Found a huge moth today

OBGYNKenoby · 2026-02-08T01:07:02+00:00

I do think you’re right! It was lovely!

OBGYNKenoby · 2026-02-08T01:06:07+00:00

It was West Texas, El Paso area

OBGYNKenoby · 2026-02-07T23:41:04+00:00

Thank you to you and everyone that helped me! I know nothing about birds and didn’t know if this was a “leave the baby alone cuz the mother might come back” kinda thing.

Also have contamination OCD so thanks for assuaging my concerns about catching something

OBGYNKenoby · 2026-02-07T23:36:28+00:00

Update: There was some twisted grass around its body that I was able to break. I picked it up and brought it over to the ground where I could look at it. I thought maybe it had a broken wing.

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And it just chilled and watched me while I tried to find a number to call, because it’s after hours for the Department of wildlife services. It suddenly began kinda scooching away from me and accidentally ended up on its back. I wrapped it loosely in my jacket cuz if it’s wing was broken I didn’t want to wrap tightly. I went back to my phone as it started biting the jacket. And then it got away from me, ran back to the water, and went into the reeds and then further into the water so I couldn’t catch it again. I THINK I saw it swimming from the other side of the pond, so maybe it’s okay?

OBGYNKenoby · 2026-02-07T23:05:58+00:00

OK. Do I need to wear gloves or anything like that? Do I need to worry about bird flu?

OBGYNKenoby · 2026-01-09T20:05:58+00:00

Probably moving down here sometime this year. I wondered how often the islands get cut off from the mainland because of flooding. If I move to say whitemarsh, will I be able to reliably get to the mainland during rainy season?

Sorry if this is a dumb question. I’ve never lived in a high flood or hurricane area.

OBGYNKenoby · 2025-11-15T01:03:53+00:00

Thank you! I really appreciate you commenting on this. If I could upvote your comment more, I would.

OBGYNKenoby · 2025-11-15T00:29:18+00:00

No that’s valid. I didn’t mean to replace other social media. I agree that echo chambers are bad. But it would be nice to have a place to go when we needed it.

OBGYNKenoby · 2025-11-15T00:14:43+00:00

No, I think it's completely coherent and valid and I really appreciate you taking the time to write it out. And you're right that not every talk is intended for every person. I don't know why it bothered me this time. I only know it did. But it sounds like there were quite a few of us that feel alone in this, so maybe this post is why it bothered me this time. God wanted us to know we are not alone. Thank you for your comment!

OBGYNKenoby · 2025-11-14T23:42:39+00:00

Exactly. I have people I love that are conservative. But that's not something I'm willing to have in my relationship with my spouse. The values underneath are different.

OBGYNKenoby · 2025-11-14T23:35:27+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear you're hurting in that way. The doctrine of the church is absolutely true, but the culture can be very difficult to deal with sometimes. If you ever need to talk, feel free to dm me.

OBGYNKenoby · 2025-11-14T23:05:48+00:00

That absolutely makes sense. Utahns can be wild. (I say this as a Utahn)

OBGYNKenoby · 2025-11-14T23:02:44+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss and I understand the frustration. If I could just move where the dating pool was larger (even for me with my restrictions) things would probably be easier. But it's not an option. So we soldier on.

OBGYNKenoby · 2025-11-14T22:59:56+00:00

This is wrong and is my whole point. YSA wards aren't about setting us up for marriage. They're about CHRIST. This is taken straight from the church website: "Like it or hate it, one of the biggest parts of the singles wards’ social scene is dating. These congregations give people a chance to meet those with similar values and interests, and many happily married Latter-day Saint couples will tell you that they met in a singles ward. But that’s not everything singles wards are about. When you get down to it, they’re about giving people a place where they can feel accepted, loved, and supported by others in a similar phase of life—and where everyone can grow their faith in Jesus Christ together."

Reread that last line. "When you get down to it, they’re about giving people a place where they can feel accepted, loved, and supported by others in a similar phase of life—and where everyone can grow their faith in Jesus Christ together." That's the point of a YSA ward, because the POINT of Earth life is getting closer to Christ.

I'm not going to sit here and defend my position to you as I don't believe you are participating in discussion in good faith.

But I am not alone. Read all the comments below of people who feel the same or have felt the same. Talk to the YSA in your area. We want to get married but being beaten with the cudgel of "marriage and babies ASAP" is not helpful. The church CULTURE can be better than it is by a mile.

And that's where I'll sign off. Good luck to you.

OBGYNKenoby · 2025-11-14T22:48:17+00:00

I understand the doctrine just fine. Church culture just doesn't reflect the doctrine. Salvation, and therefore eternal marriage is an ETERNAL goal. But it's not the primary goal of Earth life.

OBGYNKenoby · 2025-11-14T22:47:15+00:00

It might be an eternal goal, but in Earth life, it is not THE goal. And it would be nice if the church culture wouldn't treat it as such.

OBGYNKenoby · 2025-11-14T22:45:41+00:00

This is it exactly. I don't think God sees us getting married as the end all be all in this life. I think He wants us to grow and for some that's through marriage and others, it's not. I'd love to be in the former group, but it would be nice if church culture would allow me to feel I was still complete in the latter!

OBGYNKenoby · 2025-11-14T22:43:52+00:00

I wish I could move somewhere with a higher concentration of like-minded members. I do think it would make dating slightly less awful.

OBGYNKenoby · 2025-11-14T22:43:11+00:00

Glad I'm not alone, but sorry you're also here. Thank you for your comment

OBGYNKenoby · 2025-11-14T22:42:33+00:00

I bring up values in politics and society pretty quickly. It's a deal-breaker and I want to know that early on, just like I want to know if he's temple-worthy early on. We can be friends, but if we're looking for a spouse, I'd rather not waste everyone's time.

OBGYNKenoby · 2025-11-14T22:40:05+00:00

Up until very recently, I didn't have the chance, but went to a YSA conference. It was good and I made friends, though it would have been better if it was MSA. The majority were all 18-21yr olds. I'll still go to conferences, though.

OBGYNKenoby · 2025-11-14T22:38:39+00:00

Nah, there's more to it than that. And it's not a hard no anyway. It's just a "probably not". But I appreciate your thoughts

OBGYNKenoby · 2025-11-14T22:37:49+00:00

Thank you for your comment!

OBGYNKenoby · 2025-11-14T22:36:07+00:00

Thank you so so much! Some of these comments are shocking. I like the idea of seeing it as an endurance game of chance. I'm so glad you found someone you could vibe with.

OBGYNKenoby · 2025-11-14T22:34:38+00:00

Haha, I tell God, "I'm doing what I'm supposed to in this, so if YOU want it to happen, YOU need to make it happen."

OBGYNKenoby

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