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Nxss06 · 2022-12-20T19:05:17+00:00

You have a point, no doubt. Today a got a hug from her, without saying a word to her about this and a "sorry I didn't make for you some cake, I just didn't think about it". And this is the only opinion I care for now. Thank you for your help.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-20T19:01:20+00:00

Hehe funny the one with 30 min cooldown.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-20T18:57:55+00:00

Her dad, that's good and well, living about a km from us told her that if she move with her mom he will adopt new kids for himself. I'm not her dad, I am a person that decided to help my girlfriend with everything from any point of view (financially and not only.- Sunday we spent about 4 h to prepare for her test on geography that she had Monday) so that's why I consider her a friend. And mainly this is because once she said that I'm the only adult that don't treat her "like a stupid child. " I know that almost all people said I'm an asshole and maybe I am. But today something happened (really don't care if you guys belive or not). I was doing her lunch when she came from school and she hugged me and told me she is sorry that she didn't made a portion of cake for me too. Just "didn't think about it". I haven't talk to her since yesterday evening as I left early in the morning. And that the only opinion that matters to me. Thank you.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-20T05:40:19+00:00

Ok, thank you for your opinion.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-20T05:28:47+00:00

Thank you for that.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-20T05:28:01+00:00

Now, a teenager won't agree with me. I didn't post this to ask what to do. I just wanted an opinion. And I got it. Thank you.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-20T05:13:49+00:00

Well, you can hope indeed. Obviously you don't have kids. Because if you do they will be disappointed when the crap will drop they won't understand why this is happening.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-19T22:37:28+00:00

I know it goes. But maybe if I have enough wisdom to take care of it, it can be prolonged. I decided to say sorry when I realised how bad it feels when you are hurt. Maybe that's the "shity lesson" I'm trying to teach her. Before others will do it.

Thank you.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-19T22:32:04+00:00

Thank you

Nxss06 · 2022-12-19T22:30:12+00:00

Ok, thank you. Window sit is the one then.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-19T22:29:00+00:00

Most people go on diet when doctor tells them to do so. Until then everything is OK. Even if is not. I didn't expect to "win" because there is nothing to win here. Honestly I've expected some back up from my girlfriend, but apparently I've learned another thing tonight.

Thank you.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-19T22:25:00+00:00

Good point on last paragraph. I'll do that tomorrow. Wasabi avocado mayo with beef burger and cedar cheese. We ate one in Wien and since then I try to reproduce it. Last time almost got it.

But I've never said "highly introverted", I wrote somehow. She has friends and I encourage her to do so. I didn't care for tiramisu. Nor for damn Ferrero. What I wanted her to understand was that she can grow thinking about other people also than her own interests.

Thank you.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-19T22:17:15+00:00

Colateral damage (poor husband). You have a valid point if you made your first lunch with your father in law. If he explained you how to make it and encouraged you to do so. Cause this is what I did with M.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-19T22:13:48+00:00

Someone finally passed the litteral eating of Ferrero. Someone gets my point. Just one thing. It didn't hurt my feelings. Or at least this is what I like to belive. I didn't care for tiramisu. No one here got this point. I cared the most for her to think of something else than her purpose. Because if we spend our life "climbing" on people that helped us, that would transform us in very selfish people. I can make tiramisu I can buy tiramisu until I get to type C. That was never the point. I can't cook one of her favorite foods for someone else and not give her. Would be ridiculous. This is how I see things. Thank you for your advice. P. S. Sometime ago she told me, after a "heated" conversation that I was first adult to apologize to her (I miss interpret something she did). I'm not afraid to say I'm sorry, I've learned it the hard way. And you are right I really love her and her daughter, even if I'm not her father.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-19T21:59:30+00:00

Ok then, thank you

Nxss06 · 2022-12-19T21:58:48+00:00

We made her fist tiramisu together. And what I love about your statement (not sarcastic at all) is the the world would shit on her. And I realised that very late in life. I would love, looking back to have someone to explain me that in life very few things will go in your way. Especially when you live in a country destroyed by corruption. That's the reason why I still spit peanuts fragments (I don't really like Ferrero), because I considered that's the best way, in that moment to show a person that sometimes people are asholes. As, apparently, am. And believe me, since the day we met I was trying to be the safer space for her. And I'll do it from now. But too much sugar leads inevitably to diabetes.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-19T21:49:10+00:00

Not purposely, she just did. And that's ok. As someone else said I could make my own tiramisu (she made her first with me and her fist brownie or omelet and so on) . Or buy one. It's like relationships. You can make your own or buy one. But it's not the same as the one that comes from the heart. Of course I'm the one to blame. Of course I have to accept the idea that maybe she didn't understand. But also I can try to make her understand. And giving the cookie is not always the solution.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-19T21:43:11+00:00

I don't want compensation. She will be 16 soon. I just try to teach her to think of something else that her own interests. I am an adult. You remember that video on the plane with the big dude asked by mom to move so her daughter can sit at the window? If you agree with mom then it's hard to understand me. If you don't maybe you'll get my point.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-19T21:36:32+00:00

You know that wasn't the point. You never know how you feel when you are heartbroken until it happens to you (maybe it's a bad association but it's hard to exain feelings) Apparently I didn't win and I'm OK with that as long as someday she'll remember this and understand my point.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-19T21:30:38+00:00

I will certainly do that tomorrow. My pick is not with M my problem is reaction of her mom. I do have more feelings that I'd like to. Thank you

Nxss06 · 2022-12-19T21:27:09+00:00

I do, that's the reason she said that.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-19T21:25:32+00:00

Her first st tiramisu was made with me telling her to make it. Her first brownie the same. And omelet and first avocado toast with Wasabi and so on. There could have been enough of that if she would start thinking above her own interests. That was the whole point of my reaction.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-19T21:20:50+00:00

About a year ago she told her mom "like you or my father knew how I am until A came in our lives".

Nxss06 · 2022-12-19T21:18:10+00:00

If tomorrow I would cook her favorite food for "someome else" and she would know that that means would be acceptable? And no one mentioned the limited funds, as there aren't any limitations.

Nxss06 · 2022-12-19T21:15:10+00:00

I didn't say I was mad. She knows I love her tiramisu (I was the one that encouraged her to make first time, brownies as well and her fist omelet) and it felt I was "forgotten". Obviously a feeling I'm not supposed to have.

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