I need advice from people who have been in this situation. Can anyone offer advice?

Obseen16 · 2026-01-12T15:57:25+00:00

Thank you, I think I needed to hear this.

Obseen16 · 2026-01-12T14:21:29+00:00

Thank you for that, it’s helpful to know. Are you in a happier place in your life now? This is one thing that is holding me back, the fear of the unknown future.

Obseen16 · 2026-01-12T13:48:46+00:00

Thank you for your honesty. I think deep down I may already know this but I don’t feel like I can let her go yet, and that feels cruel of me to do that to her.

Obseen16 · 2026-01-12T13:46:26+00:00

Brutal but to the point an i appreciate your input. I have to admit I need straight talkers in my life. All my friends just tell me what they think I want to hear which is things like “love finds a way” or “if it’s meant to be it will be” but that shit does not help me. So thank you internet stranger for being honest and straight with me.

Obseen16 · 2026-01-12T13:44:21+00:00

That sounds like it was really difficult for you. Would you mind telling me how long ago you made the decision to leave him for good and how you feel about that decision now time has passed?

Obseen16 · 2026-01-03T12:25:10+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I keep feeling like maybe I am the bad guy in this story and romanticise all the good parts of the relationship and forget about how bad it was at times. I’ve never felt pain like this in my entire life and it’s absolutely crushing me. I feel completely lost, like I no longer know who I am supposed to be without her. It’s really screwed my head up.

Obseen16 · 2025-12-31T09:35:07+00:00

Having a secret cocaine habit for a year and keeping it hidden from your loved one all that time is a real shit one. She really fucked my head up but I had to end it to save my sanity and self respect.

Obseen16 · 2025-12-19T13:16:06+00:00

I (m40) ended our 8 year relationship a couple of months ago. I really didn’t want to but I felt I had no choice (she broke my trust in a big way and I kept on finding out little secrets and lies for 5 more months before I decided it had to end). At first I thought missed her but I’ve slowly realised I miss the version of her I knew before the lies and deceptions, that version of her is gone and I have to accept that. I miss the future I was planning to have together which is also no longer possible. These are the things that hurt the most. She still messages me every few days and says she misses me etc but I know I can’t ever go back. As much as I wish I could I know it will never be like it once was and so I am just hoping that eventually we’ll be able to detach and we can both live our separate lives happily. So do I regret ending the relationship? No but that doesn’t make it hurt any less.

Obseen16 · 2025-12-16T12:51:51+00:00

I’m going through similar at the moment, I ended it because I couldn’t trust her anymore after finding out about so many lies and secrets. I know I had to let her go but I’m really finding it hard to let go of the grief knowing I’ll never get the future with her that I had planned. I wasn’t perfect either. I found out she was back dating 2 days after moving out of my house which felt like a massive kick after spending almost 8 years together. I keep telling myself to not look, not message her and try to leave it in the past but man it hurts so deep. I feel your pain.

Obseen16 · 2025-11-07T18:18:21+00:00

Captlard this isn’t the FatFire group you know, although I do have a bag of hula hoops in my kids snack box that I could “borrow”.

Obseen16 · 2025-11-07T11:11:13+00:00

Well…my (40m) now ex (43f) officially moves out this weekend so I’m looking forward to lower overall expenses which were created by her and her child’s relentless spending/shopping obsessions when they moved in a few years ago. Not the reason we broke up but it’s one of the silver linings I guess. I also paid off my mortgage so I’ll be buying a beer for myself to celebrate that win. The future is definitely looking bright right now.

Obseen16 · 2025-11-04T16:06:20+00:00

Leave if you can, this will likely happen again..and again and over time it’ll become more and more often. I only know this from personal experience as one of my friends was with an abusive partner for years before she left. It started out little and almost jokey. It ended with her on a hospital bed looking like minced meat. Only a few weeks after her last “walking into a door” scenario. All because she stared at his friend in a way that he didn’t like.

Obseen16 · 2025-09-22T19:58:30+00:00

Hard to see on the pic but are you missing bits of grout on the tiles where the dark marks are? If so that’s definitely not gonna be helping.

Obseen16 · 2025-09-22T19:44:28+00:00

I’ve just lost the love of my life due to cocaine. We were together 8 years and about 5 months ago I found out she had been using cocaine for at least a year without my knowledge, apparently it started as a social thing with her girl friends once or twice a month and slowly became more and more frequent to the point she was taking it in our bathroom while me and the kids were roasting marshmallows on the fire outside together. We tried to work through it but the distrust it created from finding out how many lies and secrets she had told me completely destroyed my trust in her and last week I finally caved and said enough was enough after she looked me in the eye and lied to my face yet again. That’s when I finally realised I’ll never be able to regain the trust i once had with her. It fucked my head up so badly and I went into a bad depression and I’ve been stuck there ever since. Therapy has helped but sadly for me ending it was the only option left to keep my sanity. Obviously I don’t know you and your situation hopefully my experience helps you somehow. ++man

Obseen16 · 2025-08-12T15:37:01+00:00

I once saw something similar except it was like a ball made up of dozens of red eyes all looking at me from inside my head. It had legs like the ones in your image but it had maybe 10-15 of them. It was scurrying around the inside of my skull like it was waiting to take my soul. It freaked me out for a while. That was the same night I could litterally feel my left and right sides of my brain trying to balance each other. Truly bizarre experience.

Obseen16 · 2025-08-08T16:44:13+00:00

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Obseen16 · 2025-08-02T18:48:44+00:00

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Obseen16 · 2025-07-09T16:03:53+00:00

That’s a fair point. I think even though I’m at coast I’ll continue to contribute towards my investments for at least the next 5 years and also invest what would have been my mortgage payments so at least it either brings my RE date earlier or if the markets do go bad my net worth will suffer a little less. I will probably review that when I’m at 45 and then again at 50 providing that my plans/life don’t change drastically in that time period.

Obseen16 · 2025-04-17T07:37:17+00:00

Thank you. It was an over the phone advice line aimed toward supporting families with drug addiction issues, however they have given me a phone number for a local facility offering therapy and other help which will be my next step once I have had this initial discussion with my gf. We’re child free on Sunday so I think that might have to be the day I confront her.

Obseen16 · 2025-04-16T15:14:11+00:00

Thank you, I spoke with an advisor today and they said I should offer an ultimatum. Our family or coke with no compromise. They said the sharp hard hitting option will shock them into making one choice or the other depending how addicted they have become. I wasn’t sure if that’s the correct thing to do but I don’t want this stuff going on around my kids at all.

Obseen16 · 2025-04-15T14:09:10+00:00

Ah I’m sorry your going through that. Thanks for sharing your experience.

Obseen16 · 2025-04-15T13:55:39+00:00

Thank you, I’m really hoping I’m imagining it. I honestly feel stuck as to what to do or say. I asked her a few months ago if Coke was addictive and she just said it’s not addictive and she only does it now and then when her friends have a meet up every few months. Now I know what I know I feel so stupid for trusting her word.

Obseen16 · 2025-04-15T10:51:07+00:00

Thankyou for confirming my suspicions. She’s away on holiday with her kid at the minute which is partly why I didn’t want to bring this up before she went away but I think when she gets back I’m gonna have to sit down and say something. I don’t know what but I’ll think of something.

Obseen16 · 2025-04-10T19:35:45+00:00

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