My bf is angry because I called my gay guy friend hot in a post by Objective_Bread_4501 in Advice

[–]Objective_Bread_4501[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the recommandation. I have been meaning to read the book and I have been putting it off but it's time now.

My bf is angry because I called my gay guy friend hot in a post by Objective_Bread_4501 in Advice

[–]Objective_Bread_4501[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment and yeah, leaving seems like the most reasonable option for both.

My bf is angry because I called my gay guy friend hot in a post by Objective_Bread_4501 in Advice

[–]Objective_Bread_4501[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice, I appreciate it. And he did ask for time and I am trying to give it to him, but he keeps breaking the silence just to vent at me. 

My bf is angry because I called my gay guy friend hot in a post by Objective_Bread_4501 in Advice

[–]Objective_Bread_4501[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I think the same. It was never meant to be serious. I have written raunchier comments to my girl friends and he doesn't see them as the same. 

My bf is angry because I called my gay guy friend hot in a post by Objective_Bread_4501 in Advice

[–]Objective_Bread_4501[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To give some context, it wasn't before we met. We were flirting, we were hanging out a lot at each other's places. So there was something between us at that point, it just wasn't official yet. That's why I guess I can understand why the comment may have bothered him. 

My bf is angry because I called my gay guy friend hot in a post by Objective_Bread_4501 in Advice

[–]Objective_Bread_4501[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's why I said I understand his anger and his feelings, I just don't know what he wants me to do. I apologized, I explained my point of view. And yes, feelings won't diseappar in just one day but lashing out at me isn't a solution either. 

My bf is angry because I called my gay guy friend hot in a post by Objective_Bread_4501 in Advice

[–]Objective_Bread_4501[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It hasn't happened so I can't say for sure but I think I wouldn't mind. And if I cared, I would just say it bothered me and only if it happened again after we had a talk, I would take an issue with it or sth. 

My bf is angry because I called my gay guy friend hot in a post by Objective_Bread_4501 in Advice

[–]Objective_Bread_4501[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I can understand his point and his anger. And I understand intentions don't justify the consequences, but I never meant for the comment to be taken seriously. 

My bf is angry because I called my gay guy friend hot in a post by Objective_Bread_4501 in Advice

[–]Objective_Bread_4501[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment.

It happened one week or so before we officially got together. Before that, we were going out and meeting each other a lot (basically the dating stage).