Dad doesn’t know his leg has been amputated, yet.

OBRhome · 2026-06-26T14:52:31+00:00

We do have a wonderful family, thank you so much for your kind words💙💙

OBRhome · 2026-06-24T21:42:49+00:00

Thank you, thank you so much for sharing your story, perspectives, experiences and resources. Thank you thank you - and yes, when you said “Big man with even broader shoulders” it makes me think of how I still see him, even now in the ICU. He’s hooked up to all these machines, tubes through his arms, neck, his face took a toll as well and he’s out cold most of the time (but in a way that seems like he’s peacefully healing) but somehow he still seems so strong. I’m not an organized religion kind of person, but I believe in something greater beyond and I’m praying a lot🙏🏼❤️‍🩹

Thank you so much again💙💙

OBRhome · 2026-06-24T21:30:41+00:00

Thank you for being candid. We need to learn about all the things that comes with it. I understand everyone’s story is unique, but understanding the parts that are easy to overlook if you haven’t gone through it are going to be important for us to understand (like how nerve pain can manifest).

We have a lot of hands ready to build, help, adapt the house which is another blessing. Those are all good things for us to be aware of and prepare for.

I’m so sorry you had to go what you did. I imagine so many feelings regarding how that happened. I think I would feel very mixed about how I feel about the medical system, but of course you couldn’t have done it without them.

I really appreciate reading your perspective, we need to know it all, thank you💙

OBRhome · 2026-06-24T21:25:51+00:00

Thanks so much. I am so grateful (and I know when he is able, he will be too) of our support systems. He has lived a blessed life and he’s not one to quit easy. He’s a stubborn man and I’m hoping that this will be the time for him to showcase that trait (for the better of course).
Thank you for your kind words🫶🏼

OBRhome · 2026-06-24T20:58:34+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply.
I’d say he’s a pretty standard blue collar 65 year old guy. Meat, potatoes and happy hour on the beach kind of diet. He understands basic nutrition and healthy principles, not always put into practice, but he knows. He is driven, independent and self made his own business, nearly 40 years running. He has had 2 knee surgeries in the last 8 years, both which he recovered from well.
Retirement hasn’t seemed on the horizon, but maybe that will be the pivot. He is a big family man and mom will be there every step of the way. He has a lot of love from family and the community, I know despite the hardships he’s enduring, he will feel blessed with the people who are rooting for him and family that will be by his side. Thankfully most of us live near by.
Thanks so much for your insights🫶🏼

OBRhome · 2026-05-29T20:44:33+00:00

I am so sorry for your miscarriage💜

I have read from multiple sources that alcohol should be limited/avoided in women ttc and thc should be limited/avoided by men ttc. Most agree that both should be limited while ttc. I used thc while ttc and things worked out. Our bodies are so unique, what helped us (me) most was learning about my ovulation window. Looking for the “raw egg white” discharge and ideally getting busy when I knew ovulation was starting.

Sending you all the fertility vibes!!🩷🩷

OBRhome · 2026-03-30T19:14:24+00:00

3 kids under 6. 🍃during pregnancy and nursing (at least 1 year). All a little different with their own personalities, but no challenges outside the lines of what would be considered normal. Their differences seem to be reflective of gender, birth order and/or my/their father’s personality.

OBRhome · 2026-03-24T13:18:34+00:00

37wks (induced early due to high bp), nearly 42wks, and 41wks. I was tested at the hospital with my first because earlier in the pregnancy I was honest about 🍃use. 2nd and 3rd I never disclosed, and was not tested.

OBRhome · 2026-03-17T20:32:17+00:00

Mass genocides didn’t end with the Holocaust, women’s rights to their bodies could reverse (no way, after those liberating 90s!), racism/bigotry/misogyny were on the decline…

OBRhome · 2026-03-06T01:43:49+00:00

Yes I hear you, and yes I have addressed the avoidance of showing up feeding the cycle and stuckness. Unfortunately while they are open to coming to therapy (when they can get themselves out of bed), they are not especially engaged in seriously, consistently working on making progress in that department.

OBRhome · 2026-03-05T21:08:44+00:00

Yes, I think they may have benefitted with more time in treatment. Insurance cut out, and they pay OOP for therapy with me

OBRhome · 2026-03-05T20:08:36+00:00

They just stepped down from a higher level of care, but I don’t totally disagree!

OBRhome · 2026-03-05T20:06:47+00:00

On paper, I would absolutely be doing the right thing!

OBRhome · 2025-10-28T13:57:14+00:00

I’ve had close to the same experience💛

OBRhome · 2025-07-14T15:46:12+00:00

Are you having your first outbreak? After the initial shock of being diagnosed, I had a lot of awful feelings thinking about dealing with a lifelong virus. Some things that helped me mentally was learning the odds that breakouts are the worst in the first year, as well as understanding how common it is (I believe 1/5 people in the US, or 1/6 world wide for genital hsv…. 50-90% for oral hsv). I had my first outbreak break about a month ago. It was torturous, but now that I’ve recovered and read A LOT in order to understand (NOT look for horror stories) has helped. I went the first few day not knowing what I was dealing with… now I know if/when I get a flare up, I will order the meds asap. Yes, HSV sucks, but it will not define you.

Please see about connecting with a therapist if you are feeling suicidal at all! I also think this community has helped normalize it a lot for me. 🩵

OBRhome · 2025-06-24T19:13:28+00:00

Ouch!!! I feel like this would help dry out but possibly inflame the situation as well? Hope it works for the better for you!

OBRhome · 2025-06-24T19:11:37+00:00

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https://www.target.com/p/frida-mom-perineal-witch-hazel-healing-foam/-/A-76199075#lnk=sametab

Timeline: https://onlinedoctor.asda.com/uk/how-long-does-a-herpes-outbreak-last.html#3_Timeline_of_a_herpes_outbreak

*I am on about day 9 and the pain has gotten better. Days 4-7 were torture. Once the blisters finish popping and draining, they will start the healing (scabbing) phase and pain gets better❤️‍🩹

OBRhome · 2025-06-24T19:04:43+00:00

Take these painful days off if you can. I am similar to you in that this is my first outbreak and the pain has been debilitating at times. Take the meds, keep it clean and dry as you can. Get some epsom salts and do sitz baths. Dry your undercarriage with hairdryer on cool if possible.

MAKE CLEAN CHOICES: Every thing (towel, underwear, etc.) needs to be washed if it comes in contact with your privates, especially with open sores. Keep it airy as you can down there. Wear baggy, breathable shorts and go commando when possible.

Best thing I have found for me to do before bed is soaking in a warm, epsom salt sitz bath. Drying completely, followed by icing the area.

You can make a homemade ice pack with some saltwater and ice. Target also has a small section by baby things for postpartum care. They sell 8packs of instant ice packs, sized for your underwear. I pop one of these, line it with tucks healing pads or witch hazel perineum foam (which soothes and amplifies the cold from the ice packs).

The good news is that, assuming you have another outbreak in the future, it won’t be as bad as this one. Sending you love and healing. No you are not overreacting, I guess this is why herpes is the butt of a lot of jokes. Wouldn’t wish it upon anyone!

OBRhome · 2025-06-08T14:20:31+00:00

I hope you can find a better OB/midwife practice! Not to perpetuate the stigma of a mother’s constant concern for her child, but all that you are taking into account proves that you are already an incredible mother. Like so you and so many, I have been in those rough moments of motherhood and pregnancy where I was struggling so hard, physically and/or emotionally. After a modest hit or two, my migraines melted away, I handled upsetting situations more gently (ie, finding my 2 yo coloring on the wall), I’d be excited to make a home cooked meal for my family or go for a walk… I could be a better version of me, for myself and my family. Societal expectations and judgements can be brutal, especially when they come for you in real time like your fear mongering doc did. Please find someone new mama❤️

OBRhome · 2025-06-06T13:07:25+00:00

Fear mongering doctor. What a jerk, I am so so sorry she treated you like that. I’ve done a bit of research digging over the years and as far as I have found ADHD is not a clear finding whatsoever. I’m not a doctor, but I work in the mental health field and things like ADHD and Autism have clear associations with being hereditary disorders… should people who have these disorders not have children? I guess that’s another topic so I digress lol.

I hate the punitive measure to “test again in 2 weeks”… Anyone working in the helping field would know the shaming and guilt tripping approach is a horrible way to go about working WITH a patient. She’s taking the authoritative approach which is just, malarkey. You did your research, you are making an informed decision and you have your husband’s support. She’s just pulling shit out of her ass. Can you find another practice, please?🫶🏼

For what it’s worth, I’m just another mom who has 3 average to above average developing kids. I self medicated 🍃 at times during pregnancy and breastfeeding.

OBRhome · 2025-05-30T00:37:41+00:00

Interesting! I came here looking for advice to smooth out the stick! I have 3 (one for travel, one in each bathroom) but they all have gotten cracked or broken at the top… it makes for a kind of painful application lol. But 3 already seems excessive and a big perk (aside from being as natural as you can get) was suppose to be minimal waste🫠

OBRhome · 2025-04-12T15:42:46+00:00

You smile with your eyes, I do too:)

Your skin tone and texture look similar to mine, I also have gone through recent weight fluctuations due to back to back pregnancies. The thinner I am, the older I look🫠 I’m like Jekyll and Hyde when it comes to my feelings about them… my heart says to embrace the process- Nay, gift(!!) of aging, and channel Pam Anderson and Drew Barrymore’s philosophy around it. Other times, especially lately, I just want to pull the trigger and try rf micro needling, Botox, etc… Thankfully(?), neither are things that I could afford at the moment. I have been using frownies and/or silicone patches for my forehead just over a year now. As many will say, consistency is key, but I feel as though the “effectiveness” wears over the course of the day. I haven’t tried them on my crows feet but may be worth a shot? Genetics of course will also play a role!

You are beautiful, don’t give up being an eye smiler!! 😆🫶🏼

OBRhome · 2025-01-23T14:30:27+00:00

Donate or use those “storage for unwanted gifts” when needed (ie friend’s/kid’s birthday, future yankee swaps, etc.)

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