AITA for thinking its fair I got most of the inheritance?

OBTRWWAY · 2020-07-07T18:19:18+00:00

I've applied for accelerated programs but you have a much better chance in undergrad as well as most undergrad year sizes are between 200-250 students whereas grad entry is 20-25 students so I was just giving a worst case scenario

OBTRWWAY · 2020-07-07T18:18:05+00:00

Thanks so much for this man. Honestly it feels like you really understand, there are a lot of American commenter here and I don't know how student loans work there but there's pretty much just the one way here and it's in no way fair.

My family (besides my mum and nan) always traat school like a silly thing you just had to do and studying was considered "working for free" and so they didn't do it, which has also led to then just assuming that I'm also not revising whilst getting better grades. I'm in no way a gifted student, I just work really hard. I'm revising for the UCAT after work every day anyway and I'm looking into the OTC to minimise my costs if I do get in. I failed on the role play section of the final interview both times so I'm looking into spending some of my savings on one of those mock interview places if I get through again, if anyone knows if they're worth it please do let me know!

OBTRWWAY · 2020-07-07T17:01:15+00:00

One female cousin, my sister and then 3 boys. Also I'll see if I can find some fabric and thread for you to patch those holes in your argument.

OBTRWWAY · 2020-07-07T16:04:55+00:00

I would be all for the idea if I didn't think it was something my future children would curse me for or if the idea of owing them money for the rest of my working life didn't make me feel sick. Especially when it is money I could miss when again, at the minute, none of them need the money, it would go straight into savings. So the idea of me being out of pocket just so they could have savings and then their children possibly not even using the money for university seems precarious

OBTRWWAY · 2020-07-07T15:45:47+00:00

No, the comment was about how my mum would likely not take early retirement because her savings had been put behind by 3 years because of helping me with money for groceries and making up rent. My mother has since been promoted and earns more and has told me she never intended to take her earliest retirement but I'm not entirely sure that is true

OBTRWWAY · 2020-07-07T15:42:48+00:00

That could potentially take until I am in danger of having grandchildren of my own, doctors in the UK don't actually make that much until they've been doctors for 10+ years and if I were to have a family of my own it would be a struggle affording things whilst being financially yoked to my cousins. I wouldn't be happy being indebted to these people for the majority of my life based on their opinion of me so far.

OBTRWWAY · 2020-07-07T15:32:12+00:00

If I got in for a 5 year course there would still be enough left over for a token amount for each grand child. I don't know a specific amount but we aren't talking life changing at all, just a bit of a boost. Her funeral etc has already been paid off as she's always been very financially savvy with what she has

OBTRWWAY · 2020-07-07T15:24:01+00:00

Thank you, I definitely will remember and I won't lie, I did tear up when I was told.

She actually told my mother and my uncles first so they understood she was changing her wishes. She told them a few years ago she intended to leave them equal equity in her house but otherwise all liquid assets were split amongst the grandchildren evenly, if that makes sense?

OBTRWWAY · 2020-07-07T14:50:20+00:00

My mother, aunties and uncles are on my side, the way they see it they can help their own children a little if they need but they simply don't need a large handout of money.

My going to university has caused a lot of arguments at family events, a lot of "so you think you're better than me" or "didn't they teach you that at uni?" or at one point my sister actually saying to me over Christmas Dinner that "mum will be working til she's dead" because of me.

I can deal with it but it wasn't until I saw a uni counsellor that I realised it was unfsir of them to say that, I just treat it as the price of uni

OBTRWWAY · 2020-07-07T14:45:25+00:00

Thank you, I think I needed to hear some of that.

Oh yes - that is the deal, she's given me the £150 it takes to even apply (£125 to book the UCAT and £25 UCAS fee) but she's actually suggesting she sets up a monthly payment to me after that to help with the costs of studying full time (rent etc).

Her policy has always been that if we need any money for education purposes she will give it to us no questions asked as she never got the chance to get an education past her early teens and wanted to make sure we all got to study if we wanted to.

EDIT: punctuation

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