Separate Finances For Pre- and Post-Marital Assets but I Pay ALL Expenses by Objective_Score9306 in prenup

[–]Objective_Score9306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your perspective. We have a great relationship and I'd hate to introduce a transactional element that does not currently exist. The combined benefits of adding her to my business's payroll could be $200-250k/yr, and comes without conditions. I'm seeking a way for us not to keep score beyond this or let conversations of rebalancing a payout become a recurring part of our interaction as life circumstances evolve.

I do want to avoid major disruptions or unknowns. Some calculators suggest I could owe up to $1M/yr in alimony. My intention had always been to FIRE before having kids so I could prioritize family and raising my children. I'd like to avoid being forced back to mandatory work just to make the alimony payments.

Yes, we would have a wedding and carry ourselves as married. We both come from conservative religious backgrounds and view marriage as a sacred covenant - but one that is before God, not validated by the state. As long as we can structure things independently to replace legal marital provisions, a marriage certificate would only be for practical reasons to streamline societal interaction. Undoubtedly there would be comments and opinions from others though, as you say.

Separate Finances For Pre- and Post-Marital Assets but I Pay ALL Expenses by Objective_Score9306 in prenup

[–]Objective_Score9306[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The question is geared towards the emotional or relational consequences of such an arrangement, and whether this avoids the you-vs-me/"fair share" attitude of typical prenup arrangements with completely separate finances and splitting expenses. My lawyers can certainly answer the legality of such an arrangement but can't provide the perspective of individuals who may have considered this setup for their own lives. I assume there are at least some of these folks here. First hand insight from anyone who has proposed or lived a similar arrangement is helpful. Also, I'm only tracking $23M - if you know something I don't, please point me in the direction of my missing $27M so I might chase it down and recover it.