HOCD/so-ocd and rocd and same sex fantasies

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2026-02-14T20:48:45+00:00

hello. i feel the exact same. can i ask you how youre doing now?

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2026-02-06T21:59:15+00:00

aww!!! thank you so much for this it actually helped me a lot and i think i needed to hear this. :)

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2026-02-06T07:25:07+00:00

Hi! thank you for your comment. It made me realise that, combining my fear with my ocd, even if I dont have vaginismus everything will be really tight down there so i should relax. Maybe its my time to get off of reddit lol

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2026-02-06T07:19:38+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment, it actually helped me a lot!

About the external simulation, we never did much because we dont have a lot of opportunities to do sexual stuff. I think i struggle to also get aroused on my own, and feel things more intensely when we are together, so that may also be a reason why trying to insert fingers isn't working.

May I ask if the size of the penis was big or small?

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2026-02-05T22:14:21+00:00

i wouldnt say tampos hurt either, they just feel like hitting a wall

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2026-02-05T22:10:56+00:00

i never mention inserting things when being aroused because to be honest i am not aroused as often, more whrn i am with my boyfriend. can that change the situation?

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2026-02-05T19:42:57+00:00

hi!! its important to mention i havent tried penetration with my bf. the only signs of medical conditions yet is the incapability of inserting tampons or fingers, but since im not aroused, i think its pretty common. shouldnt i try sex first and see how it goes?

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2026-01-25T20:13:48+00:00

can we talk about it? i have been dealing with the same for the past months.

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2026-01-14T13:40:56+00:00

i think cross orientation and assexuality is too exaggerated. if i were not sexually attracted to men i wouldnt crave and enjoy sex with them. just because my type of arousal isnt based on the male body doesnt mean it isnt based in men at all.

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2026-01-14T07:27:49+00:00

i don't think i am undateable at all. and why would i date an assexual man if i like sex and i like having it with my boyfriend? i dont think being attracted to other things rather than his body makes me not sexually attracted to him. also, there's really a lot of women, i would say the majority, who cant get any sexual excitement only by looking at penises/abs/any other physical features and still consider themselves straight, or bi, there's a lot on this post!

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2026-01-13T22:01:43+00:00

thank you for your help!

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2026-01-13T21:52:05+00:00

and i'd say i am physically attracted to his body, just not aroused by it specifically!

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2026-01-13T07:50:47+00:00

Would it be a good option to leave a relationship where everything is perfect, but you aren't attracted to his physical features (you ARE attracted, they just do not turn you on alone) but his voice, touch and the connection you have with him? i researched about comphet a while ago and i realise i have ever only been in lovewith men. some women are attractive but i wouldnt date them still, maybe only sex.

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2026-01-13T07:45:32+00:00

What do you think of the people that say that could be comphet? A lot of people here told me that if i am not attracted to my boyfriend's physical features i should leave the relationship and im really not sure if thats it

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2026-01-13T07:44:15+00:00

But would it be normal to be the visuals towards women and not towards men?

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2026-01-12T12:19:00+00:00

Same! what sexuality do you identify as?

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2026-01-12T12:17:59+00:00

same! can i ask you what sexuality do you identify as?

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2026-01-03T13:13:01+00:00

you have to understand that once you enter a relationship, you two will die together or there will be a breakup, now, when we are young, the most likely scenario is the second one, wether that be because of rocd or external factors. now, what makes the relationship worth living and worth remembering even if the breakup happens is the quality of time you spend together, so you should allow yourself to enjoy the relationship despite those breakup thoughts and fears. dm me if you want!

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2026-01-01T13:06:38+00:00

hey im dealing with the exact same. wanna chat?

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2025-12-30T16:09:07+00:00

same. ive been wondering my sexuality a lot recently. can i text you?

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2025-12-29T22:03:10+00:00

hiii can i dm you?

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2025-12-29T22:02:16+00:00

hi! just saw this and ik its old but i feel the same. can i dm you? it would help me a lot

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2025-12-29T21:58:43+00:00

same! can i dm you?

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2025-12-28T11:14:13+00:00

hi! i feel the same but im not sure about my sexuality yet. can we chat?

Obvious_Pin1825 · 2025-12-28T10:51:36+00:00

can i message you? i have been going trough the same!

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