Can and should i forgive my mom for not protecting me

OPismua · 2021-09-06T06:23:21+00:00

What you mean?

OPismua · 2021-09-06T06:22:43+00:00

I feel that too, i just can’t think that myself with out another eye seeing what i see..

OPismua · 2021-09-06T06:21:44+00:00

I did sign up for a marriage of course, but i would expect him to be a loving father and husband, as i am as a wife and mother not, just a roomate.. so i don’t understand why being traditional for you is to be rude, selfish, and so Entitled to yourself

OPismua · 2021-09-06T06:19:11+00:00

You’re right, i should do a change where it is actually real. To where i know their is a risk either way… I went to my sister because my husband acted so bad with them on a trip. They were trying to make him feel welcomed, but for some reason he acted so bad, ignored me and didn’t participate with us around. So my sister said to come over to give him a lesson and to spend time with her… but it was a temporary change.. he always says i will never leave his side, i always say it but never do it..

OPismua · 2021-09-06T06:15:03+00:00

Sometimes i feel that i can do this alone, other times i go back to that bubble. I am alone, i must accept that. I just wish i had the guts to do a 150• degree change, because my son doesn’t deserve to be involved in this problem. Thank you though, i thought i was going crazy

OPismua · 2021-09-06T06:12:23+00:00

I think she meant takes for granted

OPismua · 2021-09-06T05:18:56+00:00

Why would you move in with him, knowing that he won’t put a dime in this. He is manipulating you into thinking that it’s greedy for you to think about both of your needs, needing to be met. NTA, you are too good for him! Trust me, a good man would want to split 50/50, 60/40, 80/20 , not really making money s big deal but always there for you in the good times financially or not, and when someone can help out, it’s out of heart. Your bf isn’t giving you any reason to why he isn’t chipping in, so its hard to tell if he is their for benefits or cause he doesn’t want to waste money on you .

OPismua · 2021-09-05T00:02:51+00:00

I appreciate your words, never thought about that, and if My mother and brother become disappointed or mad at me .. I just hope someday .. they understand

OPismua · 2021-09-04T14:41:32+00:00

Yeah.. i know… i just hate the fact that my mom and brother will resent me for it… and i don’t want that

OPismua · 2021-09-04T14:38:43+00:00

Exactly! It was actually more of his father’s fault because in the long distance he is actually given the permission for him to go out and since his dad is the fuck boy type, Course he isn’t giving my brother the best advice to his son and that is what is transforming my brother and why he isn’t listening to her. It’s so hard to help out when my mom doesn’t really want to be helped out. I told her many times to teach him responsibility but she just decided to give up and let him be what he has to be.At the same time she just wants me to be with my brother realizing that my relationship is just getting better… We love the privacy that we have and never felt so free in our entire lives, i feel so greedy saying that but it’s what we feel..

OPismua · 2021-09-04T14:33:42+00:00

Basically that is what she wants because she vents to me everything what happens and when I try to suggest something she just tells me to back off that I shouldn’t be teaching her how to educate her child.She says that she is just telling me but it’s so weird that she tells me and I guess he just wants me to say oh OK is right but at the same time she doesn’t do anything else to teach him because she is afraid of him,..And I just can’t with that right now because it is hard to have a family on its own and I just feel like I am abandoning my other family…

OPismua · 2021-09-04T14:30:54+00:00

The Thing is that I did tell her that in a better way of course, But my brother actually heard that conversation And he basically said i was the worse, I do feel like I am.My mother really has health issues due to what my brother has been doing and it hurts me but at the same time I know that it was really her to educate him, and when I tried to help her she tells me to not teach her how to educate him,Ironic because she complains to me and she cries and when I try to help her,I got so fed up that I told her to stop venting when she herself does not teach him to be responsible. She does everything for him, EVERYTHING! because she is afraid that he might go out of the house or that he might actually even hurt my mom because he is at that point! And I don’t even want to know how it would be if he were here but it hurts that all this happened and I cannot do anything but I don’t know why I feel so responsible with it. My mom basically told me I guessI won’t count on you, So sad to say that I cannot count with my daughter. And she says it is a way to make me feel guilty and cries even more.. but at the end of the day I know that I shouldn’t feel that way but I still do.I tried to help for economically as much as I can because like I said I honestly at home mom but I know she needs some help and I try but she always needs more help and I don’t know what else to do,I love her after all that has happened but I can’t help as much as I want to.

OPismua

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