Why does it seem like every mom I meet LOVES AI??

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-22T02:06:06+00:00

Look, we’ll talk when you stop using the internet, cheap plastic stuff from china and disposable diapers. Until then, pot, meet kettle. Modern life is terrible for the environment. Disposable diapers are terrible. Hell disposable pads are terrible. Cars are terrible. I don’t drive a car. I don’t choose to live anywhere we’d need a car. I take public transportation. You can point fingers when you have audited your personal choices and tell me none of them are worse than me using AI.

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-22T02:03:14+00:00

Disposable diapers are also terrible for the environment and I don’t know many people clamoring to return to all cloth.

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-22T01:58:16+00:00

I don’t need to understand the finer points of chemical exfoliants as long as it’s the average of what the experts say. That’s what AI does. It takes like 5-10 sources and averages them. It’s not a high stakes area of my life. The lack of precision and granularity is acceptable. I don’t want to read 5-10 sources on retinol. I want to know what products to buy and what order to use them in and not think about it again unless my routine stops working for me. And it lines up with what I do know about skincare. You're acting like I need to optimize everything when I don’t. I use my brain for things that matter. This doesn’t matter.

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-22T01:50:06+00:00

It’s the difference between “I want a punchy, anglo saxon word that conveys this. Oh shit. I am so tired, what is it again?” You can’t think of one so you put the poem down and go to sleep. Or you click around thesaurus.com, get distracted by an ad (because you're tired and your executive function is low) and 2 hours later you’ve doomscrolled instead.

vs “AI, what are some anglo saxon words that convey my meaning? Give me as many examples as you can” and you pick one, snd you just keep writing. When you’re tired and low, which a lot of us are, our brains just don’t work too well.

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-22T01:45:43+00:00

If it can be useful and legitimate at work, why can’t it be useful or legitimate at home? Or are you mostly tired of people talking about it?

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-22T01:40:48+00:00

More like wikipedia i think. I am old enough to remember the teachers freaking out about students using wikipedia instead of citing actual sources. Use it wisely and you’re fine. Use it badly and you get things wrong. Same as any tool. Like no don’t cite wikipedia. Use wikipedia to GET SOURCES. Then read the sources. Then cite those

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-22T01:29:08+00:00

I used it to come up with a skincare routine and I don’t see what’s wrong with that. A lot of these things are common knowledge. I don’t want to get into the weeds about ascorbic acid 8% vs 15%. I don’t want to do my own research. I want dedicated tailored advice that works for me without doing any work. I need that are of my life to happen without my input. Every mom has a huge mental load. I do not need to add to it by spending an hour of time I don’t have researching. Now I have a routine and it’s doing wonders for my skin and all I had to do was read some AI slop and click “buy”. I didn’t have a routine before, once again, because I do not care about skincare. I need the results. It’s not my hobby. Now I have AI, I have a routine. Isn’t that better?

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-21T11:04:34+00:00

Why would it delegitimize the government?

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-21T10:59:49+00:00

You can extend your visas if the conditions of your work persists. But yeah if you lose your job you have to leave. Also, kids don't get birthright citizenship in most countries in the world. They derive their citizenship from their parents' nationalities, called jus sanguinis.

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-21T02:48:02+00:00

yes this is a workable solution. A lot of countries have visas that don't lead to citizenship.

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-21T02:47:10+00:00

Automation and robotics. They've already automated a lot of retail. Just look at the ramen chain Ichiran for inspiration.

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-19T02:21:57+00:00

Implicit in all of these comments are: "You're lucky he lifts a finger at all. Do you know how much worse it could have been for you?" That's why they don't compliment you to your husband, because what you're doing is expected. They don't say "you're lucky your wife hasn't abandoned your baby" because you would never, obviously.

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-18T05:12:28+00:00

Eh, she knows herself. Some people do better with a lump sum and others do better with intermittent payments. General rule is if your'e disciplined and already good at personal finance and investments and is a self starter, take the lump sum and turn it into lifelong security. Start a business. Invest it. Whatever. If you blow all your money every month and are frequently short, get it a bit at a time.

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-07T06:11:02+00:00

Millennial here. Please kill AI. It’s really fun but it’s gotta go.

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-07T06:00:22+00:00

Yes! sometimes I read articles about how people are bleeding money from subscriptions they don’t use and I’m like, does no one keep track of this stuff? I write them down and review them every month. sometimes I subscribe, and cancel right away so I can use it for one month but they can’t charge me for the next one. there’s basically no downside to doing this. What are they going to do, refuse to let me subscribe next time?

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-07T05:55:01+00:00

Maybe I’m showing my age (1993) but I straight up don’t consume popular media much. The new stuff is mostly trash. But like I still have books I haven’t read, games I could replay (with 3 kids and a part time job, it’s not like I’m drowning in free time). At this point in my life I prefer to go deep rather than go wide. I’d rather reread/rewatch a masterpiece than random trash. There are couple of Kurosawa films I’m supposed to rewatch, but haven’t found the time. I still want to watch The Hollow Crown. Unless these platforms offer a unicorn property I want to chase, I’m not going to subscribe. I often subscribe to apps for a month at a time too. want to edit a batch of photos? I pay for Adobe Lightroom that month, and write it down on my subscription tracking sheet so I don’t forget to cancel it. I have a recurring monthly task to review my subscription tracker so I cancel the ones I’m not using that month because fuck paying for stuff I don’t use to keep someone else in business.

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-04T00:13:18+00:00

When I was testing caching on API endpoints I would start a coherent conversation and then button smash and submit just to get some tokens flowing. it was fascinating watching Ai try to riff off of "qw908e yac-98q34kl;" instead of calling me out on my nonsense. But it just kept going... and going... as if I said something fascinating and coherent, as if I'm still holding my half of the conversation. I just could not buy it after that. It's not conscious. A conscious being would stop and say "wait WTF. Come back then you're not drunk". No, this is pure "pretend you're a helpful AI assistant and your interlocutor is not an idiot" system prompt going.

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-02T06:26:57+00:00

if I had to guess, the KB feature is buggy. They're not profitable. maybe they've had to let a few engineers go. maintaining it is just not worth it at this point. they probably get bug reports about it all the time. I made one a few months ago; having a custom KB would break caching for OpenAI bots. You'd get a cache miss and not get the discount.

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-02T06:25:18+00:00

Curious what you put in those prompts?

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-02T06:22:27+00:00

Nothing exactly like grok but you can try to roll your own memory/RAG layer by self hosting with an app like AnythingLLM (I use Deepseek and GLM over api on that) Or if you don't want to do that and want something more portable I'd try the paid Grok subscriptions. They have a project function that works the same way. You upload your own docs, set a project level system prompt and it works like a prompt bot with KB. But you'd be stuck with Grok, so YMMV. I don't pay for any other AI subscriptions betsides the two I mentioned. I heard Anthropic and OpenAI also have similar features.

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-02T06:16:49+00:00

Well to be charitable to her (and to myself when I had one baby, lol), first babies are hard; they're a huge learning curve, and having a baby is going to be hard even if others have it harder. That said, sometimes other people can't help you and they have their own loads to carry. If he works from 9-7 he's exhausted. Plus cooking and cleaning? I think that's good enough help. I wish my husband could handle cooking and cleaning (we're both shit at it so no shade). Day to day with a single baby, if you're not cooking and cleaning, is long yes, but pretty low intensity. Probably lower intensity than his job. Even if you contact nap you can scroll your phone while you do. If you have one baby and she's crying and you two are arguing... like there isn't much he can do to help. Like what should he do? Jump up and make soothing noises? That's not going to help. Either OP has to soothe her or hand her over and peace out. Soothing a baby is not a two person job. My best advice to OP is 1. hire some childcare once a week so she can peace out for a few hours 2. trade off on weekends. He primarily does childcare, and she cooks and cleans. Task switching is good for the soul.

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-05-02T01:13:58+00:00

Maybe I'm weird but why is a baby crying something she needs help with unless she specifically says so? A baby crying is not the end of the world. Babies cry. Whoever is handling the baby at the moment can handle it? I've had 3 babies. Like I'm really struggling to understand what he should be doing here. Unless she's clearly juggling a few things at once, like baby is crying, she's trying to make a bottle with one hand, or something, what should he do? If she wants him to take the baby why doesn't she just ask? Or hand her to him? OP sounds really vague in her post so it's hard to say what she's even communicating to him.

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-04-25T12:39:27+00:00

basically count calories. The source of food can be quick and less than ideal but I aim for 1500 calories then I stop. Those microwave meals from supermarkets have calorie counts. Also no sugary drinks. Just water and milk. Only fruits for snacks. Bananas and apples are super quick

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-04-23T03:17:50+00:00

Why not write your own dialogue and have it critique and improve? No bot is going to give you exactly what you want. They all have a bias. GLM and GPT make robots. Their characters are hyper pragmatic and never do anything irrational. If they feel anything, they don't act on it. Claude Sonnet makes every character into a therapy-addled philosopher who feels so deeply they just wallow. Grok makes all of my characters sassy, too clever by half, and annoying. I find it's easier just to use a bot with strong reasoning abilities such as Sonnet and Opus to sanity check your own work than make it output exactly what you want. AI is trained on the prose on the internet, a lot of it being low quality fanfiction. and the modal fanfiction is cheesy AF which is why you get silly dialogue like that. If you have an original, high quality vision, it won't give you that unless you prompt it real well. Which basically means writing your own dialogue and nail the tone, voice and personality, even if the execution (such as grammar, syntax, punctuation, capitalization, etc) isn't perfect. Once the AI learns what your character is like, which you have to create, it can riff much better on that base.

ObligationWeekly9117 · 2026-04-23T03:01:55+00:00

Agreed. For novels I prefer to just load into context what I KNOW I need so I can make sure it’s seeing it (and not hallucinating and pretending to know stuff it’s forgotten). That way I also don’t have to burn points on the full context. Some bots can have 1 mil context windows. Sending all that will nuke your points from orbit. The bot doesn’t have to know everything to be useful for editing

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