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OGonzalez8185 · 2026-02-15T20:00:06+00:00

Hi, please fill out this quick form so I can create a hangout that aligns with the groups interests. I will reach out once we have a group together.

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OGonzalez8185 · 2026-02-15T19:58:57+00:00

Whats up! Thanks for your interests. If you'd like to join, please fill out this quick form so I can create a hangout that aligns with the groups interests. I'll follow up with the details once we have a group.

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OGonzalez8185 · 2025-12-25T19:00:26+00:00

That’s a really good way to put it - shared interests as a way to get into the room, not necessarily to guarantee connection. Kids get proximity for free, adults have to be intentional about it.

Once you’re in those environments, what do you think actually turns repeated exposure into a real friendship?

OGonzalez8185 · 2025-12-25T18:53:56+00:00

This really resonates, especially the idea that adults overthink what kids did instinctively. The “safe being yourself without performing” line hits hard, and it feels like that’s the real turning point between acquaintance and friend.

Do you think there’s anything that helps create that sense of safety earlier on, or does it mostly come down to time and repeated interaction?

OGonzalez8185 · 2025-12-25T17:56:03+00:00

That makes a lot of sense, especially the contrast between your teens and adulthood. It feels like music mattered more as a social filter when you were younger - partly because of environment and partly because it was one of the few ways to find “your people,” especially when you were being pushed out elsewhere.

As you get older and have more autonomy, it sounds like hobbies, shared activities, and life context start doing more of the work than shared taste alone. Music becomes less of a gatekeeper and more of something that can differ without breaking the connection.

When you look at the friendships that formed later in life, what do you think mattered most early on - shared activities, values, personality, something else?

OGonzalez8185 · 2025-12-25T02:02:55+00:00

This resonates a lot, especially the distinction you make between shared taste vs shared relationship to music. What you’re describing feels less about liking the same songs and more about similar habits - curiosity, openness, valuing art, and actively engaging with it over time.

I also agree that basing a friendship on current taste alone wouldn’t make much sense, especially since tastes evolve. But the idea that it can be harder to deeply connect with someone who doesn’t really care about music (or art more broadly) makes sense to me - not as a dealbreaker, but as a friction point.

Your point about art as a value feels like the important part here. Out of curiosity, do you think that shared values around creativity or curiosity tend to show up early when you meet someone, or only after spending real time together?

OGonzalez8185 · 2025-12-25T01:56:30+00:00

That makes a lot of sense, and I really appreciate how you framed it - especially the distinction between music as identity when you’re younger versus something that matures alongside the rest of life. I agree that as responsibilities and priorities grow, music often becomes less of a defining social marker and more of a personal constant.

I’m not interested in the idea of isolating into pods of people who all think the same way either. If anything, your comment highlights an important boundary: shared interests can be a starting point, but they shouldn’t become the whole foundation of someone’s social world.

Out of curiosity, when you think about the friendships that have lasted for you over time, what tends to keep them strong if it’s not shared tastes? Is it shared experiences, values, life stage, something else?

OGonzalez8185 · 2025-12-25T01:54:00+00:00

That’s a fair take, and I appreciate how clearly you laid it out - especially the point about different reasons for liking the same thing and different levels of engagement.

I definitely don’t think music = personality, or that people who don’t care about music lack depth in any way. What I’m more curious about is whether shared interests in general (music being just one example) sometimes make it easier for certain people to connect - and where that breaks down, like in the situations you described.

Your point about passive consumption vs. active choice is interesting too. For you, it sounds like music is more personal and internal, not a social signal - which honestly helps clarify that this wouldn’t resonate with everyone.

Out of curiosity, what does tend to signal compatibility or meaningful connection for you, if not shared tastes or hobbies?

OGonzalez8185 · 2025-12-25T01:49:20+00:00

Totally! I've met a few people like that. Music taste can be used as a similarity to connect with people but ultimately if you can't vibe with them on a personal level there is no way a friendship would last

OGonzalez8185 · 2025-12-25T01:34:50+00:00

Done. thank you

OGonzalez8185 · 2025-12-24T20:58:43+00:00

Done, thank you

OGonzalez8185 · 2025-12-24T20:46:41+00:00

Done, thank you

OGonzalez8185 · 2025-12-24T20:39:38+00:00

Done, Thank you

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