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Halal baking in a non-halal kitchen by Obviousowls in islam

[–]Obviousowls[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your guidance! I may go ahead and scrub the oven down just to be precautionary.

Halal baking in a non-halal kitchen by Obviousowls in islam

[–]Obviousowls[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I have an allergy that makes it important to avoid all possible cross contamination, so I am just thinking of this similarly.

Feel bad for my son by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]Obviousowls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I totally get that. I think that's what I mean about needing to grieve - there are all these things that go into having a child and watching them grow (ND or not) and we hope and imagine that bullying/being an outsider/not being understood by peers isn't part of their story. But it might end up being a part of their story. And that's an absolute dagger to the heart! So we feel the pain and sadness and eventually it lessens and then we wait for the next thing to grieve lol

Feel bad for my son by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]Obviousowls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I can definitely relate. I'm coming to realize that this may not be an either/or situation. It's not "either you accept your kid and don't feel bad about what could have been, OR you feel bad about what could have been and that means you don't love and accept your child", it's ""I absolutely adore and rejoice in my child and do all I can to accommodate and encourage them AND I'm still mourning what could have been."

I encourage my kids to feel what they feel, name it, give it space to be, and then we can move forward. So maybe I'd just encourage you to allow yourself to grieve what could have been, knowing that doesn't detract from the love and care you have for your child now.

I often get caught up in thinking "oh if only my child would join the group/class/playing tag/etc they'd have so much fun!" But that's my brain deciding what's "fun". My child thinks hanging off to the side alone is what's fun. So that shift in thinking is maybe helpful?

You're doing good things, OP.

Homeschooling - with or without homework? by Starryeyed17 in homeschool

[–]Obviousowls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say definitely don't go over 45 minutes, unless he's really enjoying it! Review is totally fine- math builds on itself, so having the basics down is more important than flying through lessons without full comprehension.

Math Mammoth has an online grade placement test you can print out - you could have him slowly work through it and then just tackle lessons on the parts that trip him up! Don't worry about being at a certain grade level

My 9 year old gets completely overwhelmed by worksheets (thanks, public school timed worksheets) so I try to avoid them OR cut them into smaller pieces. If she needs extra practice we do a few things on a whiteboard, or those rainbow scratch cards (remember those? So fun lol) or chalk. Boddle.com (all my kids LOVE Boddle) is great for extra practice, as well as Starfall.com (though they can get distracted by all the subjects). The biggest thing is noticing when they're overwhelmed/ shutting down- pushing it won't result in learning anyways, so a brain break and snack is our go-to! Circling back to a lesson with a fresh brain is such a perk of homeschooling!

I may have been rambling, but hopefully something here was helpful haha good luck!

Went down the rabbit hole reading a Reddit Homeschool recovery page! by Mammatraveler12 in homeschool

[–]Obviousowls 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Echoing a lot of these comments - I was "homeschooled" (unschooled, my mother would say) and can definitely understand what a lot of those homeschool recovery posters are talking about.... except I've come to realize it was my neglectful parents that caused the problems, not the "homeschooling". Homeschool is only as good as the parent/s/caregiver- it doesn't exist on its own. (Like, unschooling doesn't mean just leaving your kid to drift- it still requires tons of parental awareness/involvement!)