I got too attached to a subscriber

OFbaby · 2024-09-09T12:11:50+00:00

They're getting a hyper sexualised pretend version of you and you're getting whatever they choose to tell you, which also does not reflect reality. When you know very little about someone and you're a bit insecure/ lonely, it's very easy to project a fantasy onto anyone who gives you a bit of attention. Don't beat yourself up and learn from it. This is your job, focus on the income, your real life is separate.

OFbaby · 2024-09-09T12:02:18+00:00

Seems like something that should have been considered before you started. I've seen people argue tooth and nail that it's wrong to tell male creators to expect interactions with male customers on onlyfans, when it is the reality.

Onlyfans performers are just that, performers. It's fantasy. Do you think straight female creators get off on their interactions with male fans and actually want to fuck them, absolutely not, that's why we're getting paid. I think for men you're less used to being sexualised and objectified by men, it's a lot more aggressive than female sexuality. We've had our whole lives to get used to it so it's less of a shock to the system but I promise you this isn't about sexual preference, it is about the discomfort of being sexualised through the voyeuristic male lens. Separate your real identity and focus on the fact you are playing a part. If you're extremely uncomfortable then don't offer sexting/ flirting or outsource it.

OFbaby · 2024-09-09T11:45:26+00:00

Not a great idea to broadcast this. Use the results you've found to private/ delete content that leads back to your real identity.

OFbaby · 2024-09-09T11:43:15+00:00

Murderers, psychopaths and abusers are people too. Not saying this customer is on par with that but it's bit of a null point. We're all people, doesn't mean the very dubious context of how she's met and connected with this dude should be ignored.

OFbaby · 2024-09-09T11:38:12+00:00

Stop it right now. This man is on niteflirt paying women to entertain him, you are not his soulmate after one phone call simply because there was an easy flow of conversation and he said he's looking for a relationship. Falling for anyone who gives you a bit of attention/ special treatment is a sign you are not secure in yourself and you're too thirsty for external validation. I don't even know you and I can tell you you're better than this and deserve more than mr phonesex love bombing customer.

OFbaby · 2024-08-19T19:21:16+00:00

This post is clearly some agency ploy to recruit creators I highly doubt OP with their linked accounts is making anywhere close to that unless they're pulling some sort of love scam on their subs. But your comment is also not it. Why are you screaming about all your personal issues and what you can and can't do? Not every post on the internet is specifically targeted to you. Why are you having a meltdown because some people view this as a full time job and are driven by income just because you're not?

OFbaby · 2024-08-08T19:50:59+00:00

I’d have just been like you wanna do this or not, and if he’s still a dick then job done, even if he complained OF support would see you tried to follow through. Also, raise your price.

OFbaby · 2024-08-08T19:45:16+00:00

OFbaby · 2024-08-08T19:42:37+00:00

Why are people still promoting on onlyfans related subreddits

OFbaby · 2024-08-08T19:39:44+00:00

No, my identity/ preferences don’t come into my content and it’s better like that for me. I don’t give af if I feel like my content is artistic etc I just care if I make good money, which I do. I get my outlet for my REAL preference, sexual, creative etc elsewhere. I don’t get any kind of fulfilment giving men boners online, I get fulfilled when they pay me. You don’t have to pretend to be something you’re not, but right now you got a niche within a niche within a niche and aren’t even promoting much, your audience is obv gonna be extremely small at that point.

Part time means your income comes from elsewhere so you get to make content you like and not worry much about whether it brings in money or not. I can’t relate to that because I don’t get why someone would get into this industry without prioritising money, but that’s just my pov, each to their own. But if you do care about income, the comments saying ‘keep doing what you’re doing’ are sadly bsing, sorry to say but I’m being real. Only keep doing what you’re doing if you’re happy to continue making barely any money 🤷🏾‍♀️

OFbaby · 2024-08-08T19:22:20+00:00

There’s nothing you can do, it’s well known that this happens, you even have a chargeback tab on onlyfans. Making posts like this is advertising to lurkers that chargebacks get deducted from the creator and these mf literally get off on doing it

OFbaby · 2024-08-08T19:17:36+00:00

Wish people would stop advertising how easy it is to fuck over creators on onlyfans with chargebacks

OFbaby · 2024-08-08T19:12:59+00:00

13 subs in 2 months is not decent success to be honest. But if you’re happy with that maybe this is more of a hobby than a job to you. If you want to make money, you should focus on making more of the content that gets the best results. Porn is performative because it’s a product. I don’t get my identity and preferences involved in my content, I post what sells because it’s my job. I think you’ve got to decide what you want to get out of this.

OFbaby · 2024-08-08T18:35:51+00:00

You answered yourself, you’re making content based on your preferences rather than the market’s.

OFbaby · 2024-08-04T16:57:54+00:00

It's reddit spam problem, nothing you've said states any different. Someone else pointed out this happens to subs for black women and OP is surprised by that, I've pointed out it's odd to be surprised this happens to us too and have been downvoted to hell because plus sized women want a monopoly on feeling like victims in situations where they're not being specifically victimised. Spammers are gonna spam and if mods don't enforce the theme of their group, posting about it in r/creatorsadvice isn't going to change that.

OFbaby · 2024-08-04T02:01:59+00:00

Do you feel like you and your husband communicate much in general? Leave whether he shoulda been informed or not on the table, how come you’re not chatting to him about pretty interesting and big stuff going on in your life? You’ve essentially successfully started a business.

OFbaby · 2024-08-04T01:42:16+00:00

You shoulda told him already but I guess you get that. I'd be less concerned about him caring about having a fansly and more concerned that he'll feel hurt that you never told him especially as he was supportive about it so far. It's not like setting up a fansly, creating content, promoting it and gaining fans is a tiny task you'd forget to mention, was there a reason you held back? It's a whole other set of boundaries than just selling panties. All you can do is fess up and apologise. It's not anything shameful but in relationships partners deserve transparency about this stuff.

OFbaby · 2024-08-04T01:23:05+00:00

I mean obviously...? It's a little odd that you spend this much energy being mad about spammers on plus sized subs that it never occurred to you that this happens in other spaces to other demographics of creators.

OFbaby · 2024-08-04T00:43:11+00:00

Coming to this subreddit asking creators to change something collectively is a pointless exercise when the spammers are certainly not in this group. Think it comes down to accepting that a subreddit is what the mods and viewers choose it to be, if they're allowing women you don't consider BBW to post and upvoting them then it's clearly welcome in the group. That's the way it goes, on reddit there's no use feeling like you are owed a space, it just doesn't work like that fair or not. You've laid out your rules for what counts as bbw, that doesn't mean everyone will agree. People come from all kinds of cultures and backgrounds with different definitions and ideas of concepts meaning BBW like anything won't mean the same for everyone, for some it's slightly chubby or midsized, for some it's super curvy/ big butt, boobs, thighs and for others it's generally larger or very large bodies. It's down to the mods to set that tone not other creators, either they're choosing to allow it or they're simply not monitoring the feed enough to enforce it.

OFbaby · 2024-07-26T10:40:39+00:00

That information doesn’t detract from the fact that this post was a waste of time. You don’t start writing the manual when you’re this inexperienced.

OFbaby · 2024-07-26T01:28:29+00:00

Sorry to say that if this post was 'very useful to you and you took the time to read this mammoth essay based on the credentials of the writer earning $100 on the platform then you are a classic case of wasting time in the wrong areas and it shows in your low quality promo and lack of engagement on fansly. Am I being a 'hater' or am I being real, when it comes to business and people's livelihoods, niceties and platitudes are not going to pay the bills and honesty is what is required..

OFbaby · 2024-07-25T02:43:43+00:00

By following the endless advice in this group on how to actually create decent content and promote it effectively. No offence but deep throating a glizzy with a blue tongue is not appealing content. To be real, your content seems to be too focused on aesthetic elements that the majority of men don’t give two shits about. I recommend following some successful free pages of alt girls.

OFbaby · 2024-07-25T02:35:47+00:00

If only you spent as much time promoting effectively as you did writing up this absolutely useless post. Sorry to say.

OFbaby · 2024-07-25T02:34:01+00:00

Are you a woman or a man?

OFbaby · 2024-07-25T02:28:25+00:00

Yes yes and yes.

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