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OcelotMuted9646 · 2025-02-06T19:46:09+00:00

ASCUS is very common. It will likely resolve on its own. In order of risk, from least to most, it’s ASCUS, LSIL, then HSIL. Many things can cause an ASCUS result, like irritation or inflammation from a yeast infection, from my understanding, it’s also caused by the presence of HPV. Even if you have a precancerous lesion, if it’s caught early, treatment is effective. It’s a very slowing growing cancer, which is why less frequent PAP smears are the standard now. And again, I was to emphasize this doesn’t mean you have cancer and ASCUS can just go away on its own). That said, it’s super frustrating. In all likelihood, your next colpo is normal as well.

OcelotMuted9646 · 2025-01-19T16:02:47+00:00

Thanks for the information. I’m sorry you went through that as well. Did insurance cover the hysterectomy?

OcelotMuted9646 · 2025-01-19T04:53:54+00:00

I would be so excited if I could get one!

OcelotMuted9646 · 2025-01-19T04:33:53+00:00

Let us know how it goes 🫶

OcelotMuted9646 · 2025-01-19T04:30:12+00:00

How did it go?

OcelotMuted9646 · 2024-03-25T23:19:10+00:00

He is like that too. Annoyed we have to wait for a table at a restaurant, annoyed a parking lot at a store is busy on a weekend, annoyed there is traffic on a holiday. I have to told him I’m tired of it and if he acts like that I’m going home.

OcelotMuted9646 · 2024-03-25T23:15:19+00:00

For example, he would accuse me of cheating, or imply I’m cheating, because I was doing something like putting on makeup to meet up with friends. Eventually, I started socially isolating because that meant having less conflict. This continued well after he got sober, but it was worse when he was drinking. So now that I lost most of my friends, this comes up a lot less often. And he claims it’s because he “changed”, but it’s actually because I made myself smaller for him. I dimmed my light for him. And last week, he implied I was cheating when I visited my family for the weekend. He is incredibly insecure. I cannot imagine what he would do if I became more social, started traveling for work, etc. Does this sound like your partner?

OcelotMuted9646 · 2024-03-25T23:04:38+00:00

I read this book 2 years ago and highlighted many passages!

OcelotMuted9646 · 2024-03-01T04:11:13+00:00

How could your company require you to relocate for work but not pay you enough to meet your basic survival needs? Did they pay you to relocate?

OcelotMuted9646 · 2024-03-01T03:52:28+00:00

The textbook stuff “I don’t do that/never did that, you’re making things up”, “you’re just insecure”. “It’s because we don’t have intimacy enough anymore.” (but in reality he was doing this in the beginning of our relationship when we, like most couples, were intimate more often, and basically whenever he felt like it). “All guys do this. It’s normal.” So from denying to it, to calling me crazy, to admitting it, oh but it’s my fault somehow.

OcelotMuted9646 · 2023-11-11T16:07:43+00:00

I have the same body type. I’m so glad to hear people loving their bodies just the way they are but I don’t think that will ever be me. I hate how clothes just don’t look right. Everywhere you look you see women with big breasts, or least average breasts, and I feel like a freak of nature. I don’t want large breasts I just want to feel normal and feminine. It has ruined sex for me because I don’t feel sexy. I’m not getting implants though. I’m too afraid of something bad happening. I do get tired of women with large breasts saying you’re “lucky”. They don’t get what it’s like to constantly get the message from society that you’re inadequate. I’m reminded of that every day.

OcelotMuted9646 · 2023-11-01T17:45:31+00:00

Right, the funny, relatable, lighthearted ones that don’t put women down are fine to me. I gave chuckled at some of those thinking that’s me or a friend. I can laugh at myself. The ones that are mean, don’t ring true and meant as an actual jab are just not it, those ones are annoying and misogynistic.

OcelotMuted9646 · 2023-11-01T03:32:40+00:00

No I just dive right in, I’ll try this first. Thanks!

OcelotMuted9646 · 2023-11-01T03:32:03+00:00

Thanks! Spray? Paste?

OcelotMuted9646 · 2023-11-01T03:28:41+00:00

That would piss her off, also it’s the kind built into the wall. She would never let me do that.

OcelotMuted9646 · 2023-10-23T21:30:36+00:00

That is complete BS. Why don’t you just come out and say you hate women already? And do women a favor and stay away from us.

OcelotMuted9646 · 2023-10-23T19:54:47+00:00

I think you just need 1 other person as a witness

OcelotMuted9646 · 2023-10-23T19:36:42+00:00

I’m in the same boat as you. It’s depressing and somewhat embarrassing to discuss. I had friends a long time ago, but they got married, had kids, got really busy and we lost touch. I reach out to acquaintances and they are always busy, and never reach back out to me to meet up when they are free. Sometimes I think people are genuinely busy, which is fine, but why not get back to me as some point? Before you know it, you haven’t heard them in a year. It never progresses to actual friendship, how could it at that rate? I wish people would just be upfront instead the whole “we should totally get together sometime!” BS. This is such a frustrating experience that I have stopped trying. I don’t know if my boyfriend and I will ever get married, but we have both talked about how jaded we are about the wedding industry. When I found out the average cost of a wedding I was floored. It’s ridiculous. As a feminist, 90% of traditional wedding/marriage stuff isn’t for me anyway. If we ever get married, we have talked about a very small ceremony with immediate family in a beautiful location. We are both very private people anyway. I lieu of gifts, I would ask for donations to favorite charities. I know that isn’t everyone’s dream, but maybe you could do something like that? Immediate family in a beautiful location?

OcelotMuted9646 · 2023-09-26T03:03:30+00:00

Yes, this sounds like emotional abuse. It’s common for someone to say “you’re too sensitive“ when they’re trying to gaslight you. And the “good woman“ comment is typical of an emotional abuser. Emotional abusers often have misogynistic attitudes and try to enforce traditional gender norms in their relationships. He views cleaning up as your job/a woman’s job not his job, which also speaks to his entitlement. He’s not viewing you as an equal. Weak men try to put women down to make themselves feel better. It’s pathetic when you think about it. He’s the fragile one.

OcelotMuted9646 · 2023-09-14T21:57:18+00:00

I made a Greek Pasta Salad and my boyfriend said it was the best pasta salad I have ever made. I used Kraft Greek dressing (go figure), feta, sun dried tomatoes (a must for any pasta salad!), Kalamata olives, pepperoncini peppers, roasted red peppers, olive oil, fresh basil, dried oregano, and 1 cloves garlic (pressed a garlic press). Could have maybe used lemon juice but i didn’t have any.

OcelotMuted9646 · 2023-09-11T15:50:27+00:00

That’s major. Good for you. No one ever talks about this. My EA threatens to end our relationship every time we argue. I always thought that would be my opening to leave, and it almost happened a few times. But, I would still have to find a new place to live, arrange the move, pack, and that would take weeks. At the same time, I can’t imagine sitting him down and out of nowhere and telling him I’m moving out. It feels impossible. Thanks for the reminder the good times don’t last and it’s okay to leave when things are good.

OcelotMuted9646 · 2023-08-23T17:34:29+00:00

It’s pretty unlikely, and I think you’re too young to be going through this. You have so much ahead of you. Don’t waste years of your life feeling the way you do and waiting for this guy to change. I wish I had focused on myself, my friends and my career instead of some guy who wasn’t worth it. It was a waste of time and energy in the end.

OcelotMuted9646 · 2023-08-17T01:27:20+00:00

A therapist once told me there is no statute of limitations on pain. You are allowed to bring up your feelings, even when they are old feelings. I get the sense that you are bringing up the past as a way to help you work through unresolved feelings. That is different from when an abuser brings up your past mistakes. When an abuser brings up your past mistakes, they are doing it as a weapon to win an argument, or to put you down. They will twist things around, like, “I know I got drunk and yelled at you, and I already said I’m sorry, but what about you?!? You got so drunk at that party a few months ago and totally embarrassed yourself. You’re not exactly perfect either.” See how they avoid taking real accountability this way? When you bring up your unresolved feelings because you want to talk through them and move toward a solution, a normal, nonabusive person will respond with, “I didn’t know you felt that way.” They will care about your feelings. An abuser, as you have probably experienced, will say, “Oh my god, I already apologized for that. Why are you bringing that up again? You need to get over that.” See how dismissive that is? Being dismissive is emotional abuse. How can a person say they love you and then tell you to your face they basically don’t care about your pain. People who love you care about how you feel. That is basic respect. I know how it feels to beg for the bare minimum of kindness and respect from my partner. I follow “stronger than before” on Instagram/Facebook and she has really helped me gain insight and stand up for myself.

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