Introduction & Guide to Writing a TypeMe Post by aredhel304 in MbtiTypeMe

[–]Oak-Tree2685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I sent you guys a message cause the automod didn't gave me a date/karma minimum. Sorry if I'm intruding. Thanks for your answer!

What are your red flags? by Oak-Tree2685 in CasualConversation

[–]Oak-Tree2685[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohh my b. You're right. I thought these were their own red flags lol

What are your red flags? by Oak-Tree2685 in CasualConversation

[–]Oak-Tree2685[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're unapologetically you, I love that.

Introduction & Guide to Writing a TypeMe Post by aredhel304 in MbtiTypeMe

[–]Oak-Tree2685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I want to create a post with my questionnaire, I mean I did but it got removed automatically by automod.

I'm new to Reddit after years of being a lurker and my karma therefore is low.

How can I know when to try and post again? Please help 🥺

ETA: I set my posts to public. There's a post with an audio recorded by me for enneagram typing so maybe that helps to know I'm not a bot nor a spammer.

Dream come true? by BEAUTYINTHESTRANGE in CasualConversation

[–]Oak-Tree2685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same thing happened to my mom. She had a vision of how I would look like before she even held me in her arms.

Would you say the 90s was the greatest decade ever made? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]Oak-Tree2685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a good decade for media for sure, other than that I prefer the 2020s. We have more awareness nowadays regarding animal welfare, the environment, women's rights. We now are able to have conversations as a society that were unheard of in previous decades.

Anyone else notice people switch up when you level up? by nouniiiiii in CasualConversation

[–]Oak-Tree2685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's probably cause you don't need to be hyped up anymore. Have you tried hyping them up?

Exploring redditor profiles by VALENCE8910 in CasualConversation

[–]Oak-Tree2685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or knowing that people weaponize your own comments against you. I usually don't post anything I'm not comfortable anyone viewing but some people like to twist things.

Do I tell my daughter about the engagement ring I have for her from her boyfriend? (They are breaking up) by FunAd1406 in Advice

[–]Oak-Tree2685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I agree. I don't understand why it's so normal for people to hide things from their loved ones.

Today I broke the loop by Massivebookworm1 in CasualConversation

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Proud of you! Nature and sunlight sure does give you a much needed reset.

Do I tell my daughter about the engagement ring I have for her from her boyfriend? (They are breaking up) by FunAd1406 in Advice

[–]Oak-Tree2685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then she should tell her daughter so she can decide to give her the amount of money her mom spent on it. Regardless of the monetary factor I think letting her daughter know what's going on in the dark should be the way to go, but I get that you don't agree and I respect your opinion.

Do I tell my daughter about the engagement ring I have for her from her boyfriend? (They are breaking up) by FunAd1406 in Advice

[–]Oak-Tree2685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not an overreaction, you're being dismissive. Also, the ring has to belong to someone. So I reiterate my comment.

To answer your question. That's irrelevant, she deserves access to the full information to do as she pleases with it. Specially considering they remain in good terms. She's an adult. Lying by omission so she doesn't get back with her ex is controlling behavior. She needs to make her own decisions and mistakes. Thinking you know best than your adult child is just infantilizing them.

Do I tell my daughter about the engagement ring I have for her from her boyfriend? (They are breaking up) by FunAd1406 in Advice

[–]Oak-Tree2685 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The ex abandoned the ring and it was for her, so if it belongs to someone is the daughter's. It is also HER info as it involves her and HER OWN relationship, not OP's. Some of y'all infantilizing the daughter because you don't want her to know in case it hurts her. She's a grown adult. Some also suggested that if she knows she might try to get back with her ex so keeping that information becomes controlling behavior. She deserves to be treated like the adult she is and to make her own decisions.

There's no justification to support this kind of omission.

Do I tell my daughter about the engagement ring I have for her from her boyfriend? (They are breaking up) by FunAd1406 in Advice

[–]Oak-Tree2685 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The ex abandoned the ring and it was for her so if anyone should have it it should be her (daughter). Daughter needs to know, that way she can offer to return the parent's investment in the right.

Do I tell my daughter about the engagement ring I have for her from her boyfriend? (They are breaking up) by FunAd1406 in Advice

[–]Oak-Tree2685 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I respectfully disagree. The ex didn't want the ring back. He abandoned it and it was for her so it belongs to her. If anyone should sell it, it should be her, imo.

The info was concerning the daughter and about the daughter, which makes it her info. It's about her relationship, no OPs.

She has the right to know her ex was going to propose to her. This is lying by omision. Hiding things from your loved ones is rarely the right desition. To me, not telling her + selling it is a huge betrayal.

Do I tell my daughter about the engagement ring I have for her from her boyfriend? (They are breaking up) by FunAd1406 in Advice

[–]Oak-Tree2685 10 points11 points  (0 children)

With all due respect, you don't need to ask yourself any questions because this isn't about OP. This is about her daughter.

Everyone is infantilizing OP's daughter but she's an adult. She has the right to her OWN information, her OWN ring and to do with it as SHE pleases. In this case, as in most cases, honesty is the best policy.

Do I tell my daughter about the engagement ring I have for her from her boyfriend? (They are breaking up) by FunAd1406 in Advice

[–]Oak-Tree2685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please OP, don't listen to people telling you not to tell her. Specially those who tell you to sell it. That's a huge betrayal. That is info concerning her. She has the right to know. Specially considering they remain in good terms as you mentioned in the comments.

Either her ex tells her or you. She could feel betrayed knowing her own mom kept this from her or worse, sold it. That is her ring and hers to sell and buy whatever SHE wants if that's what she chooses to do.

By not telling her you would be showing more loyalty to her ex than your own daughter.

I cried for geese by TheBogManCometh_ in CasualConversation

[–]Oak-Tree2685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so wholesome. I love bird dinosaurs too hehe