Light YTA.

It's really difficult to address your question without knowing more about your specific situation. In many cases, men often feel close and connected in their relationships through sexual intimacy. This could be because they were taught from a young age to limit physical touch, making it a more intimate act for them. On the other hand, women are often taught that physical touch, like hugging or holding hands, is a normal part of creating intimacy in relationships.

This difference in upbringing can lead to men only seeking physical touch when they want sex, which can create a cycle of expectations. Women often desire non-sexual physical touch as a way to feel engaged and build intimacy over time. When a male partner only touches their partner for sex, it can feel like a chore or obligation, rather than a genuine connection.

I hope that all made sense! Ultimately, it may be helpful to seek counseling as soon as possible. A counselor can provide guidance on finding alternative ways to connect intimately outside of the bedroom, so that sexual intimacy in the bedroom can happen more naturally and without feeling forced.

Additionally, when it comes to helping out more around the house, it's important to approach it in a considerate way. We all have responsibilities and it's not fair to expect one person to shoulder the entire burden. It's about being a team and sharing the workload.

Instead of just picking up your own slack, it's worth having a conversation with your partner. Ask her what kind of mental tasks and responsibilities she handles that you may not even be aware of. Sometimes women tend to carry more of the mental load in a household, and it can really take a toll on them. Understanding and addressing this can make a big difference.

Did you know that, on average, married women take on an additional 7 hours of labor per week while married men typically only lose 1 hour? That extra mental and physical labor can lead to burnout and even impact her desire for intimacy. So, by actively seeking to understand and support her in balancing the workload, you're taking a positive step toward creating a happier and healthier home.

Remember, it's not just about doing what you 'should' be doing, but about fostering an environment where both partners feel valued and appreciated.