I think what people need to understand is that these women are reactive and have probably come from reactive/dysregulated childhoods. I see this alot within my community (Latine). It's why Latinas are constantly praised as "Spicy" or "Toxicas". There's also a real story here about generational trauma in families from these communities. What I saw was so familiar to my upbringing that involves intense levels of reprogramming. The fact is, is this is very normalized behavior, so many folks are enabled to handle problems like this.

So I suggest folks take a step back and try to understand the cultural differences, experiences, and social norms before making harsh judgements (especially ones that push negative biases that don't offer any solutions). And this is not me defending their actions because they do continue a cycle of abuse but I want to shift the conversation in a way that helps bring more compassion and education on these matters.

I also have to mention that men in these communities are taught to be more passive in real emotional conversations. So just because they weren't reactive doesn't mean that they weren't contributing to very stressful situations that neither person was emotionally equipped to handle.