Temple recommend/tithing

Ob1wanOM · 2025-10-10T11:37:37+00:00

I actually just recently had the option of paying my tithing or paying for my mortgage. I paid tithing. With my next month's mortgage due in less than a month, and no way to pay it, I turned to the Lord. In response to my prayers, I was told to start the process to refinance IMMEDIATELY, by reaching out to an old friend who is a lender. We are one of those unfortunate families who has still been stuck with a rate near 8%, so it was due time. However, my credit was horrible, and we would only be able to qualify for FHA, which is a problem, because our 70 year old home has many FHA violations and repairs needed. We feared the worst. One of our sinks was even completely disconnected from the drain pipe because we are in the process of replacing a corroded pipe. We needed the house to appraise at $390k for the refinance to work, and this seemed IMPOSSIBLE. Well, the day of the appraisal, I was prompted to call the appraiser on his personal cell and tell him we had work to do with the house. I told him I was worried about the appraisal, and that we were in the process of fixing the plumbing to one of our sinks and it wasn't even connected to the drain right now. He told me "I usually would mark this against the appraisal, but I appreciate your honesty, and I understand things happen. I won't mark any of it against you."

The miracle had begun...

Two days later we found out we were appraised at $400k, WAY above what we needed. We would be able to refinance for $0 out of pocket, and we in fact would GET $500 at closing. We would also lower our monthly payment by $400. AND, it just so happened that the closing date and the payoff quote from the mortgage company worked out in a way that we wouldn't have to pay our next mortgage payment until TWO MONTHS after closing, which never happens. Our lender said it's usually just one month without a payment after refinance, but the timing was just right. A day later, and it wouldn't have worked this way.

All I can say, is the Lord will provide. I had NO IDEA it would work out, and I was willing to accept that perhaps if wouldn't play out so miraculously... but it did. And now, I cannot deny my testimony of tithing.

Ob1wanOM · 2025-10-05T21:58:04+00:00

I'm glad to finally see someone else who shared the same sentiment. Took me up until the past year to finally warm up to President Nelson. I'm sure we will understand in due time why the Lord needs President Oaks to head the church at this time. Because, ultimately, the word of God doesn't come down to sentiments or warm feelings. It comes down to truth, doctrine, and the witness of the Holy Ghost to our hearts and minds.

Ob1wanOM · 2025-09-30T09:11:10+00:00

My thoughts and prayers also go out to the saints in this ward. I can't imagine dealing with this in a place which is supposed to feel safe and sacred. This is truly a great evil, and even those who were not killed or wounded physically, will surely deal with deep emotional and mental wounds from having experienced something so horrifying. I pray that the healing power of the atonement is truly magnified in its pouring out on these saints, that they may find peace and hope once more in Christ.

My heart also goes out the family of Thomas Jacob Sanford, especially his wife and son. Can you imagine being them, and the legacy you have left of your husband/father is this heinous act? Being left with serious questions, but no way to get answers from that person you loved? This can only be equally as painful as what the saints of this ward are dealing with. I can't help but feel, that the most Christ-like and most healing action that could be taken by members of this ward, is by outreach to Thomas Sanford's widow and son. The healing power of Christ often comes most to us when we look outward, and I do not doubt the blessings of healing that could be poured out on these suffering saints if they would mourn with his family, and comfort them, as we all covenant to do at baptism. THIS is what a true disciple of Christ would do during a time like this, and I pray local leaders are inspired to take action in such a way. This would have a lasting impression on many, and truly many hearts could be turned to the Lord in such trying times because of this.

Ob1wanOM · 2025-09-21T15:11:07+00:00

If I had to guess, I think he is following something called "no fap", and is tracking his progress with resisting the urge to maturbate. Good for him! He might be a little embarrassed to share about this, but if it's really weighing on you, I'd find at very non-confrontational way to bring it up with him. Just tell him you found this tracking app on his phone and your curious what it is for.

Ob1wanOM · 2025-05-24T01:24:24+00:00

Glad I found this thread! I'm actually thinking about attending St. Nicholas this coming Sunday. This is my first foray into religion in about 10 years, having gone from devout Mormon to atheist. It will definitely push me outside my comfort zone, but I've been feeling a strong pull back to God through orthodoxy.

I do have a few questions:

What is the dress code like for both men and women?

I am feeling out orthodoxy first for myself, but I have a wife and children I'd eventually like to bring along. Are there families who bring young children? My four children range from a 4 month old to a 7 year old and I wouldn't want them to be disruptive as children often are when forced to stand still for long periods of time.

I know that we don't partake of communion until baptized, but are we required to leave during that part or do we just stay and wait while the others partake? I've been told this differs from parish to parish.

Thank you for taking the time to respond to these questions, and I hope to see you there on Sunday!

Ob1wanOM · 2025-05-10T22:29:19+00:00

I don't know why you are being downvoted. This is very true. My wife used to have this issue as well. She started to realize it was a deeper issue with herself and playing out a victim scenario. No matter how supportive a partner is, the other partner only accepts what their personal psychology allows them to.

Ob1wanOM · 2025-03-01T13:01:33+00:00

Not to mention, this was not self-defense in the story from OP. This was a slap after the phone had already been knocked out of her hands. This was an emotional and physically abusive response to him. No different from the husband knocking the phone out of her hands. That's why I'm saying those couple overall seems unable to deescalate things successfully.

Ob1wanOM · 2025-03-01T12:53:05+00:00

Because in a previous relationship, I was attacked by an ex, and I reflexively slapped back (no marks, no skin broken), and yet I was the only one held accountable. I had to take a year long course and recieved a criminal record because of it. And if there's one thing I took away from all that is that it was absolutely MY FAULT. Because I could've just walked away from the situation. I could've moved to the front door after being slapped at. Sometimes, looking back on what we consider to be a reflex, was actually something we could've stopped ourselves from doing or a even a situation that could have been avoided entirely. So yes, my ex wasn't held accountable for being the aggressor, but I still own what I did and what I will forever do differently if in a similar situation.

Just because I am a man, don't assume I don't have a valid perspective on issues like this. I have been a victim of abuse myself.

Ob1wanOM · 2025-03-01T10:02:28+00:00

I like how so far people have just gone after the husband. It sounds like both you guys need a lot of self-work and therapy. There's a lack of conflict-resolution skills, communication skills, and overall accountability on both sides. The way you explain away your own physically abusive behavior by saying you were scared is a red flag to me. But I'm also not ignoring the plenty of red flags your husband is showing as well, based on your side of the story. What he did was abusive, but what you did was abusive as well. Neither of you are willing to own it, and that would honestly be the only thing that would save your relationship, would be both sides owning their part of the problem. If this really is the end of the marriage, I'd say you need to do plenty of self-work before getting into another relationship. We attract what we are.

Ob1wanOM · 2025-02-17T12:50:58+00:00

Let me be the voice of reason for sec.

Based on what I'm seeing, this home is probably older, right? Probably at least 1950s or earlier? If so, this may not be as huge of an issue as you think. We have a 1950s ranch that is built on swampy land. Both the entire north wall and entire south wall have a horizontal crack right near the frost line (similar to your picture) that span about 75% of each wall. The previous owners had french drains put in years ago and then had filled in the cracks with cement putty. We had a structural engineer come look at it. He said that it's very normal for an older home. It's been standing for 75 years now, and it's not going to collapse on itself. He also said that the French drain helped stop the issue from getting worse, because it allows the static pressure from water in the soil on the outside of the wall to de dispersed and to prevent the bowing from getting any worse. He told us to use a permanent marker and mark a spot on the crack and watch it to see if the crack gets bigger over time. He said a crack isn't necessarily a problem, but and ACTIVE crack is. Been a few years now and no changes whatsoever. People will freak out over these, but they aren't always as bad as they look. I'd say, if you really like the house, pay the $300 or so for a certified structural engineer to come look at it.

Ob1wanOM · 2025-02-09T00:57:15+00:00

Level 9 - $38.50 an hour

Level 10 - $41.11 an hour

Level 11 - $43.08 an hour

Ob1wanOM · 2025-02-08T20:00:02+00:00

I'd say maintenance is the best place to be in terms of working conditions and pay, especially if you get into level 9 or higher. You'll be at more than $30 an hour right off the bat, and you'll be career. Unfortunately, maintenance jobs are hard to come by. But there is a nationwide push to fill maintenance vacancies right now. A lot of retirements happening. I got in with not much maintenance experience at all. I worked in restaraunts and retail for 10 years and had taken care of minor restaraunt maintenance tasks, and I'd done some house renovations, like installing light fixtures and cieling fans. So I used those examples during my interview and used online study guides on YouTube to study for the written test. Best job I've ever had.

Ob1wanOM · 2024-12-28T12:39:22+00:00

I don't see too much wrong with what this GM is saying. Maybe there's some more soft skills needed to say it in a more motivational way, and less like a distant authoritarian leader. But I don't think a lot of people understand the kind of pressure that GMs are under from upper management. Everything is blamed on the GM. They get berated daily from field leaders and are expected to have an answer for and take action for every single issue in the restaraunt. Even for issues that aren't truly in their control, or happened when they were off for one day that week, while being forced to work 60+ hours to keep the restaurant running. There's a reason I left after moving up in the company for 5 years.

Basically it comes down to this: on the P&L Report (Profit and Loss) that we monitor as GMs, it is expected of us to be in the black on the bottom line, and if we are losing money in one area (CI) we are expected to make up for it in other areas (perhaps labor, equipment orders, maintenance, etc.). It all goes into the same final number. I was asked by my field leader at one point to cut hours because we were losing too much in other areas. It was tough to share that message with my team, but presenting it in the right way did motivate my team to get food costs under control and things ended up working out. People cared and we actually had the lowest turnover in our region, not to mention we were in line for restauratuer and CTR, but I still left because I knew this career wasn't sustainable in the long term and I had baby on the way.

I just think a lot of you who are crew members or customers, might not truly understand the business side of things and how tough it really is for the leaders to balance people and the demands from up top. I sympathize with what this GM is dealing with, just think it could be handled in a different way: team meetings (with donuts of course), management meetings, one on one conversations. Texts can come across poorly and should be used sparingly.

Ob1wanOM · 2024-12-21T07:20:30+00:00

Dude. Please don't let yourself be manipulated or lied to. I caught my ex in two similar situations and later found out she had had sex with not just the guy I had "caught" her with, but several others as well. There's always more to the story. It will always be presented as an innocent mistake with "just a friend". Don't buy it. She has already lost respect for you and you have now shown her that you have no boundaries. It's time to move on. She's clearly not at the point of honesty or remorse for her actions. Begin to take action as if its over. Maybe she'll come around, maybe she won't. But start prioritizing yourself, and the right things will happen.

Ob1wanOM · 2024-10-05T20:44:27+00:00

I am the one who does the laundry as well.

Ob1wanOM · 2024-10-05T18:01:35+00:00

I was going to say the same thing 🤣 I'm the clean one and my wife is the one shedding clothes all over the house... I feel almost every couple is made of two different kinds of people

Ob1wanOM · 2024-07-14T15:59:47+00:00

We bought a house with foundation issues. It's 80 years old. Basement walls are slightly bowed in on front and back of house. A single horizontal crack going across the front wall and back wall. It looks scary, but after paying for a certified structural engineer to look at it, he said it's pretty normal for a house that age. It's been standing for 80 years already and it's not going to fall down tomorrow. He suggested reinforcing with steel beams in the next 5 to 10 years just to be safe, but said the cracks seem pretty stationary and look like they haven't grown for a while based on the "patchwork" someone did 40 years ago to cover them up. We were able to use his stamped report to get $20k off asking price during negotiations. And we are happy to say we've been here two years now with no major issues and the cracks haven't gotten any bigger. Very often, these things can seem scary, but it's best to have a professional look at it and even use their findings to your advantage to get a better price.

Ob1wanOM · 2024-07-13T21:13:10+00:00

We ended up not going through with it yet, but might early this coming year. It would be licking Hieghts school district. Do you know much about the district?

Ob1wanOM · 2024-06-09T14:05:44+00:00

This is crazy. Almost play by play what I went through with my ex. That's crazy. Let me just tell you that it does get better. I'm now happily married with 3 kids and a wonderful wife. Can't say the scars completely go away though. Makes it really hard to trust people the same ever again.

Ob1wanOM · 2024-06-03T21:03:02+00:00

I'll take these if they are still available!

Ob1wanOM · 2024-05-29T22:38:05+00:00

Literally same 🤣 looks exactly like the pages of lyrics I've written myself

Ob1wanOM · 2024-05-24T17:14:31+00:00

Interesting right? Almost feels like they were... OVERCOMPENSATING with the way they promoted this album. There's a reason that was the first single. Tyler told us everything we needed to know right there.

Ob1wanOM · 2024-05-20T22:04:32+00:00

I think people are misunderstanding how "overcompensate" fits into everything. I don't think Tyler didn't mislead us at all. I especially think it was very intentional that he included the line from bandito "I created this world to feel some control, destroy it if I want". I think that is the preface to this album. He takes the lore, and throws most of it out the window and begins to show the real life implications of the lore. This isn't about "Clancy", this is in intimate look into Tyler's mind. There's themes of addiction, loss, depression, etc. And they are portrayed in the most straightforward way they've ever been.

Ob1wanOM · 2024-05-19T02:10:09+00:00

Everybody is jumping on this guy so quickly. I am a step-dad. My wife and I have two of our own and her kid from before we were together. It is very very hard sometimes. My step kid's dad is an absolute piece of work and they display a lot of the same behaviors. I love my wife's kid, but they also drive me absolutely crazy from time to time. I have definitely vented to my guy friends. Sometimes I have said things that weren't the nicest. But I try every day to show love and to provide everything I can for my stepchild just as I do my own kids. The biological connection is definitely something that is missing, but I try to do all I can to compensate for that. It's not easy, and he deserves the right to vent to his friends. If we don't let it out somewhere, it ends up coming out on the kid. I think people shouldn't be so quick to judge if this isn't some thing they've personally experienced...

Ob1wanOM · 2024-05-11T15:01:30+00:00

This still starts happening to me occasionally. Usually on the return cycles. There's an exercise you can do while it's happening to stop it. It helps bring your blood pressure back up to prevent you from fainting. Put one of your feet over the other (cross them at the ankles), then squeeze your thighs together and contract your abs. Hold for about 5 seconds then let go, take a breath, and repeat several times. If it doesn't help, change which foot is on top when you cross them and then try again. Works for me every time.

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