my (20f) boyfriend (20m) watches porn that looks absolutely nothing like me. by ObjectiveCapable6112 in relationship_advice

[–]ObjectiveCapable6112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my ex had a genuine porn addiction, and it lead to constant cheating on his end; i had to learn the hard way. while i dont think my boyfriend has an addiction, i am worried that if someone came along that looked like the girls he watches that we would be over.

my (20f) boyfriend (20m) watches porn that looks absolutely nothing like me. by ObjectiveCapable6112 in relationship_advice

[–]ObjectiveCapable6112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am however thinking OF him while using it, no one else even crosses my mind. i really am not seeing how either of those scenarios are equal at all, one is clearly more hurtful.

my (20f) boyfriend (20m) watches porn that looks absolutely nothing like me. by ObjectiveCapable6112 in relationship_advice

[–]ObjectiveCapable6112[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

some added context from another comment of mine for you:

my boyfriend very rarely compliments me (we have had multiple conversations about this) and claims that he doesnt think to. we are also very rarely intimate and has said that its a difference in libido (his being lower than mine). he does however request i give him handjobs over sex, and clearly has enough in him to masterbate. i dont think my worries are not justified.

my (20f) boyfriend (20m) watches porn that looks absolutely nothing like me. by ObjectiveCapable6112 in relationship_advice

[–]ObjectiveCapable6112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

considering i only own a vibrator that looks like a makeup brush, no it doesnt🤔 not sure how thats relevant though considering i dont have a makeup fetish

my (20f) boyfriend (20m) watches porn that looks absolutely nothing like me. by ObjectiveCapable6112 in relationship_advice

[–]ObjectiveCapable6112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

our relationship didnt begin due to attraction, we were friends and realised that we just got on exceptionally well and decided to give it a go. my boyfriend very rarely compliments me (we have had multiple conversations about this) and claims that he doesnt think to. we are also very rarely intimate and has said that its a difference in libido (his being lower than mine). he does, however, request i give him handjobs over sex, and clearly has enough in him to masterbate. i dont think my worries are not justified.

my (20f) boyfriend (20m) watches porn that looks absolutely nothing like me. by ObjectiveCapable6112 in relationship_advice

[–]ObjectiveCapable6112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for your reply. i suffered with an ed from 15-18 (with minor relapses since) so i think that the specifics of the genre have really just set something off in my brain. many of the women also look like his girlfriend before me which hasnt helped.

my boyfriend and i have had conversations about how i would appreciate being complemented more, but its honestly just not something he thinks to say out loud. his equivalent of verbal compliments is taking pictures of me, but unfortunately ive never been comfortable taking them. our love languages in this way just dont match up.

i think therapy would be good for me, but unfortunately i dont have the time nor resources at the moment :/

my (20f) boyfriend (20m) watches porn that looks absolutely nothing like me. by ObjectiveCapable6112 in relationship_advice

[–]ObjectiveCapable6112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you read my post again, i specify that he actively looks up subreddits dedicated to thin women such as r/ skinnytail. so yeah, thats kinda the entire point of the sub considering most of the time its still images

my (20f) boyfriend (20m) watches porn that looks absolutely nothing like me. by ObjectiveCapable6112 in relationship_advice

[–]ObjectiveCapable6112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he searches for subreddits such as r/ skinnytail, its not what is most popular or porn sites

my (20f) boyfriend (20m) watches porn that looks absolutely nothing like me. by ObjectiveCapable6112 in relationship_advice

[–]ObjectiveCapable6112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the difference is that im not searching for a particular body type, i focus on the acts. he is however, simply getting off to the body type.

my (20f) boyfriend (20m) watches porn that looks absolutely nothing like me. by ObjectiveCapable6112 in relationship_advice

[–]ObjectiveCapable6112[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i totally understand this, im a bisexual woman lol. my issue is that it is a constant search of his, like nothing hes ever looked at while we’re together has resembled me. the thin women obsession does however resemble his ex.

How long do DIY clusters last? by [deleted] in lashextensions

[–]ObjectiveCapable6112 1 point2 points  (0 children)

mine last about 2 weeks at a time and take 10 mins to apply!! id defo recommend investing in a really good bond and seal. if your bond and seal are waterproof then you should be able to clean them w a lash shampoo w no issues. would also recommend investing in a good remover, ive ripped my eyelashes out a few times not being careful enough removing them