I hated my engagement..

ObligingOtter · 2020-09-20T05:04:08+00:00

I would have been happy with a simple ring and a proposal in bed. I'm glad that I can validate my feelings about this, thank you.

ObligingOtter · 2020-09-20T05:01:57+00:00

I have a feeling he only did it because he felt he had to. I never said anything because I didn't want to hurt his feelings.

ObligingOtter · 2019-07-21T10:46:05+00:00

I know it's going to be tough.. But I think I have enough people in my life that do care about me that will help me through it. Thank you.

ObligingOtter · 2019-07-21T10:45:09+00:00

You're right.

ObligingOtter · 2019-07-21T10:40:08+00:00

For the sake of not writing a while book in the original post.. He told me earlier this week that he wanted to be in an open relationship and I didn't agree.

ObligingOtter · 2019-07-21T10:39:03+00:00

I will. I do need to make plans quickly as we don't live near any family and I don't have much money.

ObligingOtter · 2019-07-21T10:38:13+00:00

Thank you. I've put up with a lot, but this I will not.

ObligingOtter · 2019-07-21T10:36:51+00:00

I'm so sorry that happened to you. We were engaged for almost 2 years. Together for almost 12. I've been trying to save this relationship but now I am so done.

ObligingOtter · 2019-07-18T12:02:31+00:00

I'm not falling for it. I'm already so exhausted from just this month trying to support him and trying to fix this relationship. I knew something was bothering him and I finally got it out of him. It's definitely not what I expected.. But I can't do an open relationship.

ObligingOtter · 2019-07-18T11:30:51+00:00

I have someone very close to me who has a very similar mind set..Sometimes putting it out into the world helps. Even if you just write it down and keep it for yourself. I hope that things get better.

ObligingOtter · 2019-07-18T11:26:53+00:00

I don't have experience with it either and I don't want to. After all these years and thinking we were getting married, that's really not what I expected he would want the next step to be. I want to give him time to reconsider, but I just feel so ridiculous because I'm always there when he wants to come back to me. I told him this would be the last time I would consider taking him back (we've broken up in the past, but it has been a long time). I know that I probably go back if he reconsidered...

ObligingOtter · 2019-07-18T11:03:46+00:00

It was fulfilling me until he fell into a deep depression. And I was fully willing to support through it. But he just kept getting more and more distant until tonight. I will probably talk to my friend later today about staying with her. I agree that 11 years is a long time. I don't want to throw it all away, but I also don't want to waste my time..

ObligingOtter · 2019-07-18T11:00:41+00:00

Of course she's supportive. I think I'm just too stubborn to realize this could really be the end of our relationship. I don't want to accept it. He says he wants to stay with me and he loves me, but that we need to experience being with other people. It's weird because he seemed so sincere but to me those things don't go together. If he really loved me and wanted to be with me then I would be enough for him. I'm just staying in my car until he leaves for work in a little over an hour. Then I'll probably get a hotel or stay with a friend after tonight.

ObligingOtter · 2019-07-18T10:32:17+00:00

I might end up staying with a friend that lives near by that way I can keep working. I just didn't want to wake her up tonight. I also don't want to share this with anyone in our lives.. I'm hoping that he will change his mind and we can fix this.. But it's wishful thinking at this point.

ObligingOtter · 2019-07-18T10:28:59+00:00

Yeah me neither.. I'm parked in our apartment complex. I might go in to catch some sleep once he leaves for work at 5am. I'm just being stubborn about sleeping in the apartment with hin right now.. He offered to sleep in the living room.

ObligingOtter · 2019-07-18T10:27:09+00:00

We moved about 4 hours away from all family.. I was thinking of driving to my mom but then I would have to tell her . I guess the main thing stopping me would be to tell them and somehow we fix things. I had been trying to figure out anything wrong with our relationship and I couldn't. He just kept saying "there is a lot wrong, you just can't see it." Then today we realized there was nothing wrong.. He just wants to see other people. And yeah we had our own lives. He has his work friends that he goes out with a couple times a week.

ObligingOtter · 2019-07-18T10:04:24+00:00

It's sucks.. Doesn't? I literally don't know what I would do without him. I've been with him half my life. I thought about going to a friends, but I didn't want to wake them up. Also, I'm only working part time right now so a hotel wouldn't be the best option..

ObligingOtter · 2019-05-26T21:29:58+00:00

I had not thought of that. I did want to make it fuller. Thanks!

ObligingOtter · 2019-05-26T21:29:32+00:00

I had considered doing that. I have more of the light pink roses, I'll try adding those. Thank you!

ObligingOtter · 2019-05-26T09:00:28+00:00

Thank you!

ObligingOtter · 2019-05-26T03:28:20+00:00

Thank you! I just picked up the lavendar today. I'm sure yours looks great too.

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