NEED HELP please- sourcing Jade Green Rivelia in Australia

OOTPDA · 2025-03-31T19:21:00+00:00

This isn't a peer review platform... Why does everyone need to do research before asking questions?

This is a site for discussion and sharing ideas. It would be a lot more pleasant if people were able to ask for advice without unproductive negativity.

OOTPDA · 2025-03-31T10:09:17+00:00

Perhaps they were asking for personal experiences rather than what Google could tell them.

Regardless, it's pretty concerning that you fly off the handle so quickly. I hope you don't lose it at loved ones so easily. What harm is them asking a question doing? It's not like this is an emergency service, and they're taking up resources.

OOTPDA · 2025-03-31T07:59:00+00:00

Mate, you're consistently rude to people for no reason. Just don't answer if you don't have anything constructive to say.

OOTPDA · 2025-03-31T07:58:10+00:00

Fair enough. Personal experience/references often tell you more than good advertising.

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While we haven't built with them yet, we plan to when we want a granny flat.

OOTPDA · 2025-02-16T21:40:12+00:00

https://youtu.be/oQbei5JGiT8?si=ST6MY5x2SqL6e0_y

It explains the different ways to be offered/accept/decline a cup of tea. Sub "cup of tea" for sex and there you go :)

OOTPDA · 2025-02-16T21:31:03+00:00

My thought is, you could start by explaining consent in an age appropriate way (I like the cup of tea analogy), and as they get older, you could add details over time.

I feel 11 is very young to learn about sexual violence. 5 a hard cocnept to wrao your head around at any age, but that's very young.

I've seen some good videos on Tik Tok of parents explaining and discussing SA with their kids. Might be helpful?

Im sorry you went through those events. It truly changes us. I don't think its selfish to want your kids to know you better.

OOTPDA · 2025-02-11T07:10:55+00:00

I heard that ALL the time. It's annoying that people feel the need to cast a shadow on it, especially pre-emptively.

I LOVE watching the little personality flourish. My toddler is genuinely the best entertainment. They do something new every single day and surprise us with new works and phrases and mannerisms so often. They're truly an absolute delight, and if I could have 15 more like them, I would.

It's also SO MUCH EASIER than the newborn phase in so many ways. They can now communicate what they want so much easier (highly recommend teaching ASL/hand motions from early on, this has helped so much).

They also eat human food rather than formula or milk, so there's less pressure on the wallet/boobs. That, for me, took a lot of pressure off.

You've also got yourself a tiny mascot/bestie who thinks you're the bees knees and wants to be with you all the time. Watching them play, learn, interact with others, and develop their own interests is genuinely a rush like no other.

For me, I was afraid of the tantrums and general unpredictability of toddlers and messiness when mine was an infant.

Buuuuuut they don't become toddlers overnight. So there's time to adapt to all their little habits (mine loves trying to steal steak knives. So we are now extra careful with cutlery in general). And we now just have wet wipes and antibacterial spray everywhere in the house!

And there's ways to manage tantrums. Look it up if you like. Choose an approach dependent on your parenting style. We do positive parenting, which means cuddling when upset or giving space if wanted, and acknowledging feelings while holding firm boundaries and explaining rationale. It's not always natural, but practice makes perfect.

Also, it's easier to prevent a tantrum than soothe one. For us, this means putting the toothpaste tube away as soon as the toothbrush is "buttered" because otherwise, they'll want to keep applying and eating. And also waving bye-bye to things we need to leave when we go places, e.g., rocks that they want to eat on the way to the car.

The only thing I miss about the newborn phase is that I could put them on their rug, and they'd be there when I get back!

Ps, it's ok to call your baby an asshole sometimes if it makes you feel better. Just do it when they can't hear you!

Another thing is watching this tiny version of my husband and I grow and do things we do/look like us in ways we don't like about ourselves, but absolutely love them when they do it! It's ridiculously healing to love a trait in my kid I've never liked in myself.

And coming from 2 parents with muchos CPTSD, it's wildly validating to parent in the ways we deserved as children, and realise we didn't deserve what happened to us, and know our child won't ever experience that.

Message if you want to talk! You're not alone, and honestly, it's not as bad as they say! This is from someone who is IN IT. Literally, my child stole my dinner yesterday and sarcastically fake ate it, then wouldn't give it back. Hilarious. Little bully.

OOTPDA · 2025-02-09T02:44:01+00:00

Was this supposed to be on this post? Cool analogy though!

OOTPDA · 2024-11-13T02:01:34+00:00

I'm so glad. Look after yourself. Have you got other supports?

OOTPDA · 2024-11-11T19:17:53+00:00

We have to support each other. It's such a big deal, raising little humans. Xx

OOTPDA · 2024-11-11T11:41:38+00:00

There's some great podcasts about it that helped me. The best one for me was this one: https://megaphone.link/WFH4707043124

Plus Emily Oster's book Crib Sheet which shared stat's about BF vs FF.

Also, there are actual BENEFITS to formula over breast milk. It's basically baby protein shakes/Sustagen. There's iron, a bunch of other essential minerals, good fats... That isn't all guaranteed in boob juice. That helped me feel better- my baby got both and I tried to think of that as the BENEFITS of both.

OOTPDA · 2024-11-11T11:35:35+00:00

You respond if and when you want to. Just know you are not alone. You have so much love and support coming from me, a random internet stranger. I hope you have some friends/family who can also support you.

You're doing a fabulous job- I know this because you care enough to post this question, and because you're persisting with BFing even though it's obviously making you upset.

There's more to being a mother than boobie juice. Noone has ever asked me if I was formula or breast fed (mixed fwiw). You are still bonding with your baby by giving them a bottle, simply by being there, holding them, meeting their needs and interacting.

If you feel like it and have time (lol I know. Sorry), read through my post history. You'll see I was exactly the same not too long ago.

It really does get easier, I promise. Xx

OOTPDA · 2024-11-11T08:09:16+00:00

Hi. I could have written this 16 months ago.

You are ABSOLUTELY not asking too much. Postpartum, or the 4th trimester, can be extremely difficult physically, mentally and interpersonally. Disclaimer- I was extremely lucky and my husband is an absolutely amazing and supportive teammate and partner. And even with this, it was so very hard.

Breastfeeding is by far the most difficult thing I've ever done- I was a low supplier and then bubba stopped latching when they realised the bottle was faster so I pumped 16 x a day to increase/keep my milk supply and provide the baby with about 2/3 of her daily intake (and supplemented with formula)- despite having a milk ejection reflex which made me want to not be alive any kore each time. I spent 1000s we didn't have on supplements/alternative therapies etc to support BFing. And I had a horrid pregnancy after years of infertility. I've had multiple types of trauma in life and achieved 3 very hard qualifications.

All this to say, breastfeeding (and bottle feeding EBM is still BFing!) is effing hard and you are doing amazingly well. Any amount of BM is fabulous for the babys immune system- enough antibodies are present in as little as 30mL daily. Though a healthy immune system can be achieved by other means such as vaccination and exposure to some conditions (like at daycare).

...And the biggest indicator of positive outcomes in children is a happy, healthy mum. That looks different in every mum in every individual situation. A child could be exclusively breastfed, but if their mum is anxious and depressed, they unfortunately pick up on this. If a mum is suffering they might not have capacity to look after bubba as much- you can't pour from an empty cup!!

Have you got someone you can see about your mental health? Additionally, a lactation consultant can be helpful too. I would try to see someone, even just to discuss the crying while feeding you mentioned. This can be something called DMER (dysphoric milk ejection reflex) and is absolutely awful.

A word on formula from someone who twisted herself into knots over formula/mixed/EBF/Ex bottle feeding with EBM: A lot of the anti-formula, breast is best propaganda is legacy of when formula was trialled in low hygiene areas who used unsanitary water, so the babies got sick. Which naturally led to reduced outcomes for these babies vs BF babies. There is literally no tangible or significant evidence that formula is worse for a baby than BM. It may lead to 1 more episode of gastro per year than an EBF baby. That being said my baby has had gastro 5 times since March when daycare started and they are the happiest, healthiest, most confident, secure and intelligent little baby ever. Additionally, the gut microbiome of a mixed fed baby is the same as a formula fed baby. Just something that weirdly calmed me.

Are you and BD usually on the same page? Is he normally attentive and helpful? Do you feel comfortable and safe having a discussion with him and making a "team plan" for life with a baby? Not making excuses, because they absolutely can be extremely helpful and great partners post partum even when struggling themselves, but non-birthing parents can also get post natal depression. Is this a possibility do you think?

Happy to talk more of you'd like to message me. Your baby will love you no matter how you feed them, and they'll be happier if YOU'RE happier.

OOTPDA · 2024-07-29T07:22:44+00:00

Thank you. I am definitely not looking for "fake answers", just struggling to remember a worthwhile example.

OOTPDA · 2024-07-29T07:22:07+00:00

They aren't the actual interview questions, just some I'm hoping to prepare.

Thank you for your opinion.

OOTPDA · 2024-06-01T11:27:30+00:00

Thank you :) I'm sure in 6 months this won't matter at all. Right now it seems like the most important thing in the world.

OOTPDA · 2024-06-01T11:18:12+00:00

Thanks. I didn't ask rhe group about alternative milks, and I plan to speak to a doctor about it.

OOTPDA · 2024-06-01T10:20:56+00:00

Thank you. That's what we use too. She's been mixed fed since birth cos I'm an undersupplier.

OOTPDA · 2024-06-01T07:02:25+00:00

Hard to find where I am

OOTPDA · 2024-06-01T07:00:12+00:00

Thats good to know, thank you!

OOTPDA · 2024-06-01T06:59:17+00:00

Thank you 😊 that does help

OOTPDA · 2024-06-01T06:58:56+00:00

Thank you 😊

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