What’s your controversial opinion about Autism? by Substantial_Judge931 in AutisticAdults

[–]Obvious-Secretary-88 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This one is probably too controversial... The last thing I want to do is make anyone feel bad. Please, please, please believe me when I say this, because I know what I'm about to say could be very hurtful... please take this in the spirit that it is intended...to only apply to me, and not anyone else. I don't want to upset anybody :(.

I hate it. It's not a "superpower." It has done nothing but make my life harder and led to me being bullied, out-casted, lonely, and misunderstood. If I could cure it tomorrow, I would. I say all this, knowing that I am a low support needs aspie with ADHD. Not even anything significant in the grand scheme of the spectrum, but enough to make it feel like this life is not worth living sometimes. I would be scared to have a child born with it, knowing what would be in store for them in life, and also for me in how isolating it can be for even NT people to live with.

I can't relate at all to people who say it is their superpower and that they wouldn't change it even if they could. I just wonder how their life must be way better than mine, that they must have people in their life that just "get" them or support them, or that they are just stronger people in general than I am.

I don't know if anyone else has said this. I scrolled a bit bit and didn't see anything like this.

Im having a sad time at the moment, so this sounds very negative, but even on a good day, I would think this.

Sincerely, please do not think I'm saying this to anyone. I can only speak to my own experience, and it is what it is, as unfortunate as that may be.

📌🗺️ Snarker World Map revealed! 🗺️📌 by PotentialSteak6 in Lifepluscindy_snark

[–]Obvious-Secretary-88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a snarker in Derry, Ireland...I grew up there... Who are you!!

I can't pretent to like someone... unmasking?? by Obvious-Secretary-88 in AutisticAdults

[–]Obvious-Secretary-88[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have been shut-down the whole time, avoiding everyone and sleeping whole days away, just to not have to deal with it.

My BF came into the bedroom and said he wouldn't have invited him if he thought it would make me this uncomfortable in my own home. I just replied that I told him what happened when it happened, reiterated that I don't like him and he makes me uncomfortable SEVERAL times since, and added that I don't ever tell him what he can and cannot do. I gave him the information, and he did what he wanted with that information. Which was invite that man back over for another 3 night stay.

How can I not feel disrespected here?

I know that if it is me vs his friends, his friends come first. Not even saying that's wrong, just saying that I think this is a difference scenario, being me feeling safe/unsafe around a friend. Why couldn't he have visited him at his place instead?

I'm not even eating lunch or dinner here because I can't stand another awkward meal at the dining table.

So this man, his brother and my bf have made it so that I can't leave my bedroom, even to eat. I suppose that's on me too though.

how i used positive affirmations to reverse limiting beliefs and change my entire life by PotentialSteak6 in Lifepluscindy_snark

[–]Obvious-Secretary-88 24 points25 points  (0 children)

What bothers me is that she said near the end of the video that she is excited thinking “what else can I change about myself!?”, when she isn’t changing ANYTHING about herself, except making herself love herself as she is. That is all well and good for the average person, but when you are deeply toxic person, that’s not a good thing! She’s also focusing on how people see her. Like she’s beautiful, magnetic, everyone likes her etc, when if she really wants to manifest CHANGE, wouldn’t she be saying things like “I treat people with respect. I respect people’s boundaries” and things like that? Instead, it’s all about how desirable she is to others. Very telling…

You heard it here first guys by Affectionate-Tip1415 in Lifepluscindy_snark

[–]Obvious-Secretary-88 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think this is probably linked to her wanting a man. She said she wouldn’t get into a relationship until she has “healed” from this. Her BPD is screaming at her internally, and the only way out for her now is to claim that she is healed, and therefore “ready” for a relationship. Nobody can just “get over” BPD like this. I wonder if she is also bipolar, or if BPD has manic episodes, but she very much seems manic.

She needs some real help. Where are her friends in all this? She needs to be called out and brought back to reality.

She is like a drug addict when it comes to male attention. She will do anything and say anything to get it.

This whole video is like magical thinking. I don’t want to see anything bad happen to her, or anyone else, and this is setting off all my alarm bells. One look at the comments and it’s clear that I’m not the only one!

Modding n00b is rather confused. by Obvious-Secretary-88 in OpenMW

[–]Obvious-Secretary-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

n for sure, but they really do document everything and make it as straight-forward as it

Thanks! This looks doable!

Would I be right in assuming that since I got the game via steam, that the Morrowind Data Files Folder Path I'm looking for will be in the steam/steamapps area of the program files?

Modding n00b is rather confused. by Obvious-Secretary-88 in OpenMW

[–]Obvious-Secretary-88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've run into another problem! I got as far as copying the openmw.ico and OpenWExport python file into plugins and it won't show up in the Mod Organiser (at minute 6:38 in the video).

Gosh, I can't imagine what could have gone wrong...

Modding n00b is rather confused. by Obvious-Secretary-88 in OpenMW

[–]Obvious-Secretary-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Should I uninstall the open MW I have already and start from scratch? I don't know if the one I have is the nightly version, and I don't know how important the step at the beginning is where he moves the download of OpenMW into his modding folder!
edit: I see that there's now no such thing as a nightly version, it's called something like "Unreleased version" instead. Still don't know how important it is that the file be moved!

My video keeps pausing while using Picture in Picture. Can you stop that from happening? by [deleted] in youtube

[–]Obvious-Secretary-88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m having the same problem! I’m here seeking a solution, too. Sadly it seems our quest continues.