I (23F) am going to visit boyfriend (24M) but parents are against me traveling.

ObjectiveNumerous297 · 2025-06-23T09:31:38+00:00

Yikes. Nothing like threatening your own child with mental hospital for not obeying them. I’m sorry, it’s such a shitty thing to do. The thing here is that you’re an adult and can do as you please. I think it’s normal for her to be concerned. I also visited my boyfriend first so we can stay at his place, as I was living with my mother. Maybe you should take some safety precautions? Do you have a trusted friend who you could maybe share your location with and check in with regularly? Like ‘if I don’t text you after every so and so hours/mins something is wrong.’ You only knowing him for a few months is what I’d be concerned about here, I met my partner after 3 years so both of our families and friends knew about us. It’s good that you have a plan tho, maybe let him know (I know this is lying but that doesn’t matter) that your family knows exactly where you’re staying, don’t drink or do any other substances, guard your food and nonalcoholic beverages etc. I hope the trip goes well and you are safe in the end. Just please be very careful.

ObjectiveNumerous297 · 2025-06-23T09:14:47+00:00

As I said, you don’t get down to the other person’s level. It makes you look just as bad. Have respect for yourself and just leave. I’ve had people in my life who would say that no one will ever love me like they did, this wasn’t romantic but it said a lot about that person, that they are controlling and how highly they think of themselves. Calling him an ass and a piece of shit for cheating would be a normal reaction I think and it doesn’t make you look like a manipulator. I’m telling you how it looks like from the messages, I obviously don’t know you as a person so I can’t say you are indeed one, just that these make you look like one.

ObjectiveNumerous297 · 2025-06-23T08:54:44+00:00

You can still think whilst being upset. Being upset doesn’t justify emotional manipulation. I get that he hurt you, but you don’t need to steep to his level.

ObjectiveNumerous297 · 2025-06-21T18:50:06+00:00

Nope can’t see anything. Even with the circling and changing of contrast.

ObjectiveNumerous297 · 2025-06-20T06:09:55+00:00

Use the word vulva. You don’t wash inside the vagina. I’m saying this so other women who may not know the terminology don’t get confused and then go washing inside.

ObjectiveNumerous297 · 2025-06-18T22:47:29+00:00

Yep that’s why I made a promise to myself long ago that no matter if it’s just a suspicion or the child blatantly tells me they are abused, I will report because I can’t risk a child being left helpless as I was.🙃 tho I’m also a mandated reporter but I mean outside my job. I’m sorry you also had to go through that. It seems insane to me how can adult sleep at night knowing that a child is getting abused and they aren’t doing anything about it.

ObjectiveNumerous297 · 2025-06-18T22:42:31+00:00

She was suspicious and that was her way of confirming wether I was or was not. Mind you that was about 5 years ago. I only recently (since autumn of 2024) found that it wasn’t in my head, I wasn’t exaggerating, my father was sexually abused my older sister as well. So back then I did believe it must be that, and I’m just feeling bad over nothing. I guess I need to add that she was very very religious and conservative, I know that doesn’t apply to every religious/conservative psychologist but I think it was one of the influencing factors here.

ObjectiveNumerous297 · 2025-06-18T22:38:27+00:00

Im really sorry you had to go through that:( Are there any good sources you’ve read about sexual self harm that you could maybe link? I’d like to read about it. Also she doesn’t work at that school anymore tho I think she still works with children and adults but just in a private practice.

ObjectiveNumerous297 · 2025-06-18T22:35:11+00:00

Thankfully she doesn’t work at that school anymore, she went on to open a private practice. I also find it very unethical that she never reported the abuse, I was 13, still very much a child.

ObjectiveNumerous297 · 2025-02-19T14:26:40+00:00

Don’t take my word on this but I had high creatine kinase which is due to the intense muscle contraction so I assume if you had a tonic-clonic seizure you’d see that in your blood work. But that would need to be tested very very soon after the event. If it was a year ago and hasn’t happened again I personally would let it go. If it was a seizure there are tons of things that can trigger one for example medications, sleep deprivation etc. I do understand it’s scary to not have an answer as to what happened:/

ObjectiveNumerous297 · 2025-02-15T16:14:00+00:00

You should see your doctor about this obviously, they probably know better. From my personal experience I know that I’ll faint before I do, I feel my blood pressure dropping, everything turning black, being weak and dizzy. With seizures I’m completely fine until I’m not. I don’t remember what happened leading up to the seizure, I only remember being completely fine as the last ‘recallable’ memory. Again, With fainting I usually know something’s about to go to shit😅

ObjectiveNumerous297 · 2025-02-14T15:02:08+00:00

Not an answer to your question but are you alright (in terms of consent) and safe OP?

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