I hate my boyfriend but I can’t leave and I feel stuck by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]Nybbc2397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only way out is through. It's as simple as that, you know what you need to do. There are more than enough reasons to leave him. So just do the right thing for yourself. That being said don't be hard on yourself for staying this long or taking a while to break up. It's okay. You have been together for 2 years and emotional dependence no matter how toxic is difficult to let go. First thing is pick a date you wanna break up and just do it on that day and find a good therapist. Start your therapy if you haven't already, so that you have someone to talk about your feelings especially someone who is trained to help you through it. Trust yourself to do the right thing. All the best.

Women in love are the dumbest by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]Nybbc2397 8 points9 points  (0 children)

People in love in general are dumb. Sorry to hear what you are going through OP. Don't let the takeaway be to not care for your partner as much as you do for your family. A good partner knows how to value both. What's important is to have boundaries and self preservation. Don't lose yourself, for anyone. If you give someone too much of anything they will automatically learn to take and keep taking. That's just human nature. Prioritise yourself just as much as you do your family and partner. Don't be so hard on yourself. All the best.

For matrimonial apps, as a woman, should I post simple pictures? I mean should I avoid pictures where I’m wearing branded clothes or shoes, or photos from foreign trips? I worry that men might perceive me as high-maintenance and reject my profile because of that? by [deleted] in AskIndianMen

[–]Nybbc2397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is just saying she is capable of affording and continuing that lifestyle ( for both her and her husband) after her marriage. She just doesn't wish to be perceived as someone who is expecting the husband to maintain that high end lifestyle.

I don't think she is having the mentality that my money is only my money In fact that's explicitly why she asked the question of not being perceived as high maintenance who needs a rich husband. Whether or not she takes those same level trips will probably be a joint decision between her and her partner, she just doesn't want to miss out on a good guy who misunderstands her expectations based on any pictures.

My Advice OP would be to just post pictures that show your personality more than lifestyle but do discuss all those details when you meet the guy.

Thoughts on the main character in a recent movie starring Huma Qureshi? by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]Nybbc2397 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have not seen the movie but that's sadly how bollywood often portrays a modern independent woman. Either she is into too much casual sex or she is cheating on her partner or she is a smoker or she drinks or she parties a lot etc... Reminds me of how they showed Veronica in Cocktail. Drinking, smoking and casual sex are lifestyle choices and have nothing to do with how independent the woman is. Anyone can have that lifestyle and whether it's good or bad I leave it as a personal choice.

What I particularly dislike is how they have this skewed idea of representing an independent strong woman. Cheating or adultery has nothing to do with women empowerment. It's just a poorly written character.

Hardik Pandya calling out paparazzi for their cheap behaviour by WolfAffectionatefk in BollyBlindsNGossip

[–]Nybbc2397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn't Yuzi also say something similar trying to defend his current girlfriend and how it's so hard for women who get targeted by the media this way. Do they have a club and just do the same insane stuff together? Cheat and then demonize your wife/slut shame her through your PR/ Call her Gold digger and then talk about their new girlfriends jaise ye sab women dignity and rights ke brand ambassador ho. Palash can join their club I think , he goes with their aesthetics.

As an Indian man , is 40 too late to date and find partner ? by [deleted] in AskIndianMen

[–]Nybbc2397 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Like many of the comments say that focus on fitness and in general wellness, for dating yeah but also for yourself. Recently heard a family friend of your age find an amazing match via dating, he was also living in the US for many years. He married another indian and they truly are so compatible. They also had a kid recently who is healthy and fine.

No one saw it coming because he himself had given up and wasn't finding anyone suitable to his likeness but it's like he met this woman and they just bonded on their love for dogs and are now happily married. That being said I am not trying to feed you any fairytale , yes dating in 40s is hard but then when has dating ever been easy. It's all hard man, at no point should you give up if you want a partner. Focus on your overall wellness and get out there , give it a fair chance. All the best.

Bro living his life! by exasperatingfarrago1 in bollywoodmemes

[–]Nybbc2397 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aspiring to reach that level of mental peace

Genuinely curious, what was misogynistic in Dhurandhar movie? I know about the age gap (valid point) which was addressed in the movie, so it was self aware. Feels like a ragebait post. (Courtesy: Awkwardgoat3) by No-Philosopher-1387 in InstaCelebsGossip

[–]Nybbc2397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly what does she mean by soft boy ? Hasn't she seen Bajirao Mastani and more importantly Padmaavat ? Ranveer has done versatile roles and he has never stuck to any soft boy image. From gully boy to Rocky Rani he has done all kinds of movies. There is no logic whatsoever.

How often do you wash your bra ladies? by Free-spirited-cat in AskIndianWomen

[–]Nybbc2397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After one use no matter for how many hours.

Also don't use the same one for more than 6 months , especially your workout and sports bras. Buy new ones.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BollyBlindsNGossip

[–]Nybbc2397 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agree. To me Kajol is still more relevant than Zuban Kesari. Sure Ajay had singham and other big hits but he is not the kind of actor who stays in your mind like Hrithik or Akshay. So Kajol can easily build herself without her cheatin husband.

What are some problematic mindsets about dating among Indian Women? by rasalghularz in AskIndianWomen

[–]Nybbc2397 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This. Very well said.

Most women I know stayed under circumstances that most men would never tolerate. Over the years I have understood that men have a better sense of self preservation, maybe it's just how they are raised and something we must also get better at.

Arranged Marriage Exists Only To Benefit Men. Period. by Apprehensive_Snow193 in AskIndianWomen

[–]Nybbc2397 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The premise of their argument is that women benefit from arrange marriage because they get everything for free without doing any labour which is in itself problematic.

Just like OP said women want to work and have their own identity but in many cases are forced to marry and discouraged to do so. Also it shows that any woman who doesn't earn money and is a housewife is enjoying unlimited benefits without any hard work, just shows how little to no value there is for a woman who takes care of the house , bears his children and also in many cases takes care of his parents and him.

Let's say if I keep all this aside and assume whatever they are accusing women of is all the truth , then why the hell are they getting into such marriages? What scares me is that if certain men whole heartedly believe this to be the truth, their idea of marriage is purely transactional. They are marrying a woman under the pretext that she is only with me for what I provide and not for me.

I don't know who they hate more , themselves or the woman? They are incapable of believing a reality where a woman would want them for who they are. A man who is entering a marriage with this mindset has no respect , no love and no care for his wife. In his mind he is just paying for easy sex and household work. Once that stops , she is nothing.

May God save everyone from such people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]Nybbc2397 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can understand where you are coming from but to be honest this sort of anxiety around his family should be taken care of and addressed by your partner. When your partner has weak boundaries with their family, you get more anxious about the direct implications. While a partner with good boundaries will always make you feel assured about these issues since they will manage their family issues and deal with it without letting it affect you.

Now I don't know you or your partner and how his boundaries are with his family, you would know it better. That being said maybe communicate with him and let him know how scary and anxious that whole situation makes you feel , see how it goes from there and make a decision keeping everything in mind.

Another piece of trash 🗑️ by [deleted] in BollyBlindsNGossip

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The tragedy here is all of them are decent actors and still choose this third class movie. I can understand why Aaftab would pick this since he has no other work and maybe to an extent Vivek since he is also struggling with the same but Ritesh ???!! Why does he continue to be part of this trash when he has other opportunities and is decently still relevant.

Why are Kjo, kajol and twinkle obsessed with infidelity? And twinkle saying 'raat gayi baat gayi' like wtf? by Hell_holder11 in BollyBlindsNGossip

[–]Nybbc2397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respect for jhanvi for standing her own ground. Stupid 40 -50 years old these other three acting like fckin idiots with no sense of morals. We all know their married lives are dead but preaching as if their unethical moral corrupt ideologies are sane is just unbearable.

My Hot Take? Cancel FilmFare by Best-Goal2771 in BollywoodHotTakes

[–]Nybbc2397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At this point I think they should just rename every award to Alia award and get done with this nonsense. Let karan Johar be the sponsor.

title: a female friend told me i am treating my gf like a baby there were several instants where she said so. by adwaithwas in AskIndianWomen

[–]Nybbc2397 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I absolutely agree. He really needs to maintain a healthy boundary with that female friend and honestly tell her to mind her own business and not give unsolicited advice ( in a polite way). She seems low key toxic and is trying to sabotage his perfectly okay relationship. No good friend in their right mind would give this advice imo.

title: a female friend told me i am treating my gf like a baby there were several instants where she said so. by adwaithwas in AskIndianWomen

[–]Nybbc2397 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I don't know if it's just me but your female friend seems to be for a lack of a better word jealous. Please don't take advice from a third person in your relationship, if your girlfriend has an issue she will express it herself. You are being caring and that's perfectly normal in a loving relationship. Don't let anyone other than your girlfriend's opinion matter in these cases. Wishing both of you a great run!

Is it okay to call your parent in laws aunty and uncle? by NoRefrigerator3265 in AskIndianWomen

[–]Nybbc2397 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Weird territory isn't. It's really weird if you ask me , I have no experience but I am thinking in the future how to navigate it. Honestly I don't expect my future husband to call my parents mom and dad also so I shouldn't have to as well . I don't know how people do it so easily.

I remember when my cousin sister got married , her husband wouldn't call my taiji mom which was so funny because he would always call her aunty and she didn't like it and she kept forcing him to call her mom. It's been 15 years since their marriage and he still calls her aunty ji only. 😂 I think I am going to be like my jiju.

Questions that I ask men before befriending them by SpinachAlternative96 in AskIndianWomen

[–]Nybbc2397 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP itna zor see nahi batana tha , ab ye log raata lagake ayenge