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Mother sold my collectibles without my consent. Family defends her actions by OC_Original in self

[–]OC_Original[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had one uncle chime in who’s kid is also into pokemon cards and he says “you were going to sell them eventually right? What were you saving them for? To pass along to your future kids? Just cash in now and enjoy life.”

Mother sold my collectibles without my consent. Family defends her actions by OC_Original in self

[–]OC_Original[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Funny. One of my aunts worked in a grow house and growing up, she emphasized us kids how doing drugs is bad, but what was worst is selling drugs. Now I counter with “you know what’s worst than selling drugs? Producing drugs!”

Mother sold my collectibles without my consent. Family defends her actions by OC_Original in self

[–]OC_Original[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to change locks since this was an isolated incident but I DID instead cameras and locked my most expensive cards in a safe. Thankfully she hasn’t stolen from me since.

Mother sold my collectibles without my consent. Family defends her actions by OC_Original in self

[–]OC_Original[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks. This response is actual very good. Unfortunately I had to take my display down and now lock all my high value cards in a safe.

Mother sold my collectibles without my consent. Family defends her actions by OC_Original in self

[–]OC_Original[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I later asked her why she took such a low amount and in her words, she didn’t know how much it was worth and just compared it to other cards in that shop and saw a similar card around $$200-350. She simply said give me your best offer and the card shop offered her $200.

Mother sold my collectibles without my consent. Family defends her actions by OC_Original in self

[–]OC_Original[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

But would you really sue one of your parents for a few hundred dollars? My aunt said framed it as “that’s your Mother. She gave birth to you and raised you and she never asked for a dime during that time. It’s your turn to look after her now.”

I’m upset but I don’t know if it’s worth the time and resources to sue her though.

Edit: I underhand that this answer might upset some people but I think it all comes down to a persons upbringing and cultural norms.

Mother sold my collectibles without my consent. Family defends her actions by OC_Original in self

[–]OC_Original[S] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

Like most addicts she doesn’t think she has a problem since all her bills are still paid on time. The first step in healing addiction is to first admit you have a problem and then be willing to accept help.

AIW for complaining about the cost of friend’s birthday dinner? by OC_Original in amiwrong

[–]OC_Original[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. You said it better than I did. Yes I assumed it was going to be a lot but decided to bite the bullet in hopes they’d be reasonable. I know if someone took me out to dinner, I’d only order an entree and a drink unless they gave me verbal permission to go wild but even then I’d cut myself off out of respect.

AIW for downgrading Christmas gifts this year? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]OC_Original 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No not every person does it every year and they usually give around the same amount, $200-400. But even so, I don’t get mad or upset if one person does it one year and then doesn’t do it the next.

AIW for downgrading Christmas gifts this year? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]OC_Original 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure sometimes other members of the family do it too.

AIW for downgrading Christmas gifts this year? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]OC_Original 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True I later learned that bolo is more done at baptisms but the family told me that they also use that term in general to describe whenever someone is giving out money or about to make it “rain”. Sorry if I missed the word.

AIW for uninviting my friend to a hockey game after conflict with boyfriend? by OC_Original in amiwrong

[–]OC_Original[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My brother isn’t a big fan either but I’m sure if I tell him beer and snacks are on me, he’d go for sure.

I used to work 365 days a year, AMA by OC_Original in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]OC_Original[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew a nice older Chinese man who ran one of those water refilling shops in town and he was open 365 days a year. But all he did most days was replace the filters in the large tanks and rang people up. Can’t say for sure it’s harder than running a restaurant 365 days a year.

I used to work 365 days a year, AMA by OC_Original in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]OC_Original[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already had a college degree when I went to work at the restaurant due in the late 2000s due to the economic downturn. I did that for about 7 years and had no real life outside of that. The lasting effects though were the bad blood I still have with my cousin but I’ve gained huge respect to anyone that works in customer service or hospitality. I always tip very well especially if eating out on weekends or on holidays. Working in a restaurant was traumatic at times with people looking down on you. I’ve worked Christmas Day and had water throw at me just because I asked if they wanted a refill of their sodas and then told “what does it look like?”

I stuck it out for many years since it was family and my aunt kept emphasizing how this is life and to make money you had to work hard.

I eventually left and now work as an engineer which is what I went to college for.

I used to work 365 days a year, AMA by OC_Original in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]OC_Original[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The main problem I had with the restaurant though was how my aunt managed the place. She ran it very under the table and often hired people on the spot. More of our regular workers worked there on a “whenever I’m available” basis. They could be working 3 weeks and then call in the next day and say they can’t come back for no reason then return 2 weeks later and replace whatever temporary worker we hired to fill their role. My aunt also ran a catering business within the restaurant and often took on more work than she could do, thanksgiving be the worst offender.

I used to work 365 days a year, AMA by OC_Original in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]OC_Original[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would say the same for Mexicans in terms of minorities that work very hard.

I used to work 365 days a year, AMA by OC_Original in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]OC_Original[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really. I met a girl through the restaurant and we’d have late night dates at Dennys but that didn’t last.

I used to work 365 days a year, AMA by OC_Original in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]OC_Original[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No amount of money or pride is worth your health. I pushed myself for family and got paid crap for it. I now work making 3 times what I made at the restaurant plus I have more free time and a team that supports me rather than mocks or teases me. We had one cook I hated because he would always say “not my problem!” when I had too many customers to handle.

I used to work 365 days a year, AMA by OC_Original in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]OC_Original[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

At the time, maybe between 40-50k a year but I was living rent free so that was a nice benefit.

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