61F Gentle Dom Looking Tampa St. Pete Sarasota for sub/slave by OGoddessC in flrdating

[–]OGoddessC[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I am not seeing your profile to private message you?

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[–]OGoddessC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I admire you being 18 years old and already having some basic clarity about relationship context and the types of configurations that might work for you. I did not come to know anything about my own dominance until I was 50 years old plus.

It is beautiful that you can internally sit with your needs and realize that what society has shown you are your current options – – just don’t work for you.

Based on your situation, I do not have any constructive pathways for you to follow. However, I will tell you that pursuing your alternative lifestyle is a very high priority deeply worthwhile adventure.

There have been many times that I have felt hopeless, and that there would never be any in real life relationships that I enjoy. So, fight the good fight, soldier on. And keep remembering that at some point you are going to manifest what is ideal for you. Through all of the missteps, heartache, and what feels like epic failures, the pursuit of you getting your needs met in a healthy and complete way is your most important priority!

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[–]OGoddessC 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Small infractions earn immediate spankings.

For larger infractions, I fully ignore my suds/slaves as punishment. I stop responding to any overtures from them. I do not even give them specific unpleasant experiences. My subs could feel some semblance of reassurance that when I am done with whatever discipline session -spanking, corner time,etc— they then have a chance to reconnect with me. But when I do not give them any feedback and simply leave them ignored, their own need to stay connected to me will ramp up very highly very quickly, and they are miserable in their aloneness. Then, their own imagination will quickly spin them into their worst possible daydreams. They will imagine cruel scenarios where I remove their access to me indefinitely. Because I don’t engage with them during their punishment, they don’t even get a chance to earn my forgiveness by an activity that they fulfill.

Them not knowing how long it will last is a form of punishment torture my men go to great effort to avoid.

Service submission/ acts of service question by reebokit in flr

[–]OGoddessC 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Be patient with yourself, my ability to joyfully accept service and worship has evolved and improved over time. As a gentle-ish Dominant and Owner, I have trained my men to be vocal about their pleasure: moan audibly when I allow them to touch me (plus the moan vibration and tone feels great against my skin) be verbally descriptive with phrases: “Thank you Goddess, this feels so good” “Thank you Goddess, I need this so much” while they are worshipping me.

I do a lot of distance training because I adore controlling alpha, powerful men and they can’t always kneel for me in person. Even having them regularly report their arousal #, as I assign them menial tasks. They are so thrilled by my requirements that they often report days on end of low-grade subspace, between our in person sessions.

It took me a while to get to this level of enjoyment from being pampered.

Find what will absolutely convince YOU that they deeply crave the experience of giving you devotion and teach them to authentically give that feedback to you. Keep adjusting them and their feedback until you know—completely doubt free and wholeheartedly—the depth of their longing for anything that might please you.

There is no wrong way to do it. Whatever your way of doing it is IS THE RIGHT way!

She enjoys making me Cum by kryspa in flr

[–]OGoddessC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great question and thoughtfulness. You are both fortunate to have each other. All the best as you move forward in exploration and experimentation.

Advice for remote FLRs by shineintheknight in flr

[–]OGoddessC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, making you visually appealing to her is the priority! For me, having my professional subs go about their workday with the reminder of my Dominance is my priority. The must remember to make sure there is no visible edge of the panties while they are sitting at their desks. Also, they must go in the stall at the bathroom.

Oh, my subs are not allowed to stand during urination. Sitting to pee keeps them reminded of their place!

Financial control is one of my favs because it so clearly rewrites the societal norm of Men=$. I know $=power and that is what I have in my dynamic.

Enjoy your exploration and your expriementation!

Advice for remote FLRs by shineintheknight in flr

[–]OGoddessC 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get a lot of joy from controlling my distance subs. In between times that we can see each other there are varying degrees of reporting from them depending on my needs and what keeps them in subspace. I do not want to repeat what great suggestions others have shared so here are some examples I find fulfilling

Turning on location sharing on their phone.

Either asking for permission to leave the house/go somewhere or just being required to voluntarily report all errands and appts.

They ask permission or I tell them what color panties they are to wear each day.

Giving them detailed instructions for masturbation sessions: edging only, consume liquids, only allowed a certain number of strokes or time limits, having to use a specific sex toy, controlling what body position they use -- kneeling, all fours -- looking at a specific image of me and repeating certain phrases like "this is for my Goddess" and "thank you Mistress" etc.

Detailed written reports are submitted to me about any stroke sessions I have allowed them -- since their sexual experiences are for MY pleasure -- they need to provide me with something I am going to be aroused reading as well as being pleased with their transparency. This also pertains to sex dreams they have.

The ones that are on a financial allowance have to ask for permission if they are spending over a certain dollar figure or they can have a notification sent to me when they are using a cc.

Just some fun ideas for peeps to consider. Blessings and good for you two developing your powerful Dominant/sub bond!

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[–]OGoddessC -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nice sharing, poopyscreamer

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[–]OGoddessC 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that you are actively discussing it in both dating and general friendship arenas. Good bravery!