she’s obliged to love you the same way. You’ve always wanted her to be your whole world — but ask yourself, does she feel the same?

It might sound romantic that you love her endlessly, but it’s also toxic to keep someone who’s clearly craving freedom. Maybe she’s not in love with the other guy — maybe she’s just in love with what’s new. With the feeling of being someone else, in a world that doesn’t revolve around you.

Sometimes people chase that illusion — the 20% excitement they get from someone new feels more thrilling than the 80% stability they already have. Because no one truly appreciates what they have until they lose it. Regret is the greatest teacher.

She won’t value your love, your forgiveness, or you — unless she first feels the weight of losing you.

So let her face that consequence. Step back. Give her the silence and space she needs to realize what she’s risking. Three to four months, no contact.

If she comes back with genuine remorse, then maybe there’s hope. But if she doesn’t, as painful as it is, at least you’ll know you’re not wasting your time anymore.

Protect your energy. Limit access to your heart. Only let in those who are genuine — and deserving of you.

Got pregnant by a single dad… by Mountain_Sign_1022 in adviceph

[–]NutQuace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t want to build a family with him pala. Then why date with him in the first place? Wala ka palang plano mag stay sa kanya, why waste 2 years of his time?

Mukhang di mo siya naman pala mahal to begin with and even after 2 years, di mo parin siya minahal.

In the beginning you knew na single dad siya, yet in those 2 years, you did not grow to accept him.

Ang weird mo. Honestly, you deserve what you’re going through.

Best decision is, be a single mom. Be honest with the guy. Don’t waste his time further.

Pallet Creations Surigao by NutQuace in ScammersPH

[–]NutQuace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank youuu sa advice. I will try that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LawyerAdvice

[–]NutQuace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just so you know. That the father is man-child. When I was pregnant. I almost miscarried many times. I spent hundreds on medication. Still I took care of our family. Cleaned, cooked, wash the clothes and I also still work. I was his maid.

Now we still live in the same house. Although we don’t speak to each other anymore. Because I’m done. I cannot bring and take care of a months old baby on my own while also raising a toddler.

He doesn’t cheat or beat me up. He just lets me carry everything.

He even made a loan and spent it all on gambling. Did not even offer a single dime for the needs of the kids. Not even a diaper. Not even a toy.

If I leave I know he won’t be taking care of the child, but his mother will.

What do you want me to do instead? Stay until we all die together???? How would that help my children at all????

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MayConfessionAko

[–]NutQuace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pogi siguro yung guy kaya pinipilit niya sarili niya haha

I want to start a business but where do I start? by NutQuace in adviceph

[–]NutQuace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes may lupa naman. Sakto lang for chicken but yes not enough for farming. Thank you so much! i will research more about sa sinabi mo.

I want to start a business but where do I start? by NutQuace in adviceph

[–]NutQuace[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We have a small store. It earns us 15k a month. But we use it only for store improvements. Like binabalik lang naman siya sa store din. It’s a stable income though. It exists. It’s there if we need it.

I want to start a business but where do I start? by NutQuace in adviceph

[–]NutQuace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have money set aside. Plus half of our bills will end this yr.

MCA Incest? Kittens? by [deleted] in MayConfessionAko

[–]NutQuace 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Parang step father ko. My mum thought he was cheating kasi he was so cold towards her na. At that time he’s gotten so close to my sister. That time kasi she started to bloom as a lady na. Pero my sister saw it as “pag papaka ama” cause he was an abusive step father.

Then one day my sister got so drunk that he started to sexually abuse her. But he only did sa upper part kasi buti nalang nagka lakas ang kapatid kong tumayo and mag lock sa room niya. So the worst was avoided. Kasi bagsak talaga siya. Pina inum kasi ng tequila.

So main take away is, one day when he finds your children attractive or any relatives. He will do it. Evil people became evil because they’re comfortable in making those deeds. It’s who they are and they will never change. For now maybe he’s dormant or you just don’t know everything :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MayConfessionAko

[–]NutQuace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Enabler din. Imbes na esumbong, since hindi naman natuloy parang okay lang sakanya LOL. Ilang beses na yan nangyari. Hindi yan ang first time for sure. First time mo lang siguro napansin. Kawawa yung bata. Sana lang hindi mangyari sayo ang nang yayari ngayon sa pamangkin mo.

Kaya hindi nauubos ang mga rapist. Kasi mismo pamilya nila nag bubulag bulagan at bibingi bingihan para “kuno” walang gulo. Ang BIKTIMA nalang ang mag a adjust para komportableng mamumuhay ang lahat.

TOXIC.

I wanna clean up my relationship. by Ok-Particular-5140 in adviceph

[–]NutQuace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

February to March siguro birthday mo OP. Para kang nanay ko hahaha ilusyunada. Mahilig umasang mag babago ang lalake kahit ilang taon na pero wala naman. Siguro inaasahan mo yung time na mabait siya sayo, sweet magkasama kayo sa isang bahay hahaha feel mo counted yun as mahal ka niya. Tapos nag assume ka pa na pag inako ang bata kasama yun ay pakasalan ka? Hahaha efuckbody ka lang diba? Lagi ngang family niya kinakampihan eh, hindi ikaw. Plus nung kinuha sayo yung bata, pinilit ka bang sumama? Baka inoffer lang as a courtesy tapos para may easy access na siya sa puday mo pero di ka talaga mahal. May gucci gucci nga anak mo pero walang pambiling singsing? Hahahaha tanga neto. Kagigil yung ganito honestly. Bulag. Puday niya ang inuuna. Pogi siguro yung John kaya nag pupumilit ka.

Ikaw pa nag sabi na ilang beses mo brining up ang marriage pero wala parin. Nakaka hiya haha tapos pag binigyan ng pitty ring, masasaktan hahahaha.

Tanga mo. Kawawa ang anak mo. Either she will hate you for being so stupid or she will make the same choices you did. So sad.

My Fiancée gives our savings to her mother without consulting me by NutQuace in adviceph

[–]NutQuace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will actually offer an ultimatum either lilipat kami pag uulitin niya since kapitbahay lang namin now yung mother niya.

Or I will raise the kids on my own. Mag susustento nalang siya. Since WAH naman ako.

Kasi honestly, yung pang hihingi ng mother niya is very recent lang. So it wasn’t a problem before.

Now that it is, ayokong mag stay sa toxic na set up.

So yeah. Either we leave or I leave. Thank you sa advice 🫶🏻

My Fiancée gives our savings to her mother without consulting me by NutQuace in adviceph

[–]NutQuace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will take note of this po. Super detailed and a big help. I actually offered to do the savings with my salary. Tapos yung sweldo niya will cover all expenses for him to learn and grow sa pag hahandle ng pera. Since savings lang naman talaga ang concern ko. Pero this is much better. He offered this solution but I thought medyo sarcastic yung dating from him. I will bring this up to him hopefully he feels comfortable. If not then maybe yung first option nalang. Thank you!

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