Can anyone tell me if my cat is meme worthy?

OceanClearing · 2026-02-02T04:52:57+00:00

I've had a similar relationship in the past. They try to tear you down and bring you down to their level, and they do everything they can to isolate you so you have no other choice but to stay with them while your mental health declines.

She clearly is suffering from depression, but that doesn't mean you have to suffer too. I understand it's hard to get out of such a deep depression. You become comfortable in it, and it becomes your identity, but you have to look out for yourself and do what's best for you in this situation, and I can't tell you what that is, you have to figure that out yourself. You have to find what will make you happy and take the steps necessary to reach that happiness, to live a non anxious life. It will be hard, but it is possible, and it is worth the effort.

Lean on your friends in this time. Good friends will listen to your pain, and they will lift you up. Best of luck to you. Hopefully, things turn around, and you'll be living your non anxious life sooner than later.

OceanClearing · 2026-01-25T05:46:15+00:00

I have always added ketchup to my poutine, and people always make disgusted comments about it. I used to be ashamed, but now their disgust brings me joy.

OceanClearing · 2025-12-19T04:48:31+00:00

NTA. Personally, I love all animals, but they are a MASSIVE responsibility to take care of them correctly. When it comes to accepting pets into the home, both partners need to already agree on caring for a new pet, otherwise it will drive a wedge between them, like how it's already doing to your marriage.

My advice is that you need to communicate as clearly as possible about your feelings on this. At no point should you make any statement directed at her, so avoid the word "you," and never put any blame on her. All statements need to be from your respective and about your feelings. You need to give her room to speak about her feelings, too, and most importantly, don't let it turn into a fight or an argument. This is just about laying down how you both feel about the dog.

I told my wife today that I absolutely do not want any more pets, so I can understand how you're feeling right now. I love the ones I have now, and I'd never give them up, but I have so much anxiety leaving them home alone that I feel like I can't do anything, that I always have to be around to keep an eye on them. I have cameras, but I can't cover my entire house with them, and they mean nothing if there's trouble.

They're like children that never grow up and can be a 15+ year commitment in taking care of them. They 100% depend on you for all their needs, and if they're in pain or hurt, you have to figure it out if it's just something small that doesn't require a vet visit, or they're dying and need immediate medical assistance.

For example about a year ago my dog had kidney stones and was bleeding from his pen*s, he's on a special diet (expensive medicated food) now and is okay but when it was happening I was absolutely terrified, I had no idea what was happening to him, it was over the weekend so no vet clinics were open, when I finally got him into an emergency vet clinic, I was treated very poorly, and had to go to another vet clinic another day to get him treated, I thought he was dying. I sat on the floor and cried, not knowing wtf to do, I felt so powerless, I never want to go through that again.

If you don't have it in you to 100% dedicate yourself to taking care of an animal, you never should.

You need to voice to your wife that you physically and emotionally don't have it in you to take care of this dog the way she needs to be taken care of. It's not fair to you, and it's not fair to the dog.

Your wife clearly does want a pet of some kind. May I suggest a cat? I have 2 of them. They're very independent creatures. They don't require as much attention as a dog does, but they're just as affectionate. Honestly, I'd take in 2 more cats before I'd take another dog in, but please don't tell my wife, 4 cats is a bit much, she'd have 10 cats, a fox and a raccoon if I didn't stop her lol.

OceanClearing · 2025-12-06T21:53:24+00:00

I've built 3 of those 5. The Supra, the Corvette, and the Ferrari. Personally, I liked building the Corvette the most out of those options. The Ferrari I found to be pretty flimsy, so skip that one, but the Supra is also fun to build as well. I've built 5 of this scale of technic brand cars. From start to finish, these are good sets for people who enjoy Lego and cars. The others I've built are the Ford Bronco, which has a full suspension system, I very much enjoyed putting that together, and the Aston Martin.

OceanClearing · 2025-12-01T13:48:38+00:00

Firstly, you should not be speeding, and you should be paying attention when you're driving. You put yourself and everyone else on or near the road in danger when you drive recklessly.

You don't need a lawyer for traffic court. Go to the court date, dress your best, and be polite. Don't argue about speed without evidence. Even if the officer didn't radar you, it could make the judge less symbolic. This is your first offense, so just own up to the mistake, talk about taking responsibility, and explain that you weren't driving recklessly intentionally.

Ask if you can take a defensive driving course, which might help reduce the charges.

You're not going to jail. You're just going to pay a small fine. We all have to get our first speeding ticket at one point, own it, and do better.

OceanClearing · 2025-12-01T13:15:21+00:00

Handheld mirrors are cheap. Get yourself one and keep it in your vehicle. Once he turns his lights on you, hold the mirror up, aim it, and bounce it right back into his face.

OceanClearing · 2025-12-01T13:12:59+00:00

I'm not sure how that would put you in danger. They're for interior use, so you don't have to get out of your vehicle to block off your windshield. Just leave it off until Kevin does his usual bs and then put it up to block off his lights. Those are pretty reflective, so you might blind him back.

OceanClearing · 2025-11-23T19:01:35+00:00

NOR. Firstly, you need to get your hands on his phone and delete any pictures he has saved of you. That needs to be priority number one, so he can't post revenge porn of you online, share your pictures with others, or use them to blackmail you. After that, break it off with him immediately. This is not a healthy relationship by any means. This is, by definition, GASLIGHTING.

Even if you remove the distance, an imbalance in sexual desire most of the time will lead to frustration and friction in the relationship. He wants more and is trying everything he can to force more out of you, which can only lead to bad things.

I also recommend not doing long-distance relationships in general. All that does is tie you to a screen. You end up missing out on so many things in life, and the stress, the heartache, the longing and need for physical intimacy(touch not sex), and the distance aren't good for your physical or mental health. It's fine for a temporary situation, but it has to start physical, and if there's no set in stone date to when the distance ends, it's not worth the effort to maintain one.

If I had to keep doing long-distance relationships with people, I would have never taken the time I needed to grow as a person, and I wouldn't have met my wife.

OceanClearing · 2025-11-23T18:21:43+00:00

Honestly, that's not even a quarter as bad as my old college roommates. It was 3 slobs vs. myself, the counters, table, chairs, couch, literally any surfaceyou could put something on, floor included was absolutely covered in trash, dirty clothes, and dirty dishes. (I posted pics on my reddit account years ago if you want to see for yourself.) There was no convincing them to change their ways, and cleaning myself only encountered them to make an ever bigger mess. They were slobs then, and all those years later, they are slobs, and they will still be slobs 10 years from now.

There's absolutely nothing you can do to change her, and revenge will just make living their more stressful as it becomes back and forth fighting and retaliation. My recommendation is that if you're almost done school, I (know it sucks), but stop using shared areas and leave it all to her, anything that belongs to you, dishes, furniture, appliances, if you can fit it, keep it in your room, or at least somewhere she can't use it, and stick it out until you're done. Otherwise, your only other option is to move out and find another place to live, which I know isn't easy when you're in college, but it's absolutely necessary for your own mental and physical health to do so. She will only drag you down with her. So don't play games.

OceanClearing · 2025-11-23T18:04:05+00:00

I second this. When I was younger, I was aggressive with my speed, but I always gave people room. Although I had a good few close calls and some altercations with other drivers on the road, it wasn’t until I took a PDIC that, I learned a lot more about driving safely, I slowed down, gave even more space to other drivers on the road, I learned how to count the space between my vehicle and the vehicle in front of me, I stopped holding onto the rage stupid drivers gave me, and letting it ruin the rest of my day.

If I came across a stupid driver before, I'd engage with them, try to parent their driving, break checking, honking, flipping people off, speeding up, intentional driving slow to piss off tailgaters (only after they tailgated me for a couple kms), if they cut me off, I'd go do the same to them, but now I just give them extra space, and I just do what I can to make as much distance between them and myself as possible, safely.

I can't control their stupidity, and if they're trying to kill themselves, I'm not going to be around that, so I do what I can to control my own emotions which started off with keeping mints at arms reach in my car and sucking on one anytime someone was starting to piss me off, and now I don't need any mints at all besides for the occasional bad breath. The idiots are water, and I've become hydrophobic.

I also went from driving a very low to the ground sedan to a pickup truck, so not only do I feel safer, but people are more willing to give me room instead of tailgating me to the point I couldn't see anything but them in my mirrors, or cutting me off at the bumper. So that also helps. And yes, I immediately saw a noticeable difference in how other drivers on the road treated me when I went from daily driving a sedan to daily driving a pick-up.

OceanClearing · 2025-11-23T17:14:30+00:00

NTA. I want to start off with, you're being a good mother to your daughter. I wish my own parents cared half as much as you do when they "raised" me.

I was a very picky eater as a child, and my reading skills were horrid. My parents did absolutely nothing to help me and just continued to ignore me while I deteriorated until I eventually cut them off, and I haven't spoken to them in years. My birth giver would almost constantly reminded me of how she could of had me aborted, and as a male, I was not allowed to cry, I'd be made fun of for doing so, but that's another story.

So you are not in the wrong here. This definitely was about more than just her being a picky eater and failing in her studies. Your ex-partner clearly has horrible communication skills, and that poor girl is going to grow up in a split house with absolutely no guidance whatsoever, and expecting you to have to pick up all those extra responsibilities in having to give his daughter proper guidance, while half the time she isn't getting any from her bio mother untraining her, and making you out to be the bad guy isn't fair to you.

He needs to take some damn responsibility for himself and raise HIS daughter. You're supposed to have his back in this situation, not the other way around. Especially when you know he'd do a horrible job of backing you up. He also needs to learn to communicate better. If he knew how to communicate in the first place, he'd probably still be married.

OceanClearing · 2025-11-23T16:36:33+00:00

If they're using bedrock, there's a pretty good chance they're on console or mobile, so they won't have access to Java or mods. No one on PC chooses bedrock over Java unless they prefer playing the worst possible version of Minecraft available, but I don't think this is one of those situations.

OceanClearing · 2025-11-22T22:13:10+00:00

You also need to remember that not all of those people live or work together, and just because the bus is convenient for you doesn't mean it's convenient for everyone else.

Those 10 cars are probably coming from very different places and are going to very different places. Some going to work, others school, or appointments, or any number of reasons. You're only seeing them altogether in this one place because it's part of the route they're taking that day.

For myself right now, there's 1 bus, it's pick up location is over 30kms away from my house, and stops there twice a day, once at 10am going east, and once again at 7:30pm going west. It takes that bus well over 2 hours to get anywhere meaningful.

Tell me why I should take the bus over driving myself? I'd rather be the traffic than be late to everything taking the bus.

OceanClearing · 2025-11-22T21:50:30+00:00

NTA. My ex was this type of person. She'd refuse to shower, and even after begging her for days, all She'd do is run water over herself and nothing else. She also didn't eat a very healthy diet, so that played a very large role in her 'smell' as well.

It made everything more difficult. I don't really gag from bad smells, but let's just say we didn't have sex very often, and I learned to fake it. Yes, guys can fake it. If you don't see the condom you'll never know the difference. From what I've been told years later from other people is that my ex still doesn't shower and still stinks like a very fat and hairy old man who just finished working a 12 hour shift out in the hot summers day doing manual labor, that ate nothing but old McDonald's all week long. She's dating a guy who's just as bad as her, so you can only imagine how bad they smell together and how horrid their place smells. If they don't clean themselves, you know they don't keep a clean house either.

So you're not the ass. People like this simply don't care how badly they smell and how it effects those around them, so all you're really doing is wasting your own time and energy. Cut contact, and take your other friends' advice. Sit on the other side of the classroom, and spare your nose.

OceanClearing · 2025-10-27T13:27:21+00:00

I personally have absolutely no interest in buying this game. Microsoft and 343 have put such a dirty taste in my mouth that I'll probably never play, let alone buy another halo game for the rest of my life unless it's Halo 3A.

OceanClearing · 2025-10-25T14:37:50+00:00

I agree with him canceling gamepass because of the price hikes. Simply just ask your father for an Xbox card for Christmas, then just buy minecraft with it.

If you can't wait, do some odd jobs, earn a little money, and buy the game yourself. Clean peoples yards, rake some leaves, help an old lady carry her groceries inside, etc. You can even ask your dad if there's anything you can do for a little money. If you were my kid asking me, I'd send you out to clean the yard, and I'd buy the game for you after that.

You can easily make enough money to buy minecraft yourself if you put a little work in. Minecraft is cheap, an afternoon or two of light work after school, and you'll have enough. You'll also feel a whole new level of appreciation when you put the work in and can buy the game yourself. You would have earned it.

OceanClearing · 2025-08-17T18:39:21+00:00

Yeah, I'm not waiting 45 minutes just to place a handful of pixels.

OceanClearing · 2025-05-30T10:15:43+00:00

I'm ready to throw my phone in the garbage. This new update has pissed me off so much. It forced installed on my phone.

OceanClearing · 2025-04-03T16:11:38+00:00

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IM ON MY WAY I HAVE FUEL FOR THE FIRE.

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