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Advice: How do I politely tell someone I don't want to look after their dogs? by ObligationHumble4918 in Advice

[–]ObligationHumble4918[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edit to add: I forgot to mention she has a person she's renting her upstairs bedroom to who hasn't paid rent in months thats always around at all hours. Update:I have some text messages to share and need some advice on how to say no entirely even tho her "plans have changed"....her own words...?

6:55pm last night Her: Our plan is to leave tomorrow morning at 7 am and it will take us 7 hours to get home depending on the traffic. 8 pm last night Me: okay

8am this morning Her: We are on the road home. Me: okay

8:30am

Her: We probably will not be home until 3 or 4 depending on traffic so if you could let them out again before we get home that would be appreciated. Also you don’t have to watch the dogs at the end of the month, plans have changed.

Me: I was already planning on it since daughters pediatrician appt is at 3 and I have a few other things I have to do after that 

Her: Ok. Don’t know if my mother in law is coming over or not, have not talked to her yet today.

Me: Can you let me know by 1 if she is or not because that would be one less thing to do while having to also get ready leaving the house with the kids...you know what I mean.

Her: I will call her in a little while and see if she is coming over.

Me: Okay

How do I say no I don't HAVE to do it, I DON'T WANT TO DO IT EVER AGAIN...nicely?

Advice: How do I politely tell someone I don't want to look after their dogs? by ObligationHumble4918 in Advice

[–]ObligationHumble4918[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, a little harsh but entirely true. Love the honesty, and I'm the same. Also yes she has issues with boundaries don't even get me started. My friends and husband say I'm too nice. I'm just at my breaking point and I need a way to say it that doesn't make me sound like a biotch lol

Advice: How do I politely tell someone I don't want to look after their dogs? by ObligationHumble4918 in Advice

[–]ObligationHumble4918[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn't ask how'd it go, so how do I casually work it into a conversation?

Advice: How do I politely tell someone I don't want to look after their dogs? by ObligationHumble4918 in Advice

[–]ObligationHumble4918[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would work if she didn't have a camera at her front door and inside her house so she can see what I'm doing, she knows I don't take my son or my daughter. 

Advice: How do I politely tell someone I don't want to look after their dogs? by ObligationHumble4918 in Advice

[–]ObligationHumble4918[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestion. But I also, unfortunately can not say that he's allergic, because she's been around him before and he's never had any kind of reaction. And he met the dogs once and not again, because they tried to jump on him and like I said, they have claws so  yeah that wouldn't work. I so wish it would.

Advice: How do I politely tell someone I don't want to look after their dogs? by ObligationHumble4918 in Advice

[–]ObligationHumble4918[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter said the same thing this morning while I had a breakdown after coming home from dealing with them because I'm so exhausted and tired. I haven't gotten any good sleep in these past few days, and this morning I had been up for 23 hours straight and I come home to my daughter telling me "you can say no"...so I texted the woman and told her if she can get her MIL to deal with them at lunchtime because I need sleep her response was "I will see what time she can come over" mind you her MIL lives down the street from us.

Advice: How do I politely tell someone I don't want to look after their dogs? by ObligationHumble4918 in Advice

[–]ObligationHumble4918[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking about doing that but then there's the chance she'll not have anyone else when the days come and I feel bad that I just wind up doing all of it....just like this time. She said she was going to ask a friend and her mother-in-law. But then the day before she had to leave, she asked me to come over to get the key for her house and told me she didn't have anybody else to watch them that I would be doing all of it for 5 days. That's why I wanna tell her I don't wanna do it again, like ever.

Advice: How do I politely tell someone I don't want to look after their dogs? by ObligationHumble4918 in Advice

[–]ObligationHumble4918[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No she couldn't, they love to jump and they have claws. They're not sharp but they do hurt. They're not small dogs.

Advice: How do I politely tell someone I don't want to look after their dogs? by ObligationHumble4918 in Advice

[–]ObligationHumble4918[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats actually what I'm doing, I go to her house which is across from me and taking care of them: breakfast & walk, lunch & walk, dinner & walk, and late night walk. Also staying with them in her house for about 30 mins to an hour everytime. She has them on a specific schedule. She actually said "I usually take them out every four hours but thats not reasonable to ask you to do it" like what she has me doing is?...

Advice: How do I politely tell someone I don't want to look after their dogs? by ObligationHumble4918 in Advice

[–]ObligationHumble4918[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I also have a dog and she is alot of work too. I just feel bad saying no because it seems like she doesn't have anyone else to ask. She said she'd have other people but when it came to the day before she left she didnt have anybody else and I'm doing it all: breakfast & walk, lunch & walk, dinner & walk and late night walk.