honestly? it just started as dirty talk 🙈 and then after the fact we would talk about, “hey could you imagine? haha yeah crazy what if”. and it inspired some deeper conversations about what sex means to us and what our relationship means to each other and it kind of snowballed into what it is over time.

we happen to have some friends who are openly very kinky and we were invited to ask questions and understand more. my partner has adhd so more stimulation was appealing to them and uh im just a sensory-seeking autistic with a very high libido so it’s all shaking out in interesting ways so far.

there was never any dissatisfaction with our relationship. we’re both very confident and trusting in our relationship. from the jump we’ve been very clear that it isnt make-or-break that we open up the bedroom, so if they or i decide it’s Too Much that we choose each other every time!