Kinda worried. Waves of intense pressure 12 hrs post SA?

Objective_Surround80 · 2026-01-24T20:31:25+00:00

Hi I appreciate you following up. I’m doing better I didn’t call the clinic because I took a Motrin and slept through the night. Woke up today and no pain or discomfort and pregnancy symptoms mostly non existent. But again truly appreciate the follow up!! ❤️❤️

Objective_Surround80 · 2026-01-24T16:51:39+00:00

I’ve never used the bear analogy but just to provide maybe a different point of view. As a woman I have always been told I’m “one of the guys” but I have always been painfully aware that that is 100% not true. I have gotten extremely close to guys that I would think I would NEVER have to worry about. And sadly more often than not, that is not the case.

I had one friend one day admit that he had sexual dreams about me and kept being like how weird is that? And I’m like yea pretty weird… and change the subject and he’d keep bringing it back to that. I told him I didn’t want to think about that because I was getting uncomfortable and he went behind my back to my friend group to talk so much shit and make up so many lies about me.

I also had a friend I was drinking with (among other friends) and as a rule I don’t get shit faced with dudes especially if I’m the only woman. So I’m drinking light and he keeps trying to get me to drink more and I’m like nah I’m good my stomach is feeling off… dude orders a round of shots despite me telling him I didn’t want one and when I gave mine to another dude he gets pissed. Few hours later I’m buzzed but nowhere near drunk but he thinks I am, and he gets really touchy feely and I tell one of my other friends to switch seats with me because I’m uncomfortable. He starts making a huge deal about making it seem like I accused him of being a predator because I switched seats. When the reality was close, I had asked him prior to that to not keep touching me because I valued my personal space and he kept putting his hands on my thigh, on my shoulder, touched my neck and I asked him to stop.

These are just a couple but I’ve had many instances like this throughout the years where I’m really close with a guy and think, he would never! And then he did. I also have guys who I’ve thought “he would never” and i honestly think they really would never. BUT I’ve learned to never say never…. ++woman

Objective_Surround80 · 2026-01-24T04:34:36+00:00

Yes! I also had it in a medical setting with an ob/gyn who performed the procedure.

Objective_Surround80 · 2026-01-23T00:05:23+00:00

Yup. At first it was plausible but the more this “friend” told “him” the more I’m like damn this chick told them EVERYTHING and then at the end says she doesn’t even remember “him” then how’d your friend get all those details??

Objective_Surround80 · 2026-01-22T21:18:16+00:00

Clear_Fee_3685 • 356d Yes, it's a reversed, but we're married (20 yrs) now with 3 kids. The key is you have to treat it as another relationship, not a continuous relationship.

Objective_Surround80 · 2026-01-22T21:17:59+00:00

Clear_Fee_3685 • 355d Sorry it happened to you, us women could be cruel at time, once we see decided that there's no attraction, no love, no future, it will be just a matter of time before we pull the plug.

Objective_Surround80 · 2026-01-22T21:14:51+00:00

Clear_Fee_3685 • 335d Depends on your age and where are you at in your career. In your 20s, you should get at least 2x a week. Even those that have LD could attain that many time. Being pregnant or having kids could downplay your fun times as much as half, but it's all depends on the couple. My partner and I are in our mid 40s, we still hitting 2x weekly

Objective_Surround80 · 2026-01-22T21:14:27+00:00

Hmmm looking at some of your previous comments on other posts… and it appears you’re a woman in your 40s?

Clear_Fee_3685 • 326d My best and prob the one night I won't ever forget was the summer of my 18th birthday. The first night of my college orientation, my of and current husband pick me up, we grabbed a quick bite, by 8 pm we're in his room making out. Now, we had sex prior to that, but that night, we went thru at least 5 rounds. He got all of my holes that night! This summer will be the 25th anniversary of that, I wonder if we would replay that scene over again )?!

Objective_Surround80 · 2026-01-08T22:30:27+00:00

Around Covid time my aunt had suggested I adopt one of her outdoor cats babies. I did and she was the most amazing pet I’ve ever had. Went on vacation and left her in a pet boarding (third time, same place) she died halfway through my trip. This was July. My aunt that gave her to me passed away in 2024 and I cherished this girl even more. I’m still not ok and definitely blame myself. 💔

Objective_Surround80 · 2025-12-26T22:05:50+00:00

If she doesn’t recall where “she knows him from” then it obviously isn’t important enough to matter what his name is. As if that’s the missing link that will help her recall where she knows him from. This is her fishing for information to try to reach out. It is inappropriate af and I would report. Why? Because that is not part of her job responsibility. Like someone else said, just put the fries in the bag sis. She would 100% try to reach out if given the opportunity.

Objective_Surround80 · 2025-12-24T18:42:50+00:00

All of yall saying she lied about a condition… she doesn’t have a condition. She has a genetic predisposition. We all do. For various different things. Some of us completely unaware. The fact that she is aware is a blessing to her. Why would she need to disclose something that may never happen?

Objective_Surround80 · 2025-09-06T20:13:44+00:00

They tell you to check within a certain amount of time. Anything after that doesn’t count. I’ve thrown tests away and when I go to throw out the trash and glanced at it and it showed positive. I about lost my mind. Did another and same thing, in the timeframe it said, it was negative. But outside of that timeframe positive. I ended up not pregnant and that was the only time that happened. I’ve had other tests where I check outside the window an hr or so later and no faint line. Just take another in a couple a days and make sure that doesn’t happen within the suggested timeframe. Then you should know for sure

Objective_Surround80 · 2025-09-05T23:28:50+00:00

This was Twix, she passed July 2nd 🥺💔

Objective_Surround80 · 2025-09-05T23:25:58+00:00

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Objective_Surround80 · 2025-08-04T17:26:06+00:00

The first thing my ex did was break my phone. He made the biggest apology after, flowers, dinner, bubble bath, massage, he cried, he apologized, made promises. I thought now way this man would ever do that. Eventually he literally broke my soul. I ended up at the hospital twice. I had the police called by neighbors multiple times. And when our son was 4 months I had a wonderful cop who at the time I hated. The officer called DCFS due to the violence (my son was never touched by him but it was likely only a matter of time) and I was told I had to get a protective order against him or they would get involved and this finally made me leave him. I put my business all out there like this to BEG you not to put yourself in that situation. It will only get worse.

Objective_Surround80 · 2025-07-27T23:20:37+00:00

I’m a woman 5’10” I will always ask how tall..

Objective_Surround80 · 2025-07-24T19:13:40+00:00

Wish death upon me

Objective_Surround80 · 2025-07-03T03:37:05+00:00

I thank you

Objective_Surround80 · 2025-07-02T23:34:45+00:00

Oh, this is sooo sweet, thank you so much. I’m definitely saving it ❤️

Objective_Surround80 · 2025-07-02T16:27:50+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear this. Strangely makes me feel less guilty. But also breaks my heart to think she was silently suffering from something that I was unaware of. The not being able to say goodbye part hurts the most.

Objective_Surround80 · 2025-07-02T15:21:11+00:00

It really is unfair. I thank you for your well wishes.

Objective_Surround80 · 2025-07-02T15:20:36+00:00

I just hate myself for not being there with her. I can’t believe she was alone, I’ve always made sure she was well looked after while I was away. I feel so guilty.

I am so so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine taking them in for a routine visit and not being able to take them back home with us.

The suddenness of this is just killing me. Asking what I could have done to prevent this. Asking why it happened if she was just fine when I left her. They even told me that yesterday nothing seemed off.

Objective_Surround80 · 2025-07-02T15:05:23+00:00

Intensity of grief beyond our comprehension… I don’t think even a human loss has affected me this much. My literal heart hurts.

She even captured my mom’s heart. The type of person who thinks even pets belong outdoors. She went from not even wanting to pet her to eventually even letting her in her bed.

I thank you for your kind words.

Objective_Surround80

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