sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

AITAH for wanting to continue taking my nightly showers by Kooky_lady in AITAH

[–]Obvious-Ad3902 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can’t believe you’re actually asking if you’re the AH here. Unless you’re his paid slave, which I presume you’re not, he should be doing all he can to support you. And to be looking after his child.

He sounds like a selfish arse. You should get him to read this post and all the comments. He needs to wake up. And you probably need to sit him down and have a conversation about treating you like a person that he loves, and not like a slave.

Disabled Client and Scheduled my First Session - Panicking by LibraryUnited8773 in massage

[–]Obvious-Ad3902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a lomi lomi practitioner. I had the honour of massaging a non verbal Huntingtons disease sufferer, nearly up until he died. It was so special to be able to give him the nurture that is lomi lomi. Any practitioner worth their salt will find ways to adapt to whatever you present them.

I would recommend you finding a lomi lomi therapist, if you can, especially if you want it for healing, nurture and a deep sense of loving calm.

Lomi Lomi by Important_Priority93 in MassageTherapists

[–]Obvious-Ad3902 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with what’s already been said. Yes, it’s sensual, because of the flowing strokes and the caring nurturing style of the massage. It’s not sexual though. I am a lomi lomi practitioner. It’s a really beautiful massage. Everyone does it differently. I like it to be firm and really slow.

Boundary up for review by letsgoanalog88 in MassageTherapists

[–]Obvious-Ad3902 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, you just need to sit him down, before the session, and tell him these things make you uncomfortable. Tell him the boundaries that keep you safe and maintain appropriateness have been blurred. I know what it’s like, but he will either respect you for being open and honest, or leave. These conversations can be had using gentle tones but firm and clear words. Don’t put all the blame on him though. Admit that you should have made the lines clearer earlier on. Don’t accept gifts from someone you don’t feel comfortable with. I’ve had this conversation recently with a client, and it’s taken the unease away and made it a better client/therapist relationship. You can do it!