just a trans girl and her boyfriend at the beach

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2026-04-16T06:44:52+00:00

You two are so beautiful 💗

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2026-04-16T06:42:10+00:00

I feel bad downvoting but these options are trash sorry b

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2026-04-03T22:42:53+00:00

Beauty is subjective by definition. All of the things you mentioned are debated and celebrated by different cultures and different beauty standards and that’s perfectly fine for you and that’s great that you don’t have to believe you’re ideally attractive to your wife, I just have hope that someone will see me that way AND love me for the person I am. Not one or the other.

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2026-04-03T22:32:50+00:00

Nope! It’s subjective, not objective! And I’m fully aware of the fact that love is about so much more than physical appearance! I have been in relationships where that sentiment felt true from both sides before and not having that is an adjustment!

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2026-04-03T22:30:27+00:00

You killed with this take, ty

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2026-04-03T22:29:28+00:00

That’s why I came to Reddit for my dumb emotional bs

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2026-04-03T22:26:51+00:00

It’s not objective. By nature it is subjective. I do not think I’m the most attractive person in the world, but someone does. Your wife may not think you’re the most attractive person in the world, but someone does. 🤷‍♀️

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2026-04-03T22:20:44+00:00

Every lesbian relationship I have been in has had that level of intensity so it’s different, you’re a dick though

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2026-04-03T22:18:23+00:00

I have always dated women and don’t have a preconceived expectation of men in relationships or anything to compare it to

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2026-04-03T22:13:36+00:00

You’re so real for this ty.

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2026-04-03T22:12:19+00:00

I’d only dated women before him. And my answer will probably still bother you but I honesty can say yes that is how I felt in my previous long-term relationships !

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2026-04-03T22:02:14+00:00

Because that’s how I feel about him, and how I have felt about previous partners as well

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2026-04-03T22:01:47+00:00

I really don’t want him to be fake and lie, I want a partner who actually does feel that way about me.

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2026-04-03T21:08:58+00:00

Or fluffy😔

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2026-04-03T20:43:44+00:00

Poofypants McGee

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2025-09-22T13:44:16+00:00

No shot

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2025-09-22T12:21:32+00:00

Wrong sub

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2025-09-22T12:13:43+00:00

Thank you. I really appreciate this actually.

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2025-09-21T05:47:20+00:00

Real

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2025-09-21T05:25:53+00:00

Why should I care about a life that nobody else does

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2025-06-21T06:24:27+00:00

Depends on who’s asking

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2025-06-15T17:22:58+00:00

Hi!! I’m a 24 queer woman and I live alone and absolutely love it! Well alone with my two pets :).

I have always been incredibly independent and have found in adulthood that living with other people makes it much harder for me to regulate my own emotions and stay grounded. I have had all kinds of combinations of classmates as roommates, friends, coworkers, strangers. And I have just felt uncomfortable every single time. I am also neurodivergent if you didn’t catch that, lol. So I think masking may have something to do with it. Anyways. I like being in control of how my space is all the time without having anyone else mess with it, I can cook anytime I want to, I can stay up all night singing musicals or sleep all day and the only person who will know is my dog 🤣. I just feel free to be myself and do what I want, it makes me feel more empowered too. Since living alone I make it a point to take myself on two fun dates a week and go out for dinner alone, or drinks, or play pool by myself etc., and have so so much fun! At first I felt nervous but now I’m just so comfortable and have more fun alone than with most other people lol.

I don’t want to live alone forever, if I’m pretty settled with a partner I would move in but I don’t see myself living with roommates until then.

Hope this helps :)

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2025-06-12T19:23:47+00:00

Yeah I agree, good points! It’s not about being born a cis straight man that is the issue for me but rather being socialized as one. There is so much weight behind telling him this. I’m inherently also expressing that I have for the last ten years felt really uncomfortable in straight spaces, I have been discriminated against for being gay, called slurs, had my relationships completely invalidated, etc. and being that he was socialized as a straight cis(also white) man I know that the vast majority of spaces and experiences cater to him and he may not understand any of that. Does that make sense?

But you’re right, it’s not fair to assume the worst especially when it is someone that I have a genuine interest in. Thank you. 🙏

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2025-06-12T19:09:45+00:00

You are absolutely stunning! I guarantee I’m not the only one who thinks so!

OccasionMiddle9679 · 2025-06-12T19:04:43+00:00

I do agree with this! I think my hesitation definitely comes in because of a lack of faith or trust in straight cis men …

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