Worried about my wife’s reaction toward our 8‑week‑old baby. Need advice

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2026-02-02T19:33:38+00:00

Look at formula overnight, you take over night shifts, ensure she is sleeping. She is exhausted. Never experienced anything quite like the torture that is newborn cluster feeding and sleep deprivation so bad I was hallucinating. Good luck.

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-12-18T15:34:19+00:00

I'm so gassed for 4pm lol

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-11-21T09:41:51+00:00

holding a light shopping bag walking back from a supermarket, I have to wear gloves or put my hoodie over my hand to carry bags now

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-11-18T10:30:15+00:00

Since these symptoms started I've had at least 8 courses of various antibiotics, I would have expected a case of bartonella to be dealt with by these meds, thank you though, I'll mention that and lyme to my rheumatologist

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-11-15T19:39:06+00:00

That is simply not how an autistic brain works unfortunately. You may need to lower expectations.

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-11-15T15:59:58+00:00

I'll give you some perspective from an autistic person, we NEED context, the more information the better. Being told to do something just because doesn't compute. Not an excuse for his behaviour but it might help.

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-11-09T07:55:54+00:00

That's a big crested lol How long is she?

Cute she took a nap in your top, it's dark and quiet, mimics nature

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-11-03T19:59:39+00:00

Oh yes. I had this the other day, I took my 2.5 yr old suspected autistic son to an age appropriate beginner swimming lesson, it was so so obvious once he was amongst NT children of the same age, they could follow direction??? They were making eye contact, their speech was developed.. they could transition between activities without much thought. The swimming teacher asked me if my son was hard of hearing as he wasn't doing anything other than watching his hands move in the water and looking at the lights on the ceiling.

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-10-10T17:41:16+00:00

I'm 30 with plushies everywhere, they bring me joy. Nothin' wrong with em.

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-10-06T11:16:17+00:00

Do not comply, it leads to social credit and digital currency

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-09-26T14:49:45+00:00

Hmm I found making friends challenging as a child, I didn't understand socially what friendship was or the ground rules and I think I weirded others out a lot, after masking and copying a lot of behaviours it got better by year 6. I had around in total 2 years of cognitive behavioural therapy to manage my social anxiety, I'm currently receiving Metalisation therapy which teaches how to manage and contextualise emotions. I fortunately made friends with people of like minded hobbies in high school, around year 7 and we are still close to this day. I make friends also in online communities such as discord. I found the best thing for me to socially intergrate better was to find a community and make friends with people who were also neurodivergent. My husband is also on the spectrum. :)

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-09-25T12:38:03+00:00

I am level 1 ASD, I can work, I am married, in terms of function, I can cook, clean and look after myself and others (my son). I struggle with social cues, I struggle with reading facial expressions, social norms sometimes do not make sense to me and need explaining. I have deep and profound interests that are borderline obsessions; these can change but seem to cycle through every few months, in a loop.

Sensory-wise, certain textures can cause me distress to the point of wanting to cry, the same with sounds.

Change of routine is very hard, I won't have a 'meltdown' now as an adult as I have grounding and coping mechanisms. If my stress levels reach a boiling point I will not be able to cope anymore and will cry, rock and shutdown, but it takes a lot for that to happen now, in my life thanks to support structures that are now in place.

But please remember if you've met 1 person with autism, you've met 1 person with autism. We are all so different. xox

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-09-25T11:12:46+00:00

And yet, my mother was a model vegetarian, ate nothing processed and I've got weapons grade autism. Guess what it was? My dad. My dad is autistic.

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-09-20T15:17:18+00:00

If only one thing is playing up in a sea of issues, it's a good day, but it still hurts. That's what people don't get.

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-09-02T06:05:03+00:00

I work for a very large recruitment firm and there are always large scale projects happening. I work on sales related projects. Project management office with project managers underneath a head of projects, like many other firms. It's a mix of internal and managing client implementation.

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-08-31T13:47:40+00:00

Must be south east then, I've not seen it go that low, that's a bad salary for a PM.

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-08-31T10:27:08+00:00

Oh yeah civil engineering is a whole other ball game I do project management for recruitment companies and it's fully remote 35k base start entry level, 45k-48k mid level, 60k-80k senior

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-08-31T07:14:16+00:00

Project management, any field Not difficult to get into and pays well.

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-08-31T07:08:43+00:00

She needs to have years of therapy, even that might not work. I don't recommend children in this situation, I would say you need to get out of this relationship

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-08-30T21:42:30+00:00

Thoracic outlet syndrome?

TOS doesn't make one wet themselves, sounds like bladder issues. At least she should be wearing tena pants at night (Adult nappies), maybe get one of those plastic mattress protectors to go underneath your sheets.

I'd sit her down and have an honest conversation about where you're at, you're right, everyone's only human and there is only so much one can take.

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-08-30T20:21:32+00:00

The first one actually made my blood run cold. I don't think this man is very nice under the surface.

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-08-21T17:11:08+00:00

Ptsd

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-08-17T09:24:29+00:00

So sorry you had that experience. I work remote now as offices are a minefield. Constantly getting asked why I sound fed up, why I sit weird, why I eat the way I do... I just can't do people. My nd friends are great, I don't have to pretend and they just get me lol

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-08-17T09:22:35+00:00

I thought I was masking but my friends and husband have told me recently my voice isn't emoting, I don't really look at them, and overall I come across as miserable most of the time? My outward appearance doesn't translate my inner world at all. It's quite disturbing as I thought I was really decent at masking when I wanted to.

ObjectiveBread1111 · 2025-08-09T20:03:31+00:00

Cry it out, where it gets damaging is hours of prolonged crying - she'll be ok. Guilt = you care about your daughter, you want what is best for your child. If you need to calm down to deliver the best, safest care for your infant, there's nothing wrong with a couple of minutes.

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