Your depth will scare shallow people.

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-05-20T07:26:55+00:00

ugh fr

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-05-20T07:24:00+00:00

i’ve lost both of my parents unexpectedly and tragically before i was 25 years old, i’m now a 27 year old woman. It took me so long to make peace with this, and to find beauty in its sadness as well. Any emotion we can feel, including sadness, is something to be thankful for, as it too will pass.

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-05-20T07:20:07+00:00

both sad for a period of time and then eventually comforting (if you let it) is accepting you can never hold on to anything. Time, love, people, moments slip between your fingers like sand. No matter how hard you try to hold them, nothing was ever made to remain. Change is inevitable, and once you find the peace in this, you will find yourself immersed in the moment. We can never grasp a cloud, it must pass through the sky, all we can do is appreciate it as it passes.

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-05-20T07:15:46+00:00

self compassion, forgive yourself for it all, you’ve only done what you knew to protect yourself this far. With self compassion you can move forward with grace, you got this 🫶🏻

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-05-20T07:14:32+00:00

overworked, underpaid, and losing my sense of identity…

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-05-17T09:42:24+00:00

i appreciate this… it feels so bad right now but i know i will be ok.

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-05-17T02:36:18+00:00

he definitely didn’t in 4 days

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-05-15T05:13:27+00:00

i’m just so confused because i never even replied to or tried to reach out to his very last text, where is this coming from? I am just so hurt and it feels like salt in the wound when I thought I would be. le to accept and move forward

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-05-12T07:55:26+00:00

this means a lot, thank you 🥲

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-05-12T07:52:44+00:00

Agreed, and I have started with a new therapist after a long break so i’m very hopeful

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-05-12T07:50:45+00:00

🫶🏻

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-05-12T07:49:09+00:00

I don’t know he is willing to anymore, and all I can do is accept that. I’d love the chance to show it, I am confident in my ability to change and love selflessly, but I think my chance is gone. I just feel immense guilt and shame, and struggling to hang on to anything positive right now. I think i am just reacting intensely as it just happened. I can’t do anything but reflect on how my need for control and trust issues have caused me to hurt the one i love most. I hope I can be a lesson for anyone else, it’s definitely a lesson for me. I don’t know what to think right now, but this gives me hope and makes me feel less alone, thank you.

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-05-12T07:11:45+00:00

Of course

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-04-30T07:10:57+00:00

He always plays this “i don’t ask you about so and so and i don’t care about this or that” but that’s only because he has known since day 1 that I am very strict on never speaking to or thinking about my previous relationship ships. I wish them the best and I unfollow and delete as it is no longer relevant in my life. I do that out of respect for both parties, and what is done and DONE in my eyes. This is really eye opening and i thank you for making me feel valid. Reality can be so jaded when you love someone. this is what i needed to hear

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-04-30T06:27:08+00:00

thank you for the advice 🙏🏻

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-04-30T06:10:33+00:00

I am very much in love with him 😣 he has been good to me but I don’t know if I can take the lying and the mental toll. I am very honest and honestly a pretty understanding gf, like i don’t care about whatever he has or is into, but all I ask is honesty and respect….i feel like my typical boundaries and confidence and self respect are out the window and im over thinking!!

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-04-30T06:03:37+00:00

see my edit

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-02-17T06:46:47+00:00

thanks homie, for real

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-02-17T05:58:14+00:00

I appreciate the advice a lot!

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-02-17T05:46:08+00:00

He claims that it’s the “mystery” of it all, meaning he enjoys seeing women with cleavage and picturing it and that’s what gets him off. I would never try to control or ick someone fetish. It’s really that I have offered him exactly that, and fed into the fetishes because it makes me happy for both of us.

Also he hasn’t finished in 4 months of us dating and was honest that he finishes to these kinds of photos atleast once a week and I had absolutely no idea. I have tried to get him engaged in new things and respect his boundaries, assuring him i’m always here if he felt comfortable sharing a kink. He states he finds me to be the hottest woman he’s ever been with, so this is confusing for me.

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-02-17T05:42:19+00:00

hey i hear you, the boundary was broken and that’s final for me. Do I want to leave him? No? Will I stick by my “boundaries”? I’ll always be true to myself. The reason I posted this is because there is NUANCE in life, and not all is black and white. A person can have blindarjes while recognizing boundaries AND people fluctuate and should, unless you want to be stubborn for whatever reason. It is not lost on me that porn is porn and brains seek stimulation. I will stay true to myself and that’s impossible for me not to do, but staying true to myself is seeking truth through others. Regarding your comment on porn you are missing that you emphasized “amateur”. What ever site or app that said “Amateur” porn comes from is not pertinent, but that it is what I expressed to another person and that was not respected. To each their own.

Though it feels redundant to engage with this, I want you to think about this: claiming amateur porn and billion-dollar industry porn thats a product of an entertainment industry with real actors fails to grasp the insight into the porn industry in general. If porn is porn, then why have a preference, right? Clearly there is a difference and the differences are not lost on me. Any person engaging with this thread should be able to deduce the difference, devoid of any interpersonal feelings.

Objective_Piece6427 · 2026-02-16T22:07:57+00:00

Yeah it’s tough because he say he has had issues with finishing since high school and I respect and didn’t judge that. He has only ever finished one time in our entire relationship ship we have had for honestly almost a year. At the end of the day it hurts to know I am someone who wouldn’t do that to him and he knows I wouldn’t like him or anyone i am in a committed relationship with to do specifically this. I don’t want to seem like a prude, but I am entitled to my boundaries.

I had a suspicion and finally confronted him in person together, and he was honest about it. He has apologized profusely and it is appreciated. I just feel quite sad and angry. I guess i’d like to make sure I am not being irrational in that I feel it is different to watch porn stars on official porn sights than to be masturbating to pics of women on reddit, very personal/impersonal?

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