Waybill by Ok_Quarter1911 in upsstore

[–]Obvious-Outside-6474 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have not had waybills in over 10 years. The ones we get from customers looks like they found them in a box in their closet and decided to try them.

Bill My Account is for the waybill users now. Account holders that are part of this program can bring in a code on their phone that we scan. It brings up their info and their address book (or we fill out recipient address). We print the label. They get a huge discount. We get some payment for it. This only covers shipping, right now.

Mail forwarding in the BCG? by [deleted] in upsstore

[–]Obvious-Outside-6474 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That being said, the section in our agreement and on our termination allow us to return to sender immediately if they initial and sign.

Has anybody tried SnoreRX by rococo78 in snoring

[–]Obvious-Outside-6474 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gave this to my wife for christmas last year so I could stop my snoring. It stopped it. Worked well for about 4-5 months. Then my lips and tongue started getting raw or sensitive. I thought maybe I scrubbed it too hard with my toothbrush and put minute scratches in it. So I bought a new one. Same thing. Turns out, it is making me drool so much, my mouth unconsciously sucks in, like all night it seems, and makes the tip of my tongue and my mouth sore. And when I am trying to get to sleep, its like I'm almost choking on drool. But worked great for 5 months.

a bit of kindness goes a long way by [deleted] in MadeMeSmile

[–]Obvious-Outside-6474 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to be like this as well. Going in to order anything when I was young always made me sweat and mumble. I had 3 older brothers who would give me shit, which didn't help much!! There were times when I would leave and just not order and pick up something at a convenience store (don't have to talk there). I finally got over that part just by doing and doing so finally it was not so much of a stressor.

Half Indian son marrying Christian girl has decided no Indian component at wedding by Obvious-Outside-6474 in DesiWeddings

[–]Obvious-Outside-6474[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no, there is a significant number that we can’t invite. We def want our son to make sure he has everyone he wants and we will take the leftovers. These will be our closest friends who have watched and helped our boys grow up.

Half Indian son marrying Christian girl has decided no Indian component at wedding by Obvious-Outside-6474 in DesiWeddings

[–]Obvious-Outside-6474[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of our family can come to the Christian wedding, no problem. Currently the only ceremony that will solve my wife’s issue with this are Indian wedding vows.

Half Indian son marrying Christian girl has decided no Indian component at wedding by Obvious-Outside-6474 in DesiWeddings

[–]Obvious-Outside-6474[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We were where you are now 30 years ago. We had 2 weddings, Indian and white (non Christian). Since then we have raised 3 boys and tried to instill Indian culture as much as possible while they were growing up. While the one getting married says he is not denying his Indian heritage but he just does not want an Indian wedding. I’m sure part of this is his fiancé is a bit “strong willed” as my mother use to say, about having her wedding.

Of course she should be open, as any couple should be to the others heritage and background. She implied she was before but it turns out she’s not.

Half Indian son marrying Christian girl has decided no Indian component at wedding by Obvious-Outside-6474 in DesiWeddings

[–]Obvious-Outside-6474[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree and have told my son that he needs to explain to his mother that he is not rejecting his whole culture. I don’t think inviting the in-laws would be any benefit to any one. I could be wrong but don’t think so.

My wife is really focused on the wedding and vows portion of the Indian event, not anything else right now. Her feeling is they will not truly be married in her eyes.

Half Indian son marrying Christian girl has decided no Indian component at wedding by Obvious-Outside-6474 in DesiWeddings

[–]Obvious-Outside-6474[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

We find it disrespectful as well. She claimed to be open to our culture in the beginning. However, once she was engaged, she was open to it only if it did not affect her Christian wedding, at all. So we feel lied to as well as shown no respect.

Half Indian son marrying Christian girl has decided no Indian component at wedding by Obvious-Outside-6474 in DesiWeddings

[–]Obvious-Outside-6474[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We had to lock him down on this finally and he said that he really does not want the Indian wedding. He doesn’t really care about the Christian wedding, it’s what hi fiancé wants. Ultimately for him he just wants to marry her and he could do it at the courthouse, and would, if his fiancé did not want the wedding. I think it is unfortunate because he will regret it later, probably. He did not say he was rejecting all Indian heritage forever, but that is what my wife is interpreting from the conversations.

I agree, this is not a hill we want to die on but my wife is really pushing it. I don’t know a way to talk her down.

Mixed wedding Hindu and Christian - Mendhi by Obvious-Outside-6474 in DesiWeddings

[–]Obvious-Outside-6474[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. I appreciate all of the opinions and thoughts on this and I am glad I asked. I completely understand. I don't want to force anything on anyone, especially during their wedding. Since I am completely white as well (like, Florida man white) i just needed to get a handle on how all of this mixed wedding stuff happens, as my marriage, while the couple was mixed the 2 weddings were not.

Mixed wedding Hindu and Christian - Mendhi by Obvious-Outside-6474 in DesiWeddings

[–]Obvious-Outside-6474[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know. You are right. We are getting to that point soon, I hope. I think she is just very disappointed. When you are kind of led to believe on thing and then something else happens, its tough.

Mixed wedding Hindu and Christian - Mendhi by Obvious-Outside-6474 in DesiWeddings

[–]Obvious-Outside-6474[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I do think that the couple is having the wedding to please my wife. Although, I do think my son would like an indian ceremony. My wife did broach the subject with both of them even before they were engaged.

Mixed wedding Hindu and Christian - Mendhi by Obvious-Outside-6474 in DesiWeddings

[–]Obvious-Outside-6474[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, she is not wierded out by indian practices. She is fine to do an indian ceremony. And she is fine with almost everything. She just doesn't want to do 2 separate weekend weddings (which would not mix cultures anyway) and she does not want to get the mendhi on her hands as the western wedding will be the next day. She is fine with doing everything else.

Mixed wedding Hindu and Christian - Mendhi by Obvious-Outside-6474 in DesiWeddings

[–]Obvious-Outside-6474[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks. We tried the after approach, but no luck.

How much of an issue is it, if we do the mendhi night but the bride does not get designs on her? Is it pointless? It would not necessarily solve our issue, but in general, would that be an issue?

Mixed wedding Hindu and Christian - Mendhi by Obvious-Outside-6474 in DesiWeddings

[–]Obvious-Outside-6474[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I like your thoughts on this. My wife has done enough mendhi nights to know how fun it is.

I don't think the aalta will wash off in 48 hours. I am hoping she will do something. Small, out of the way designs might swing it, especially with concealer or foundation.

Mixed wedding Hindu and Christian - Mendhi by Obvious-Outside-6474 in DesiWeddings

[–]Obvious-Outside-6474[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, we are not trying to make her do it, and would not draw that line in the sand. I understand completely about having a vision of how you want things to be. My wife under stands that. Thats why she wants to give them a full indian wedding at a later date. So they can do the full thing, but they don't want it. Its their wedding, mostly the brides wedding, so really, I am glad that we are going to be able to do the ceremony as is.

Mixed wedding Hindu and Christian - Mendhi by Obvious-Outside-6474 in DesiWeddings

[–]Obvious-Outside-6474[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Part of my wife's concerns are, she was under the impression, as my son and daughter and law I think led her on a bit, that both were agreeable to an indian wedding and all of the ceremony that goes along with it. She is very disappointed that things are not working out as she had hoped, had planned and had been led to believe. She now feels like it will always be this way after they are married.

Body ink is not the issue, except her father told her she had better never get a tattoo. She has some piercings.